From What Age Are You Allowed To Marry In Islam?

[Amadeus85]

In Poland you must be over 18 to be allowed to get married.Sexual contacts at age lower than 16 are forbidden by law. And I think that it is good law.

 

[snakelegs]

i think here a lot of kids start much earlier than 16. i don't think there is any law against it, providing that both are underage.

 

[syilla]

marriage is not allowed...but lots of 16 age kids have sex :hmm:

In Malaysia you have to be 16 over to get married. Or you'll be charged for having sex with minor.

 

[Ninth_Scribe]

I have seen them pass birth control pills to 11 year olds, and I have seen pregnant 12 year olds.. think if they can have sex, frankly they should be married..

Exactly! They hand out birth control pills here - without the consent of her parents, but if she gets pregnant, they usually go after the family. What's wrong with that picture?

The Ninth Scribe

 

[glo]

I say get married when you are good and ready..
I have seen them pass birth control pills to 11 year olds, and I have seen pregnant 12 year olds.. think if they can have sex, frankly they should be married..

Just to clarify ... I would be very concerned if my 13-year-old daughter was sexually active, full stop - inside of marriage or out of.

 

[Nájlá]

i think the best age to get married is between 18 and over

 

[جوري]

Just to clarify ... I would be very concerned if my 13-year-old daughter was sexually active, full stop - inside of marriage or out of.

I am not disagreeing with that.. but your life style wouldn't for instance reconcile with some parts of Africa where the life expectancy is 44 yrs of ages and there is a very high mortality rate in infants. I merely bring this to the table, because it has become western standard of some to mock the values and life style of others. In fact, this wasn't only the norm, but here in the west 'raising the age's of consent was as recent as last century and as you can see, 7 was the age of consent in some states like Delaware. And there will be people who will still be pregnant at 13 with or without marriage.. what can I say-- different strokes for different folks, in different centuries and in different countries.. marrying young isn't so outlandish, and neither is marrying old.

peace!

 

[Qingu]

I am not disagreeing with that.. but your life style wouldn't for instance reconcile with some parts of Africa where the life expectancy is 44 yrs of ages and there is a very high mortality rate in infants. I merely bring this to the table, because it has become western standard of some to mock the values and life style of others. In fact, this wasn't only the norm, but here in the west 'raising the age's of consent was as recent as last century and as you can see, 7 was the age of consent in some states like Delaware. And there will be people who will still be pregnant at 13 with or without marriage.. what can I say-- different strokes for different folks, in different centuries and in different countries.. marrying young isn't so outlandish, and neither is marrying old.

peace!

I think criticism of such cultural norms is well-founded, however. 9-year old girls may be able to get pregnant and may physically be able to have sex, but it is doubtful that any 9 year old person is rationally capable of dealing with marraige, and the choices responsibilities it entails.

Most parents, for example, don't let their 9-year olds drive cars, even if they're tall enough and could pass a driver's test. We don't let 9-year-olds make decisions about their education, or the food they eat, or the movies they watch, or (in most cases) their religion.

Also, teenagers and younger children are much easier to manipulate than adults. This is why most child sexual abuse happens—not through violence, or because kids are physically overpowered, but because they are emotionally manipulated into doing something they wouldn't ordinarily do with an adult.

 

[جوري]

I think criticism of such cultural norms is well-founded, however. 9-year old girls may be able to get pregnant and may physically be able to have sex, but it is doubtful that any 9 year old person is rationally capable of dealing with marraige, and the choices responsibilities it entails.

Times have changed from 1885-1920, the cultures that you'd need to criticize in this instance would be western ones as well, as cited 'age of consent' in the state of Delaware was 7 not even 9, i.e pre-menarche

Most parents, for example, don't let their 9-year olds drive cars, even if they're tall enough and could pass a driver's test. We don't let 9-year-olds make decisions about their education, or the food they eat, or the movies they watch, or (in most cases) their religion.

I don't think 'driving' is/was an issue at that point, as you have just stated in your other thread, the advances of our time might appear to those 400 years ago as sorcery.. times have changed and expectations have changed, but there are many who still live with tribal customs, just turn on the 'travel chanel' on your TV sometimes, you'd be surprised how many still exist. I think they'd probably laugh at your suggestion of education and cars, when they barely have adequate clothes.

Also, teenagers and younger children are much easier to manipulate than adults. This is why most child sexual abuse happens—not through violence, or because kids are physically overpowered, but because they are emotionally manipulated into doing something they wouldn't ordinarily do with an adult.

That is very possible and probable... but still happens in the civilized west.. here is a case of a 16 year old girl marrying her 40 year old teacher
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,285794,00.html

as well as tons of other cases, not making this an exclusive event or even just limited under privileged regions..


cheers

 

[syilla]

lol...my grandmother married at the age of 9...

she died at the age of 72.

