Gave my wife a divorce

[Abdul Fattah]

Selam aleykum
Oh mark, my heart goes out for you. It's good that you face up to reality, but don't loose hope as well. Be patient and have faith in Allah subhana wa ta'ala; he is the best of planners. Don't forget the best you can do for her is make dua, and set a good example. May Allah guide your wife to the truth; and relieve you both from this stressful and painful situation.

 

[glo]

yes she is in a state of denial she is so happy today calling me baby i love you etc , as if nothing happened. she is a wonderful woman very hard to find women like that now a days. she says God choose me as her husband.

Mark, I was reading back to some of your earlier posts in August, when you were talking about how difficult the relationship between you and your wife was.

Judging by how you speak about your (ex-)wife now, it sounds to me like your love has grown for each other since then.
Sometimes God works in the most unexpected ways!

 

[Humbler_359]

Mark,

I think you are doing correct things. Always patient and respect woman.

I totally agree with you. May Allah keep you easily and don't make you burden heavily on your shoulder. :statisfie

 

[KittenLover]

Mark we go through trials in this life and it's hard at times but you have to remember when your feeling sad and disappointed about this life that it was never meant to be perfect cos it's only a test.

If everything was how we wanted it wouldn't be much of a test. the real life of the here after is the life where everything is the way you want it and it's forever, much better than this temporary enjoyment/sadness we find ourselves in at times

Just keep giving her dawah and pointing out the facts to her.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

I'm trying to help him understand that divorce will not make anything better. I want him to stay with the wife, for the daughters sake. It will be veryyyy hard for the daughter to grow up without the mother. So if he would be more open about what the reason is then we can give him better advice and support him further. I would consider it a very selfish act if he did the divorce for himself or for God.

You should follow all of Mark's posts before making your comments or asking other people how old they are?

Obeying God is above all even your parents (should they ask you to do something that disobeys God) it isn't a matter of having spoken to him and certainly not the topic to be discussed for the purpose here. His wife amongst other reasons mocks his new faith and refuses to allow their daughter to be raised as a Muslim. He has in fact been quite patient and allowing with her from serving bacon to putting up a Christmas tree and everything there is in between. If marriage is about compromise, then quite frankly what sacrifices has she made? She isn't willing to accept his faith, that is all fine, but why isn't she allowing him the freedom to practice his faith without reproach and share it with his daughter?

In the end he comes here asking that we make du'a for her, for she needs it more than him, and all many can do as I have seen done, especially by the non-Muslims on board is sympathize with her.

Sometimes when no middle ground is achieved a divorce is the best option obviously he is the best judge of his life and his wife. I don't think anyone here has pushed him to such a decision and certainly divorce is an allowed matter in Islam so folks who are miserable with one another can have another chance to be happy with someone else. All that is of concern here, is his little girl, for I dread to think of how her mother will malign Mark and his new faith to this little girl to get her to accept Christianity, and for that I do hope if she is unyielding that he at least gets full or part custody so his daughter can learn first hand of his views!

 

[Muhammad]

I am sorry to hear about the difficulty you are facing, Mark.

May Allaah (swt) make it easy for you and give you the strength and patience to accept whatever He has decreed for you, Aameen.

 

[zakirs]

we all are visitors in this world, there were so many who were before us who lived on this earth and no long live on this earth now. There is no point fretting or worrying about things which are not in our control.

Mark you are very right. May Allah guide your wife and make it easy on your family .
All the best bro. Don't worry about the future i am pretty sure you will get through this.

 

[markislam]

Thank you all for your concern and duas.

I will be going for a joint custody of my daughter.

I remember one verse from the bible which Jesus said (pbuh)

it says

"No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money."

"If anyone wishes to be a follower of mine, he must leave self behind; day after day he must take up his cross, and come with me." Luke 9.23. Matt. 16.24. Mark 8.34

" As they were going along the road a man said to him, 'I will follow you wherever you go.' Jesus answered, 'Foxes have their holes, the birds their roosts; but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head.' To another he said, 'Follow me,' but the man replied, 'Let me go and bury my father first.' Jesus said, 'Leave the dead to bury their dead; you must go and announce the kingdom of God.'

"Yet another said, 'I will follow you, sir; but let me first say good-bye to my people at home.' To him Jesus said, 'No one who sets his hand to the plough and then keeps looking back is fit for the kingdom of God.' " Luke 9.57-62

If you want to serve God don't worry about this world and what it has to offer you.

 

[Danah]

I am sorry to hear about this. May Allah make things easier for you, our duaas and prayers are all go for you.

 

[glo]

How are things with you and your family, Mark?
We haven't heard from you in a while ...

I hope things are working out for the better for all of you.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

:salamext:

Yeah how have things been?

I wanted to write you an email but you hardly get back to me!