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may Allah never put us in a situation where we feel pressured to do what our hearts dislike (physically touching the opposite gender)

but in such a situation i advise EVERYONE to consult a truelly knowledgable sincere scholar. I've heard it can be permissable IN EXTREME CONDITIONS


wallahu a'lam
 
Say hey look there is an elephant behind you and run away.
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Aslaamu alaaykum...
Lol ALhamdulilah i never ever had to shake any mans hand :) and Insha`Allaah no such situation will occur, but if it does, i would just not raise it, lol i would look somewhere else or behind me or something and to make sure the person knows i look somewhere else too :D...i think another good tip would be keeping your hands behind your back, or just get some cream and put it all over your hand whilst it still isnt moisterized lol or however you say it.like you havent rubbed it into the skin lol.they may not then want to shake your hands then..hmm i dunno just a few thoughts Indeed :D..If not then just say it lol. "Sorry i dont touch others mens hands beside my husbands :)" simple as :) yay me
and sorry if ive said anything bad or wrong i didnt mean it :(
Wa alaaykum salaam
 
Like some of u know allready I am a beginer and I am happy to know more things about one muslima must be. :smile:
 
Assalamu alaykum,

I wouldn't just refuse to shake hands by acts, that would lead to that this person might think you have something against that person or anything. It's better to simply say "I don't shake hands because I don't want any physichal contact with other men". As simple as that. This will make him understand and if you also say it's no offense to him as person he won't feel bad for it. But don't just stand there lol.
I shake hands sometimes with men, which is when the man grabs my hand to shake without me being able to react lol. Such as in the hospital and at the dentist and so. But if it's not your fault then well...
 
I dont know... in the west its extreamly rude to not shake someones hand. and people arent tolerent enough to find our or listen to why....

technically your not supposed to though. its always a huge awkward moment for me, i never know what to do... i bet i look like i am having a sezure when handshake time comes ha ha ha ha hah a
 
Grofica said:
I dont know... in the west its extreamly rude to not shake someones hand. and people arent tolerent enough to find our or listen to why....

especially in work situations.

technically your not supposed to though. its always a huge awkward moment for me, i never know what to do... i bet i look like i am having a sezure when handshake time comes ha ha ha ha hah a
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there CAN be those awkward moments! i get them at the desk at Harborview, or after giving someone tips on how to use the system, they stick out their hand. and you're thinking, "i just spent 30 minutes explaining the right way to do things and what to do if someone is rude to you. sigh," handshake is returned.

it was even harder when i was in the hospital. your laying down in the ER, you can barely move and in pops this little [OK, and VERY pretty] Doctor. she introduces herself and jams that hand out there like she has practiced it, making sure there is no hesitation on her part and trying to give the impression that she "does this all the time!" so fast that it wasn't until you are pulling your hand away that you realize what just happened. at least she had a glove on, but there went my wuduu...[anyway i think she WAS new and she DID practice it. as i was getting ready to leave the hospital imheard her saying to the head Cardio Dr, "Wow, my first checkout!" so she is either new, or....:omg:

i am almost at the point where i would rather "shake first" and then explain afterwards. while it is worse for me, it is easier on them. in 3 to 5 seconds is a little tough to make dawah!

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I think that one of the biggest issue here is that many of us don't even take this seriously (I'm not saying that we want to to shake hands)
 

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