Re: Terrified?
Just about to leave home for the first time to go to College or University? Often this can be a terrifying experience when you wonder:
What will I do if I get ill?
Will I make any friends?
How will I do my cooking and shopping?
Will I be able to manage my money?
Will I be able to cope with what I have to learn?
Will I get drawn into bad things?
etc.
Well the first thing to realise is that you are not alone, every other person you meet will be feeling the same things and some will feel much worse that you. Secondly, millions of others have trodden this road before and got through it more or less unscathed.
So what can you do?
1. Say hello to people, smile at people that will help you and them.
2. Try to make a little plan for your first few weeks, what you will do, where you will go, what food you will buy, register with a doctor, etc. You will find I think that doing this will settle your mind and put you at ease. You don't have to follow the plan rigidly but the very act of making it will add some structure to your new experiences.
3. Don't go mad and spend all you grant or money in one go on things that you do not need and don't fall into the trap of convincing yourself that that nice new Ipod or Stereo is essential - never buy on impulse or let some salesman convince you, take your time, if you rush things you will regret it. Make a budget and try to stick to it.
4. I have said this before but Christian Unions and Islamic societies, faith societies are good places to be so look out for these and it is certain you will make good friends there.
Look out also for the local Churches and Mosques because you will find a ready welcome there and so become part of the local community. I am not sure about Mosques (but I expect its the same) but most local Churches will have students schemes and will often link you if you wish with local families so you can get invited out to lunch frequently (that avoids your own cooking!)
5. Your University and university city will have art galleries, cinemas, theatres and in general cultural activities of all sorts. Almost always you can get tickets at very good rates so take a little time to find out what is in your area. Just to give an example, I know Southampton quite well and even if we exclude the city then just on the campus there is an art gallery, a theatre and a concert hall. I would add that these are not minor entities but host concerts by internationally recognised artists in Jazz to Beethoven and everything in between.
6. Finally, look forward to this new phase of your life and believe that God is in it with you. Don't waste time and energy saying 'if only' or 'it is not as good as' - you are there so now make the most of that opportunity.