From the day of knowledge until the day of marriage

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Hello my friends! Sorry for my late, but in last weeks i had a lot of commitments and I changed my home.
Through ads I found people who would like to help me for to "learn" the Islamic religion.... but in these days i feel very bad.
I spoke to some cattholic boy (not a practitioner) and he told me not so nice things about Islamic women: he said that my ideal of woman does not exist in the world, that here in Italy Muslim women are like Catholics women, that I must accept a woman who has had men because to have physical relationships is a normal thing, and so on.
I started to feel depressed....my life is ruined forever. Why continue to live? Why did God made me birth? I thought that Islam would save me from loneliness, from unhappiness, from the nightmare of never have my right woman with build an happy family.
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There are MANY pure and chaste Muslim women. There are also pure and chaste nonMuslim women as well. Don't put your hopes in what other people say. If a girl can freely talk to you about her sexual experiences in person, then this is a shameless girl. I suggest you refrain from talking to other women about this topic or even at all.

If you want to become a Muslim, then become one. Learn the basics of Islam, practice, pray, etc. and you will be able to know what a chaste woman looks and acts like. If you freely talk to women, then your opinion of women will be formed by those who you talk to, and so far, they don't seem that great.
 
Thanks Charisma,
but at this point I dont believe that Islam can be the light of salvation that I thought it was.

If my destiny will be to be cheated on fake purity of my future wife, if my research has to be labeled as "unhealth mindset", if my desire should be scolded by those who say that "if she regret you must accept her, where is the problem if she had other men?" .... oh no no no no.... this isnt what I expected.

Catholic people have never understood my drama, they have never tried to put themselves in my shoes. They always mortified me making me feel wrong, because they knew I had touched their weakness and they defended themselves by telling me that my mind is sick.

They have always judged my choices, on my choice of purity: the same is happening here, with the Islamic community.

I spent the whole summer trying to study the Qur'an, learning the hadiths, listening the nasheeds...and I turned to you muslims asking for TRUTH.

I want to be free to make my choices, right or wrong, and I dont want anyone to tell me that my ideas are sick. And if I had decided to approach Islam it was because the Quran had illustrated to me the world I have always dreamed of living.

I was wrong, again, as happened with the Catholic religion.
 
Seems like you are looking for al-hoor al-‘iyn (maidens of paradise) whom no man or jinn has seen nor touched.

“Verily, We have created them (maidens) of special creation.
And made them virgins.
Loving (their husbands only), (and) of equal age”
[al-Waaqi’ah 56:35-37]


“Wherein both will be those (maidens) restraining their glances upon their husbands,
Whom no man or jinn have touched before them.
[ar-Rahmaan 55:56-58]


Don't set your standards up on some unrealistic views of women and then assume no one like that exists.

You won't find any hoors on earth. You will find chaste good women who have kept themselves pure for marriage. And if you want hoors then only those making it to paradise will get them, but turning away from Islam won't get you there.
 
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Artic090 said:
Thanks Charisma,
but at this point I dont believe that Islam can be the light of salvation that I thought it was.

If my destiny will be to be cheated on fake purity of my future wife, if my research has to be labeled as "unhealth mindset", if my desire should be scolded by those who say that "if she regret you must accept her, where is the problem if she had other men?" .... oh no no no no.... this isnt what I expected.

Catholic people have never understood my drama, they have never tried to put themselves in my shoes. They always mortified me making me feel wrong, because they knew I had touched their weakness and they defended themselves by telling me that my mind is sick.

They have always judged my choices, on my choice of purity: the same is happening here, with the Islamic community.

I spent the whole summer trying to study the Qur'an, learning the hadiths, listening the nasheeds...and I turned to you muslims asking for TRUTH.

I want to be free to make my choices, right or wrong, and I dont want anyone to tell me that my ideas are sick. And if I had decided to approach Islam it was because the Quran had illustrated to me the world I have always dreamed of living.

I was wrong, again, as happened with the Catholic religion.
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Your choice but now ignorance won't be an excuse for you on the Day of Judgement.
 

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