Girlfreind?

[IbnAbdulHakim]

i dunno where ur parents are
i mean i know its not my problem but its just somthing nice 2 do

but ill try no 2 now!!!!

yeah dont worry, the girl will be allright inshaAllaah. If shes scared of being harassed then she can wear a hijaab, and if shes scared of gangsters then im sure if she talks to her family they will sort something out. Dont worry...


and listen...

shaytaan will come whisperin to you a MILLION reasons not to listen to Allaah, best thing to do is obey Allaah and seek refuge in Allaah from the shaytaan, that lil shaytaan always trying to mislead us.. dont let him brO!

 

[qassy!]

i just abit long corious why im not allowed to chat 2 my cousins as well

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

i just abit long corious why im not allowed to chat 2 my cousins as well

just keep it really formal, dont start jokin around too much and stuff.

lol dont completely ignore them, thats rude, i mean they are family. but NEVER stay alone with them!!!


Assalamu Alaikum

 

[Kittygyal]

Salam

In Islam are we allowed to have girl freinds?? Its nothing got up do with adultey or I will never it go that way. I just need to know as I want to change my life around and become a good muslim

Also if where not allowed can I ask why??

Thank you

Salam

Salamualikum.

They tend to break ya heart or you tend to be in tears. Why have Gyalfriends/Boyfriends? obviously at that stage you get to know eachother soo well and then satan tells you to do bad things and at that moment of time satan is the third person with you. If your that desperate then get married stop mingling around with opposite gender.
It's up to Allaah and we follow Allaah commandments and it's NOT allowed in Islam and there's NO 'BUT , AND , IF' it's forbidden in Islam for a reason so end off.

Ma'assalama

 

[Pk_#2]

i just abit long corious why im not allowed to chat 2 my cousins as well

Huh, Who said that?, lemme ask ma gal-mates if they know anything about this, 'ang on.

 

[qassy!]

Huh, Who said that?, lemme ask ma gal-mates if they know anything about this, 'ang on.

someone on this forum if there girls i cant chat 2 them i mean proper like txt/call etc etc

just keep it really formal, dont start jokin around too much and stuff.

lol dont completely ignore them, thats rude, i mean they are family. but NEVER stay alone with them!!!


Assalamu Alaikum

but im always joking with them etc etc going out somtimes with them etc etc

i just dont know WHY its haram there cousins

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

someone on this forum if there girls i cant chat 2 them i mean proper like txt/call etc etc



but im always joking with them etc etc going out somtimes with them etc etc

i just dont know WHY its haram there cousins

its because your allowed to marry them lol, and you cant be 250% sure that they dont have feelings for you... just trust me on this one bro. im not talking from air... trust me.. you might get shocked but it happens !

 

[Kittygyal]

someone on this forum if there girls i cant chat 2 them i mean proper like txt/call etc etc



but im always joking with them etc etc going out somtimes with them etc etc

i just dont know WHY its haram there cousins

Salamualikum.
Your making a fuss mate. RELAX and have a coffee!

Look, you can talk to your cousins but not joke away in such away because you can marry them, sometimes people joke soo much and they forget what day it is. Remember just chat to your cousins 'Gyals' like maybe give them salam or ask them 'how r u' and stuff but there's a limit. Don't talk rubbish to them or don't glare at them. Always stay firmly away from opposite gender cause even though they might be ur cousins satan can tell you to do all sorts.

Ma'assalama

 

[Pk_#2]

its because your allowed to marry them lol, and you cant be 250% sure that they dont have feelings for you... just trust me on this one bro. im not talking from air... trust me.. you might get shocked but it happens !

Urrgh you paki machli,

Anyway bro Qas, why the *bleep* would you want to text or call cousin sisters? Get a girl! I mean don't, just get a life, get closer with your cousin brothers, tada and it will all fall into place.

