Friendship problem!!!

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Salaam,

I really need some advice on this. 6 months ago I broke up with my best friend....yeah 6 months. She has treated me like dirt ever since. But now she has changed the group she was with was a bad influence but alhamdulilah she has left them now. I want to make up and I have sooo much to tell her lol. But she is unbelievably (sp?) stubborn. Subhanallah! i don't know HOW she manages it!

The last time I tried to make up was a disaster. I'm scared to make the first move again! I've tried indirectly being nice...well I havn't been avoiding her anyway lol. She hangs around with my friends now. But she keeps her distance from me and I just want to break that barrier. Any suggestions?

Wasalaam
Khadijah
 
if shes stubborn make er listen wid force innit :?

lyk say 'will u liten to me for god's sake?!?!'

or u cud try ritin letters, dey help more dan wrds < altho i neva tried it :rollseyes :)

:w:
 
Yeah...a letter might help. She is very arrogant though I hate to say. She won't want to hurt her pride my making up. *sigh* Why do I have to be the sensible one?! lol
 
Baby_Pearl said:
Salaam,

I really need some advice on this. 6 months ago I broke up with my best friend....yeah 6 months. She has treated me like dirt ever since. But now she has changed the group she was with was a bad influence but alhamdulilah she has left them now. I want to make up and I have sooo much to tell her lol. But she is unbelievably (sp?) stubborn. Subhanallah! i don't know HOW she manages it!

The last time I tried to make up was a disaster. I'm scared to make the first move again! I've tried indirectly being nice...well I havn't been avoiding her anyway lol. She hangs around with my friends now. But she keeps her distance from me and I just want to break that barrier. Any suggestions?

Wasalaam
Khadijah
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Lol I used to be lyk dat 2, i NEVER mad the first move cos was waaaaayyyyyyyyy too stubborn, but in any relationship, if both are that way then obviously U not going to get anywhere now are ya....so I suggest you bury the hatchet first and then start afresh inshaAllah, hope its all gud with ya m8 now
 
Inshallah. *shakes head* Many people think I'm mad to want to make up after everything she did. But...I don't Know! lol
 
Baby_Pearl said:
Yeah...a letter might help. She is very arrogant though I hate to say. She won't want to hurt her pride my making up. *sigh* Why do I have to be the sensible one?! lol
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try pointin out her arrogance n er stubborness to er n tell er bout it n how u fell :happy: :) < may help :)

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Salaam.

You know what you could say?

Muslim brothers and sisters (friends) who break up and don't speak to each other for three days, Allah is displeased with them. And the one who makes the first move to reunite their friendship, get's more reward than the one who accepts it again. If anything, you'll end up arguning who wants to be the one who makes the first move and thus the ice would be broken.

Good luck with making up again.
 
I did it! I did it! Alhamdulilah Allah gave me the courage to just go up and talk to her! Alhamdulilah I am sooooooooo happy!
 
Baby_Pearl said:
I did it! I did it! Alhamdulilah Allah gave me the courage to just go up and talk to her! Alhamdulilah I am sooooooooo happy!
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Really? Alhamdulillah! So how did it go? :?
You don't need to tell details, but inshallah it went good. :)

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We were in P.E and we were sort of together and it was just a smile.

Then at break she was alone so I went up to her and asked if she was alright....2 minutes later it was like things had never changed! :D :D :D
 
Glad things went OK for you sister, SubhanAllah. Btw is your friend a Muslim?
 

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