Happiness with a sprinkling of sadness?

[Re.TiReD]

AssalamuAlaykum

Just a lil question Insha'Allah...

How true do you think is it that when somebody is upbeat all the time and constantly hyper, that there's something else really going on behind the scenes, that the happiness is a cover for something else?

I was just thinking about this today, because most often than not people will go through an extremely 'high' time and be upbeat etc but that eventually dies out and is replaced with something else, sadness etc ...

Soo...agree/disagree? please do tell me what you think Insha'Allah... psychologically also...what is your take?

Thankoo! *grin* JazakAllah khayr...

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[DaNgErOuS MiNdS]

I suppose we all have different moods at different times, sometimes they're brought on by whats happening around us and sometimes it's just happens without a reason.

I think it's something you shouldn't worry about to much.

 

[Re.TiReD]

I suppose we all have different moods at different times, sometimes they're brought on by whats happening around us and sometimes it's just happens without a reason.

I think it's something you shouldn't worry about to much.

AssalamuAlaykum

JazakAllah khayr for the reply, lol SubhanAllah I'm not worrying about it...(although I dont think I should be as hyper as I am at my age, lol) But yeah...I just wanted to know what people thought...pshychologically though, I think there is a term for it but just cant rememeber, reaction formation? I think...

Is happiness an absence of sadness or is it a state of contentment we create for ourselves...? Is happiness the calm before the storm...or... Hmm just think...I feel as though I'm talking in riddles but yeah

WassalamuAlaykum

P.S Anybody actually do that? e.g. feel one way and behave in another?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Assalamu Alaikum

upbeat people are the best though, no matter what flys at them they take it with a smile. They may be down for a few seconds but then they jump up and its like nothing happened. I love that attitude! if only everyone possessed it!

and the sadness, mashaAllah they so strong that they dont like to show it in front of others, they hide it, keep it between them and ALlaah. ive noticed that about a few special people... mashaAllah i admire that quality a lot

 

[Re.TiReD]

AssalamuAlaykum

oh:

Beautiful post! I guess its true aswell...Afterall we should only complain to Allah (swt) about our problems no? But I wonder if its like that with everybody is my actual question...or are some people just gifted with 100% happiness so there isnt actually anything else i.e. any sadness in the background...Hmm

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ naa thats not true, because i know quite a few people as i mentioned above, and when i got deeper with them subhanAllah, they have more sorrow then you'd imagine. I mean seriously breaking down sorrow, thats what made me wonder at their happiness and hype even more. Tell me if this isnt a blessing from Allah then what is it?!..

 

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:salamext:

and the sadness, mashaAllah they so strong that they dont like to show it in front of others, they hide it, keep it between them and ALlaah. ive noticed that about a few special people... mashaAllah i admire that quality a lot

Yeh I know people like that, they smile and laugh and don't show their pain...

One thing is though, I think this is why u have friends, you should share your burden with ur friends.

Allaahu Aalim..

 

[Re.TiReD]

AssalamuAlaykum

Ookay...I was thinking something else this morning also...I'm not saying this thread is about me btw...but imagine it was...why would Allah gift me with so much happiness...dont you think its actually scary? I'd rather be miserable in this world and happy in the hereafter...not the other way round! *sad*

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[Re.TiReD]

:salamext:



Yeh I know people like that, they smile and laugh and don't show their pain...

One thing is though, I think this is why u have friends, you should share your burden with ur friends.

Allaahu Aalim..

AssalamuAlaykum

Yeah I know what you mean, but personally I think sadness and pain is contagious (sp?) maybe the person doesnt want to burden another with their pain etc? its not a nice feeling when somebody else is upset or worried about you...

WassalamuAlaykum

P.S BRB Insha'Allah sis *grin*

 

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:salamext:

its not a nice feeling when somebody else is upset or worried about you...

But at least u know they care.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

happiness/sakeena is from Allaah. you know at times i feel like i could be a broken down homeless/wifeless/jobless/kidless/orphaned and enstraged boy and i'd still walk about happy, maybe happier then i am now.

what causes the happiness? just contentment knowing that this life isnt NOTHING, a few days, a walk in a shade, a journey to another place.

i guess the strength to face it and come out all shining is from Allaah.

look at those palestinians, man the amount of stuff they go through, and if you see the videos its like they so happy!!! mashaAllaah!

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

its not a nice feeling when somebody else is upset or worried about you...

