Friendship with opposite gender?

[Salahudeen]

Ok let me explain a basic principle of Islam to everyone here, Alpha dude has all ready mentioned it but I feel the need to mention it again.

In Islam we don't put our own opinions forth when the Qur'an and Sunnah give us guidance on a matter. Islam has given us guidance on the matter of friendships with opposite gender and being friends with non muslims.

If you don't agree with Islam on these two matters, then "do you believe in a part of the Scripture and reject the rest? Then what is the recompense of those who do so among you, except disgrace in the life of this world, and on the Day of Resurrection they shall be consigned to the most grievous torment. And Allah is aware of what you do."

we follow everything whether or not it agree's with our own personal desires/opinions.

you may not like Islam's stance on a particular thing but that doesn't give you the right to put your own opinion forth as a Muslim, because Allah says in the Qur'an

"And whoever contradicts and opposes the Messenger (Muhammad ) after the right path has been shown clearly to him, and follows other than the believers' way. We shall keep him in the path he has chosen, and burn him in Hell - what an evil destination"

the messenger has clearly spoken on this matter, the path of the believers is clear on this matter.

if you don't agree with it or like it that's your problem, but don't put your own opinion forth and contend with the opinion of Allah and his rasool when the right path has been made clear.

Muslim by definition is 1 who submits to the commands of Allah, are you submitting when you put your own opinion forth and compete with the opinion of Allah and his messenger?

I think certain people need to go and look at the definition of the word "Muslim" then come back and realise that they're own opinion is worth nothing at all when it comes to the rulings of Islam.

as someone previously mentioned your personal experiences don't constitute a general ruling for all the Muslims' so please refrain from posting your personal experiences and saying there's nothing wrong with it.

cos PERSONAL EXPERIENCES DO NOT CONSTITUTE RULINGS,

rulings can only be made from the Qur'an and sunnah, and by disobeying those rulings you are disobeying Allah regardless if you don't see anything wrong with it.

since when did you begin receiving revelation from Allah that enabled you to have knowledge of what is harmful for the Muslims' and what isn't? so please keep your personal opinions to yourself if it contradicts what the Qur'an and sunnah preaches.

because a less knowledgeable Muslim might get influenced by your haraam opinion and then you will be accountable for it on the day of judgement.

I guess there is nothing wrong with putting your personal opinion forward when it clearly contradicts Qur'an and sunnah if you are a NON MUSLIM because then the thread OP won't get confused, he will understand that you are not a Muslim therefore your opinion might not conform with the Qur'an and sunnah.

But if you're a Muslim, please only put forth that which conforms with the Qur'an and sunnah. to avoid confusing Muslim's with your haraam personal opinion.

 

[Salahudeen]

S<chowdary quoted from the rules of this site.

There is no absolute freedom of speech here. Meaning, people can't come and say anti-Islamic stuff and have it allowed under the banner of freedom of speech. In the same manner, spreading misleading views is not allowed either.

This is nothing against new members. However, our faith is based upon two primary sources: Quran and hadith. If you have people speaking from their own opinion, then they are not really following Islam, are they? They are likely to spread their misguidance to other people too.

If a muslim comes and says 'alcohol doesn't make me go drunk, I don't believe it should be forbidden'. Does that make it ok? No. We go to the sources of Islam to really see if it is allowed or not and without a doubt, it is impermissible.

With regards to the intermingling with the opposite gender, it is clear where Islam stands. We're not allowed. Anyone who says otherwise, is not being true to what his religion says. He has corrupted his belief. There is no proof of his position. Therefore, you get these calls for 'bring your proof'.

Remember, we believe in Allah, then we follow what he tells us. We don't apply our whims and opinions on deen related stuff. It's irrational to say we are muslims, yet don't really follow what the two primary sources of Islam tell us.

Sister, this is not an issue of piety.

Everybody sins and noboy is perfect.

The issue is rather of belief itself. If you claim to believe in Islam, you cannot disregard certain aspects just because your opinion tells you otherwise. You believe in it all and anything else that goes against Islam, you throw away. Not the other way round. If you do that, then you're not being true to your faith.

If you believed 1+2 = 3 and if somewhere down the line you started believing 2 has a value of 8 instead, wouldn't you say that was misguided?

In the same way, if you accept that Allah is real and the message he sent the Prophet Muhammd SAW is real, then you accept that the Quran and Hadiths are our primary source of legislation in Islam. If you then come and say that your opinions override what is in the Quran/hadith, isn't that misguided?

Masha Allah, this is spot on, please people read this and understand it. YOUR OWN OPINION DOESN'T OVERRIDE WHAT IS IN THE QUR'AN AND HADITH

 

[Danah]

I call friendship with the opposite gender as getting the fuel close to the fire.

End of the story!

 

[Nokiacrazi]

I always love to speak to non Muslims, especially those who have criticisms of Islam. When speaking of religion to non Muslims, I like to ask them what they do not like about Islam, or think is wrong in it, rather then mention all that is good, as it is these 'bad' things which keeps them from accepting it.

We should always be kind and helpful even to those who are not, and if they have any questions on religion that we know the answer to we should try to answer insha'Allah.

As for the matter at hand, I have to agree with the sister above. It begins with friendship. Then satan does his work. Enough said. May Allah guide us.