Girlfreind?

[BlackMamba]

See man, i kno u wanna change ur ways and its gonna be hard. Thats Cuz u were probly growing up like a normal guy in London so all this stuff is kinda weird for u.thats normal. If u look at all the regualr wite kids theyre free, they do watever. and if u tell them that they cant talk to girls theyd go crazy but thats cuz there not used to it.Like if u go to Saudi Arabia and u tell the ladies they can become friends with nonmehram men theyd think ur crazy.It just about wat culture ur used to. U gotta get used to the culture of Islam and except that the Westerculture is from shaitan and it will make u fail in this life and in the next.
Start getting rid of girlfriends. then u can stop talking to nonmuslim girls as much as you can, only say stuff u have to say like if its about skool or watever dont just be flirting wit em. Then do the same for all other girls-even ur cuzins. Then go on from there.
And u gotta check out this guys lecture its really good. His name is Abdul Rahman Green and hes is a convert from England. I think u mite be able to relate to him. Heres the Link http://www.lightuponlight.com/islam/modules.php?name=Stream2&file=index&lid=75

 

[ayesha309]

Bro qassy, i can understand where you are coming from. In my family, all the cousins always get togheter (guys n girls) and we chill, party for the night, n sleep (if at all), n even when sleeping we all sleep in the same room. So obviously there is a lot of haraam activity. But brother, Allah has not permitted, and no further questions need to be asked. You have try your best, to avoid. My cousins say they're not going to marry each other, so its allowed. But ALlah has said that it is haraam. khalaas. I have heard that a man who "looks" at a women with lustful thoughts, who does not look down upon a women, will have lava thrown in his eyes on the Day of Judgement. So brother try to avoid talking/chatting/looking etc at women for your own sake. And like i said, I know where you are coming from and it is a big sacrifice but Allah loves it when you sacrifice for him. And Allah knows best.

 

[qassy!]

See man, i kno u wanna change ur ways and its gonna be hard. Thats Cuz u were probly growing up like a normal guy in London
so all this stuff is kinda weird for u.thats normal.

If u look at all the regualr wite kids theyre free, they do watever. and if u tell them that they cant talk to girls theyd go crazy but thats cuz there not used to it.
Like if u go to Saudi Arabia and u tell the ladies they can become friends with nonmehram men theyd think ur crazy.
It just about wat culture ur used to. U gotta get used to the culture of Islam and except that the Westerculture is from shaitan and it will make u fail in this life and in the next.
Start getting rid of girlfriends. then u can stop talking to nonmuslim girls as much as you can, only say stuff u have to say like if its about skool or watever dont just be flirting wit em. Then do the same for all other girls-even ur cuzins. Then go on from there.
And u gotta check out this guys lecture its really good. His name is Abdul Rahman Green and hes is a convert from England. I think u mite be able to relate to him. Heres the Link http://www.lightuponlight.com/islam/modules.php?name=Stream2&file=index&lid=75

i will check it out thanks

yes you understand its noraml 4 me and its part of everyday life

i mean the person i go college wiv is a girl lives on the same road etc etc

i mean i dont see nothing of it thats why i am reading up

tsart getting rid of girlfriends. then u can stop talking to nonmuslim girls

im going to see her tomorrow and explain, my situation and I cant carry on

Shes a muslim her self, who reads namaz more then me so inshallah she wont be upset or slap me

i dont talk 2 nonmuslim girls really, only if i have 2 e.g work related

 

[qassy!]

Bro qassy, i can understand where you are coming from. In my family, all the cousins always get togheter (guys n girls) and we chill, party for the night, n sleep (if at all), n even when sleeping we all sleep in the same room. So obviously there is a lot of haraam activity. But brother, Allah has not permitted, and no further questions need to be asked. You have try your best, to avoid. My cousins say they're not going to marry each other, so its allowed. But ALlah has said that it is haraam. khalaas. I have heard that a man who "looks" at a women with lustful thoughts, who does not look down upon a women, will have lava thrown in his eyes on the Day of Judgement. So brother try to avoid talking/chatting/looking etc at women for your own sake. And like i said, I know where you are coming from and it is a big sacrifice but Allah loves it when you sacrifice for him. And Allah knows best.

thank u sister ! u understad!

I know its going to be a big change
and ill stop talking to them, i mean like i use 2 and there gonna think im upset with them its just a big change in life

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

true
but say I can control my self?



bruvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv
Im not getting married yett!!! ! only 17!!!!
shes into islam she reads her namaz more then me!

im going to chat 2 her today saying we cant go out any more!

But can we still like go out? talk etc etc? ?

I mean is that ok? I mean as genral freinds? talk 2 girls/go out but just as freinds?

thanks alot you all are helping me out alot thanks!!

well, i know a brother who got married at 17, and his wife was 13. and that was only 12 years ago. probably even less.

Its not hard we been going out for 5 years! I cant break someone heart like that.....but it has to be done

but what about the negative affect it has on you....

 

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