Agreed !

especially when the person donates a heap of money for your safety and you hear about it later on, start feeling quite a bit of guilt!

but thats what the mu'mins do, they look out for one another, and i think the compassion is beautiful.


bottling stuff up may seem kind and cool but its not always wise..

 

[Re.TiReD]

:salamext:



But at least u know they care.

AssalamuAlaykum

They care *wub* but you care enough not to hurt them too...people have enough burdens of their own...who am I to add to them?

WassalamuAlaykum

happiness/sakeena is from Allaah. you know at times i feel like i could be a broken down homeless/wifeless/jobless/kidless/orphaned and enstraged boy and i'd still walk about happy, maybe happier then i am now.

what causes the happiness? just contentment knowing that this life isnt NOTHING, a few days, a walk in a shade, a journey to another place.

i guess the strength to face it and come out all shining is from Allaah.

look at those palestinians, man the amount of stuff they go through, and if you see the videos its like they so happy!!! mashaAllaah!

AssalamuAlaykum,

True say Akhee, sometimes we feel sakeenah at the most strangest of times...when we have a load of stress, work, family stuff etc but its then that we couldnt feel any happier...So I guess that is a gift and blessing from Allah (swt) then, SubhanAllah *smile* JazakAllah khayr Akhee and Ukhtee!

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[Muezzin]

AssalamuAlaykum

Ookay...I was thinking something else this morning also...I'm not saying this thread is about me btw...but imagine it was...why would Allah gift me with so much happiness...dont you think its actually scary? I'd rather be miserable in this world and happy in the hereafter...not the other way round! *sad*

WassalamuAlaykum

I'd rather be happy in both worlds.

I commute everyday, so I kind of have to make sure I'm happy and optimistic on the journey and at the destination, otherwise I'd turn into Scrooge or something. That's my own personal philosophy though. Whatever works for you, dude.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

you know whats strange though...

those people who are so upbeat and happy, i think we get use to them, that vibrance they send everywhere..

but then.. when they do feel down or even if for a while you see them look a bit sad, it hurts a lot inside cause i think you start caring for that person too much.


see, smiles do so much... subhanAllah

 

[Re.TiReD]

I'd rather be happy in both worlds.

I commute everyday, so I kind of have to make sure I'm happy and optimistic on the journey and at the destination, otherwise I'd turn into Scrooge or something. That's my own personal philosophy though. Whatever works for you, dude.

AssalamuAlaykum,

I commute everday too...And you know what...you actually made me think there...because I love the journey but hate the destination *shocked* ...to me, thats saying something really weird...but if I dont analyse it like that...I'd say its because I love looking at the countryside going past during my commute *grin* JazakAllah khayr Akhee

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[Intisar]

I disagree, 'cause I'm a very optimistic person. Just because someone's happy all the time, that doesn't mean that behind the scenes they have some problems going on. I'm a very happy person most of the time, because the way I see it, being all sad won't change the condition you're in so be happy 'cause Allaah has something good in store for you inshaa Allaah and some people are in way worse conditions than you are.

Maybe it's just me, but I have a very optimistic outlook on life, I'm usually never glum and If I am then I hardly show it. That's why my imaan doesn't go low much, because I have trust and faith in Allaah that he understands and knows what's going on. And like it says in the Quraan (may Allaah forgive me if I am wrong), ''It may be that something is good for you and that you dislike it (and vice versa), surely Allaah knows best.''

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

I disagree, 'cause I'm a very optimistic person. Just because someone's happy all the time, that doesn't mean that behind the scenes they have some problems going on..''

i have to disagree with that...

simply because problems are never ending, even with the best of the best (our prophet muhammad sallallahi alaihi wasallaam)

so thats what makes the cheerful optimistic happy people strong, that they remain that way even with the problems.

such was our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam..

 

[Muezzin]

i have to disagree with that...

simply because problems are never ending, even with the best of the best (our prophet muhammad sallallahi alaihi wasallaam)

so thats what makes the cheerful optimistic happy people strong, that they remain that way even with the problems.

such was our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam..

Optimism combined with a will to act... it's how civilisation came to be.

 

[Intisar]

^I agree, but what I meant by my statement was that just because someone seems a bit ''too happy'' all the time, that doesn't necessarily mean that they have problems going on. Heh, maybe it could be a personality trait? Who knows? We can't judge, allaahu 'alim.

And we should take a page from their book, that being sad doesn't solve the problem or make it go away.