Assalamualaikum
I have a predicament I would like some advice on. Basically I know my father gambles, and he asks me for money in order to do it. He never tells me he gambles with it, but my suspicions lie there as he is known to go to the casino every sunday night, then his bank account is clean on monday morning, meaning he clears out his own benefit money for the purpose of gambling.
My question is, should I give him the money if my father asks for it, even tho i suspect it is going to haram means? Or is there a level of respect I must give and give him the money anyway. What is the entitlement of a father over his childrens money?
Asalaamu Alaikum, the following answers your question:
Father gambles and wastes money
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Indeed it is the prescribed duty of the child to love, honor, serve and be humble to his parents in Islam.
But if one fears that his father gambles with the money, or abuses it in any of the things which are declared Haraam by Allah and His Messenger (saws); the child is not duty bound to fund or facilitate these evil habits with his hard-earned money.
The child must strive to pay for the upkeep of his parents in an equitable way; but if he refuses to service, fund or facilitate his father’s evil habits of the haraam, there will be absolutely no sin on him.
But you must still honor and respect your father as ordained by Allah Subhanah in all other aspects of his life. If polite counseling does not work, there is absolutely no sin on the son if he talks to the bank or the people who loan the money to his father than in future he will not be responsible or repay the debts his father might take for his evil habit of gambling, etc.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Source:http://www.islamhelpline.net/node/1635
Brother you should try and get your father help because he has a serious addiction. This addiction may well lead him to hell if he does not give it up as soon as possible for death can strike at any second particularly if one is old then they should be more concerned. You should continue to treat him with the utmost honour and respct for he is your father and you will be rewarded for being patient with him and treating him the best regardless of how he treats you or behaves and your reward is with Allah. But you and your family must encourage and push him to get help because he really needs it.
Make sincere dua for him particularly in the latter part of the nights at Tahajjud time or just before Suhur for Allah to guide your father and help him to stop such an evil and destructive addiction.
May Allah guide your father to the straight path and enable him to stop such a terrible habit. Ameen