But my grandfather died at the 45.

She is all alone...after my grandfather died...but she missed him so much. They did have a very happy marriage.


lol...sorry for sharing my life experience :X. Just thinking about her...miss her so much. Al-fatihah .

 

[جوري]

lol...my grandmother married at the age of 9...

she died at the age of 72.

But my grandfather died at the 45.

She is all alone...after my grandfather died...but she missed him so much. They did have a very happy marriage.


lol...sorry for sharing my life experience :X. Just thinking about her...miss her so much. Al-fatihah .

Allah yer7mha sis, never regret sharing yourself, I find it very human and endearing.. I too lost my grandmother, who was married at 14, her husband died when she was 36.. I never had a chance to see my grandad, either grandads actually.. but she was a hell of a lady, and truly ahead of her times in so many ways..
Allah ye7am Amwat ilmoslmeen wa yelhmna as'sabr wa silwan

 

[NoName55]

you could marry under islamic rules, without informing the british law. after hitting puberty tho! so its normal for 2 people even in britian to get married at an age of as low as 16, i havent see alot of 15 or lower, but it probally happens, non muslim people usually refer to it as boyfriend-girlfriend, we refer to it as marriage i see no difference except one stops the spread of corruption. hopes this answers ur question, and allah knows best!. forgive me for any spelling mistake i type careless and fast

wrong, incorrect!

marriages without registration can have and have had very tragic consequences.

Those who do not wish to follow the rules laid down by British Law makers are free to emigrate to someplace else.

A marriage must be registered to be valid or it is no different than an illicit affair

 

[Mikayeel]

wrong, incorrect!

marriages without registration can have and have had very tragic consequences.

Those who do not wish to follow the rules laid down by British Law makers are free to emigrate to someplace else.

A marriage must be registered to be valid or it is no different than an illicit affair

oke, explain to me a young couple is desperate to get married, but cant do so under the british law, but they are allowed under ISLAMIC LAW, so they get married in a mosque!, what is your advice to them?, and at an later age they can register them self married under the british law.

 

[syilla]

:salamext:

Did anyone read the news about the britney spears sister...i don't really know her name.

That she wants to get married to her boyfriend because she is pregnant. Btw she is only 16.

 

[NoName55]

oke, explain to me a young couple is desperate to get married, but cant do so under the british law, but they are allowed under ISLAMIC LAW, so they get married in a mosque!, what is your advice to them?, and at an later age they can register them self married under the british law.

are they going to lie to the registrar at a later date? now lying is Islamic too?

 

[Malaikah]

In Poland you must be over 18 to be allowed to get married.Sexual contacts at age lower than 16 are forbidden by law. And I think that it is good law.

Wow! Seriously? In Australia it is 10 years old!:skeleton:

A marriage must be registered to be valid or it is no different than an illicit affair

It would be an illicit affair by British law not Islamic law so it makes no difference, and they aren't breaking the law unless they are below the consent age when they got Islamically married.

 

[NoName55]

Wow! Seriously? Is Australia it is 10 years old!:skeleton:


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wrong as usual! I guess if ain't found at Islamqa some people are lost and are reduced to making it all up http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm

Australia ACT ..................16
Australia NSW & Norfolk Is. 16
Australia NT ....................16
Australia Queensland1 .......16/18
Australia SA ....................17
Australia Tasmania ...........17
Australia Victoria ..............16
Australia WA ....................16

It would be an illicit affair by British law not Islamic law so it makes no difference, and they aren't breaking the law unless they are below the consent age when they got Islamically married

wrong and confusing, again

 

[genki]

age of puberty is the answer.

But im sure many of us agree that age of puberty doesnt necessarily mean YOU SHOULD marry. A boy might hit puberty at age say 12 but inside and out hes still a boy and has a mindset of a child. Id say wait a little longer.

On that note though age of marriage varies throughout the world. In russia I think its 14 with consent?

Personally I would never marry a 14 or someone in their teens because most likely theyd be selfish and childish. Maybe upper late teens18-19 if they are adult enough and responsible and mature.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Personally I would never marry a 14 or someone in their teens because most likely theyd be selfish and childish. Maybe upper late teens18-19 if they are adult enough and responsible and mature.

I think that would depend on how they grew up/'level' of maturity . some teenages are really mature for their age.

 

[Malaikah]

wrong as usual! I guess if aint at Islamqa some peeps are lost and reduced to making it all up

No, you are wrong. Did you ever even consider the possiblilty that you might be wrong before you insulted me so pathetically?

Anyone from the age in of 10 to 15 years is permitted with have sex as long as their partner is no more than two years older than them. (This does vary in some states)