gambling help!

[no1]

assalamualaykum

my gambling addiction i fear is going to break me down
i am still young (19) but to be honest i have had a bad gambling addiction from a even younger age!
i am not proud of this, i didn't even want to post this here but i think its necessary now

i have managed to cut down a lot and i am proud about that but i still gamble, mainly because when i have nothing to do it crops up in my mind.
i want to completely banish this thought but i'm not sure on how i could do this.

i realized this yesterday night when i lost £80, i feel bad about this but to be honest this is nothing compared to how much i used to splash before i started cutting down. but that is no excuse for me and i know this.

i've come here to get some advice because i really do genuinely want to stop.
i can stop for long periods of time but then after i see myself saving i just think to myself "i might aswell go for a little while ive got nothing else to do!"
i just cant stop this thought and i really do hate my greed which needs cutting down

any feedback is welcome no matter how harsh because i know im wrong!
jazakAllah

 

[Lonely Gal]

what is the satisfaction u get from it? is there a deeper root which is why u gamble and its bcome an addiction?
u need to be strong and follow thru with ur aims.. let some one else control ur money for a short time and see how that goes.. find another interest that u can occupy ur time with..find a support group maybe?

 

[marwen]

Do you have a job ?
If not, try to get a job and earn money the halal way.
If you have gambling friends, keep away from them, and try to get better friends.
Make a strong will to give up this habit and seek help from Allah.

May Allah guide us all to the right way.

 

[no1]

i have a job, im at university and i have my hands full with alot of things most of the time, but when i have nothing to do i literally have nothing to do and the face that its always there is actually quite annoying.
i cant really trust anyone else with my bank card and even if i gave it to my parents they would get curious of why im giving my card to them to hold on to
i really do hate the issue i am in i actually dont know where i can go to find a support group as i think this would be quite good.

thank you for the replies

 

[Woodrow]

assalamualaykum

my gambling addiction i fear is going to break me down
i am still young (19) but to be honest i have had a bad gambling addiction from a even younger age!
i am not proud of this, i didn't even want to post this here but i think its necessary now

i have managed to cut down a lot and i am proud about that but i still gamble, mainly because when i have nothing to do it crops up in my mind.
i want to completely banish this thought but i'm not sure on how i could do this.

i realized this yesterday night when i lost £80, i feel bad about this but to be honest this is nothing compared to how much i used to splash before i started cutting down. but that is no excuse for me and i know this.

i've come here to get some advice because i really do genuinely want to stop.
i can stop for long periods of time but then after i see myself saving i just think to myself "i might aswell go for a little while ive got nothing else to do!"
i just cant stop this thought and i really do hate my greed which needs cutting down

any feedback is welcome no matter how harsh because i know im wrong!
jazakAllah

Gambling is a lifetime addiction. Like all addictions it can not be cured, nor even needs to be cured. It can be controlled and turned into a beneficial trait. The same traits that make a person a gambler are also the same traits that drive a person into extreme sports such as mountain climbing, Rappelling, sky diving, etc or into high risk occupations such as pilots, Military leaders, political leaders, religious leaders, animal trainers, etc.

Most if not all great people would have never achieved greatness if they did not have the gambling trait and used it constructively in the form of needed, constructive risk taking.

The first step is to pray for guidance and do Du'as to direct your gambling desires to be used as constructive Risk Taking. Seek out a high risk career that is Halal and beneficial. Seek to use your traits to serve Allaah(swt) and the urge for simple, stupid, destructive gambling will fade and eventually become a memory of a dumb juvenile act.

May Allaah(swt) grant you the wisdom to become a leader and stop being a follower of material pleasure.

 

[no1]

ameen

i dont think you could have put it any better!
i guess im going to have to start thinking of gambling as you said "simple, stupid, destructive gambling"
thats the best way forward

 

[Woodrow]

ameen

i dont think you could have put it any better!
i guess im going to have to start thinking of gambling as you said "simple, stupid, destructive gambling"
thats the best way forward

Mashallah, you show great desire to turn your life around. It is in my Du'as that you will find the benefits and happiness by turning these desires into a constructive trait that brings benefit and pleases Allaah(swt)

 

[no1]

this is one of my main issues
i have all the desire, i even carry t out for a couple/few months
but then it all gets undone slowly

 

[Woodrow]

this is one of my main issues
i have all the desire, i even carry t out for a couple/few months
but then it all gets undone slowly

Addictions, especially psychological addictions will always be with us. They are one of the most difficult trials we face. All psychological addictions have somethings in common.

1. We believe we are in control of them and can repeat them one time, after we have left them.

2. The craving is always there and becomes more noticable during times of stress or sadness

3. The more we try to stop thinking about it the stronger becomes our desire to stop, after one last time. (but one last time will never come)

The only way to end the addictions to direct the traits that feed them into constructive outlets. This same addiction can be changed to an addiction to that which is pure and beneficial.

Having an addiction is normal, the goal is to make it an addiction of that which is constructive and beneficial.

 

[no1]

what would you suggest is beneficial?? i really cant think of anything
and i was about to go to the casino just a hour ago and i thought to my self gambling is simple, stupid and destructive
JazakAllah

 

[Woodrow]

what would you suggest is beneficial?? i really cant think of anything
and i was about to go to the casino just a hour ago and i thought to my self gambling is simple, stupid and destructive
JazakAllah

Anything can become addictive.

Some choices for beneficial addictions

Reading
creative writing
calligraphy
The quest for knowledge

Now things that can satisfy those cravings, if given a try:

Study to become Hafiz
Begin a sincere study of the Qur'an
Start a part time home halal business (the money used for gambling can be the initial operating capital)
Write a biography about your introduction to gambling and the difficulties and pleasures it brought
Learn a new skill, go to your nearest small airport and check out taking flying lessons

 

[happy]

When someone want to change something it is not simple but it will take time and efford so i suggest that when you have nothing to do find lecture about the deen to listen or do other activities.Seek the help of Allah by making dua cuz he is the one that can remove this from you.

 

[aadil77]

assalamualaykum

my gambling addiction i fear is going to break me down
i am still young (19) but to be honest i have had a bad gambling addiction from a even younger age!
i am not proud of this, i didn't even want to post this here but i think its necessary now

Bruv I know it can be addictive espec when you win some, but think about it - the money you get is haram, you can't do nothing with it. Just stop the root of the problem, if you're going to casino's then make it difficult for yourself to get there, if its mates that get you to go with them - try and avoid them or tell them you wanna stop, if its online then find some way to make it hard for you to use the comp