 

[Noor 13]

You can not go out with your cousins because you can marry them. You can talk to them in a formal way but that's about it. The only women you are allowd to go out with are
Your Wife
Your daughters
your Mother
Your Sisters and half Sisters
Your aunts
Your mother in law
Your Grandmother
and that's about it. If you want to get your life sorted stop going out and hanging out with girls. It is not permitted in Islam

 

[qassy!]

its because your allowed to marry them lol, and you cant be 250% sure that they dont have feelings for you... just trust me on this one bro. im not talking from air... trust me.. you might get shocked but it happens !

lol? i dont care im not marying my cousins!!

Salamualikum.
Your making a fuss mate. RELAX and have a coffee!

Look, you can talk to your cousins but not joke away in such away because you can marry them, sometimes people joke soo much and they forget what day it is. Remember just chat to your cousins 'Gyals' like maybe give them salam or ask them 'how r u' and stuff but there's a limit. Don't talk rubbish to them or don't glare at them. Always stay firmly away from opposite gender cause even though they might be ur cousins satan can tell you to do all sorts.

Ma'assalama

I dont want to marry them!!! thats sick man!

what do you mean glare? look @ them in that way? i never do that :raging:

Urrgh you paki machli,

Anyway bro Qas, why the *bleep* would you want to text or call cousin sisters? Get a girl! I mean don't, just get a life, get closer with your cousin brothers, tada and it will all fall into place.

I got a girl who im going to get rid off cuz im gonna follow islam

whats wrong with calling texts cousins?

 

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:salamext:

i just abit long corious why im not allowed to chat 2 my cousins as well

Brother! I told you! You are their NON MEHRAM, which means u can get married to them. So you should keep it formal as brother IbnAbdulHakim said.

 

[Umm Hurairah]

thats sick man!

Asalaamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabaraktu,

If it's allowed in Islam then there is NO WAY it's sick.

How can you say that it is sick when someone as Beloved as our Prophet Muhammad (SA) did it?!?!

 

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:salamext:

I think the answer has been given, and this thread should be closed Inshaa Allaah.

 

[tigersabre]

qassy,

Allah and His Messenger have defined who is mahram and non-mahram for you. Your cousin is defined as non-mahram. If you want to text and hang out with your cousin, then marry her.

 

[Kittygyal]

I dont want to marry them!!! thats sick man!

what do you mean glare? look @ them in that way? i never do that :raging:

Salamualikum.

STOP KILLING A MUSLIM!

If it's okay to go out with some next mans sister obviously you look at them first and stuff, so how do you know you won't do that to your cousins?. Satan can attempt you to do anything thats why we need to fight back!. If your not going to marry your cousins then why the heck do you want to text them and stuff?, erm im sure when they grow older or they might already be old there husband won't want you to chat to them. I don't know from a Muslim background because im a formaly christain. In other words Im a revert to Islam, what i know as a Muslim now Alhamdulilah that we should stay firmly away from opposite gender.
I don't understand why your asking soo many questions when i told you there's NO 'And - But - IF' if Allaah says NO then end off..!!

We can NOT force you brother but we can do dua'ah for you and tell you whats right and wrong, bare in mind we aint no scholar or anything so go to local Masjid nearby and ask an Imam. We have weak knwoledge and still learning.

Now in short cents having GF/BF is haram, talking to your cousins 'GYALS' are okay but talk to them with a legal convo which is allowed in Islam and always 'LOWER YA GAZE'.. now rest is up to you.

May Allaah guide u! Amin

Thread should be recycled.

Ma'assalama

 

[qassy!]

hrm...............................

 

[qassy!]

ill think ill understand more when i read those articles or understand why Allah is saying no then the questions will stop

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ yeah bro, definitly, sometimes its better to read/listen then to keep asking. Hope you find what your looking for :thumbs_up !


Assalamu Alaikum

 

[qassy!]

is there an audio version of this:
http://www.kalamullah.com/youth02.html


thanks