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markislam said:
Gave my wife a divorce today islamically hew

it was hard for me.

i thought about it a lot before i did it.

the problem is she still talks to me like as if nothing happened.

i want to wait 7 months to give a legal divorce she is in school right now so i want to wait till she finishes.
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She still talks to you like nothing happened.....because "A" she's in denial and "B" she still LOVES YOU!
 
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Bro i am very sad to hear that.But i do know under what circumstances you did that.I am very sorry for what you have lost. But my prayers are with you bro . May allah grant you and your family support in this tough times .

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I agree with Bro Zakirs..
I am really sorry Mark, you have had quite a difficult year and I am not sure how much support you are receiving in real life..

just know that with every difficulty comes ease insha'Allah..

I am sure things will work out one way or the other..

keep the faith.. and I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers..

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Dear Mark,

This is a great secrifice you presented before Allah, and He is alone can reward you in very beautiful and admiring way.

My prayers are with you.
 
:sl: I will remember you in my prayers bro. May Allah compensate your loss with a happy and bright future. Ameen.
 
Italianguy said:
She still talks to you like nothing happened.....because "A" she's in denial and "B" she still LOVES YOU!
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And my guess is "C" an islamic divorce has no meaning for her. Once the legal divorce comes through, that may be different ...

Mark, how are you going to come to an agreement about who will raise the children, and how?

Peace be with you and your family.
 
it is really heart breaking for me to do this, she burst out when i said i divorce her, I cannot see a woman cry, i know she is in a state of denial, she did not eat anything all of yesterday. She was in her room just praying and reading the bible.

I want to take joint custody of my daughter and i want to be in her life very much, i want her to have the love of her dad, and never feel her dad left her and her mom.

But again God comes first then family.

Please keep us in our prayers and especially her as she needs all the prayers.

Islamically we are divorced but legally we are still husband and wife.

I will be there with her and support her in her studies.
 
Wow this is some heavy stuff...Sorry im new on this forum and don't know you or your situation but i'll keep you in my Dua. I came to learn that Allah swt sets some strange paths for us. Paths we don't understand while we are on them. But at the finishline you look back and all falls into place. And remember Allah swt doesn't give you more then you can handle. You must be a strong brother then!

Salaam and may Allah swt help you trough your difficult times. Ameen
 
I'll make dua for you all.

May Allah make it easy for you brother during this extremely difficult time.
 
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markislam said:
Islamically we are divorced but legally we are still husband and wife.
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Can u describe how did u divorce her ? To my knowledge , during her Iddat time ( 3 cycles of period ) , she is still your wife.

Forgive my poor memory , I don't remeber now why u wanted to divorce her ? A Muslim man is allowed to have a Christian wife.

May Allah grant what is good for your hereafter , Ameen.
 
Really sorry to hear about your divorce bro. Seems like she still loves you if she is still talking to you as if nothing happened.

I hope it works out for you Inshallah.
 
Inna Lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji’oon (Verily to Allah we belong and unto Him is our return)

“but give glad tidings to As‑ Saabiroon (the patient).

156. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: ‘Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.’

157. They are those on whom are the Salawaat (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided ones”

[al-Baqarah 2:155-157]

I will also keep you ,your wife and your daughter in my prayers

May Allah reward you and make it easy for you and guide your wife to the straight path
 
maybe after all of this she will come to know her human god is bringing nothing but bad luck in her life cos shes lost her husband over her belief. mark im feeling u did the right thing and theres nothing much more u could have done cos she'd probably would have tried to drag u down with her and reverts have to be careful. people have gone back to disbelief after these big heavy problems. divorce is not easy..:wa:
 
awws, well you must have contemplated about it long and hard, and may allah make this time easy for you both inshallah

and yes she is in denial because she can't believe it and loves you still...
 
yes she is in a state of denial she is so happy today calling me baby i love you etc , as if nothing happened. she is a wonderful woman very hard to find women like that now a days. she says God choose me as her husband.

Well i have 7 months so i will slowly make her know the truth so it will sink in her.

I still respect her and do things for her.

the biggest storm is from my family, when i file for the legal divorce

thanks all for your concern and duas
 
i am so sorry to hear about this - may allah grant you patience and happiness. ameen.
 
it's really hard for me thinking of it, i dont know what the future holds for me or my daughter or my ex wife.

but again time does not wait for any one

we all are visitors in this world, there were so many who were before us who lived on this earth and no long live on this earth now. There is no point fretting or worrying about things which are not in our control.
 
markislam said:
it's really hard for me thinking of it, i dont know what the future holds for me or my daughter or my ex wife.

but again time does not wait for any one

we all are visitors in this world, there were so many who were before us who lived on this earth and no long live on this earth now. There is no point fretting or worrying about things which are not in our control.
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You're right and we should all remember that, may Allah make things easier for you bro Markislam.
salam