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^ sister Arfa your second attached pic reminded me of this beautiful Ayah of surrat Az-Zukhruf
"Enter ye the Garden, ye and your wives, in (beauty and) rejoicing" (43:70)
yaaaah I love this Ayah deeply.
In sha Allah all of us can hear it on the day of judgement . Amin
"Enter ye the Garden, ye and your wives, in (beauty and) rejoicing" (43:70)
yaaaah I love this Ayah deeply.
In sha Allah all of us can hear it on the day of judgement . Amin
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"You are so beautiful. So beautiful, in fact, that you took the stars from our universe and placed them in your eyes. That’s why I can’t look away."
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YEEAH BROTHER FARHAN! YOU GO GUY!
Greetings and peace be with you Arfa;
An imperfect man, marrying an imperfect woman, then having imperfect children, and living in an imperfect world can be a struggle throughout life. Somehow through all this imperfection, we must treat our spouse and family as a blessing, and always be ready to forgive. The first thirty years are the hardest, then it probable gets tougher, meaning we always have to keep trying to make things work, despite all the problems. I believe marriage requires a huge amount of perseverance, resilience and most of all help from our God.
My wife goes in for an operation tomorrow, and next week will be our thirty first anniversary.
In the spirit of praying for a love that lasts.
Eric
An imperfect man, marrying an imperfect woman, then having imperfect children, and living in an imperfect world can be a struggle throughout life. Somehow through all this imperfection, we must treat our spouse and family as a blessing, and always be ready to forgive. The first thirty years are the hardest, then it probable gets tougher, meaning we always have to keep trying to make things work, despite all the problems. I believe marriage requires a huge amount of perseverance, resilience and most of all help from our God.
My wife goes in for an operation tomorrow, and next week will be our thirty first anniversary.
In the spirit of praying for a love that lasts.
Eric
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Without spouse life is like no salt in food.
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In sha Allah the operation goes well ...
Wish for you more and more years together full of love and faith.
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Mostly people don't think like this, even parents now a days don't think like this , when you have a family brothers and sisters and the rishta comes for your sister and the boy is not settled , even you won't accept them as a husband of your sister and you won't acceot rishta , you will only accept if the boy is settled , so everyone has the same thinking now a days , but its true our Islam encouraged people to get marry in early age and work can be done side by side , even when the girl gets marry it brings her fate with herself ..
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The man that Islam seeks to build is not controlled by the desires of his body, rather, he is motivated by the desires of his soul. A lot of marriage advice out there buys into the idea the men (and women) are evolved animals, a slightly refined monkey, and therefore, it is "normal" for men to be driven by their base animalistic desires.
While it is true that some men, indeed, are overrun by a nafs that has such tendencies, we need not think this is the most evolved a man can become.
No, the man of taqwa finds deeper meaning not only in sexual intimacy, but the love and comfort of his wife. He admires the soul behind her eyes, fears Allah in her presence or in her absence, and though isn't aloof from reality on the ground, chooses a shelter away from it.
The man who remembers his purpose and meeting with His Lord chooses a life of beauty, dignity, and transparency. He desires his wife and honors her at the same time. She isn't the place he disposes of energy, she is the gift he honors and takes care of, protects and provides for, because this is what makes him a man first and foremost.
In a world that wants us to believe that sex is everything, for men and women, I argue we pull back and articulate that Iman is everything, worship is everything, and the fear and love of Allah is everything.
If a man doesn't have taqwa, than nothing his wife will ever do can be enough to satisfy him.
But for a man who does have taqwa, he appreciates every gesture she does to honor him, to respect him, and treat him with love and generosity.
Muslims need to reclaim sexual desire and put it back in it's proper place of building spiritually conscious marriages. While it is one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling marriage, knowing one's Lord, is of even greater importance for that fulfillment.
Let us not lose our balance. Let us all aim to evolve spiritually as human beings who understand the purpose behind the gifts of love, intimacy, and connection.
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While it is true that some men, indeed, are overrun by a nafs that has such tendencies, we need not think this is the most evolved a man can become.
No, the man of taqwa finds deeper meaning not only in sexual intimacy, but the love and comfort of his wife. He admires the soul behind her eyes, fears Allah in her presence or in her absence, and though isn't aloof from reality on the ground, chooses a shelter away from it.
The man who remembers his purpose and meeting with His Lord chooses a life of beauty, dignity, and transparency. He desires his wife and honors her at the same time. She isn't the place he disposes of energy, she is the gift he honors and takes care of, protects and provides for, because this is what makes him a man first and foremost.
In a world that wants us to believe that sex is everything, for men and women, I argue we pull back and articulate that Iman is everything, worship is everything, and the fear and love of Allah is everything.
If a man doesn't have taqwa, than nothing his wife will ever do can be enough to satisfy him.
But for a man who does have taqwa, he appreciates every gesture she does to honor him, to respect him, and treat him with love and generosity.
Muslims need to reclaim sexual desire and put it back in it's proper place of building spiritually conscious marriages. While it is one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling marriage, knowing one's Lord, is of even greater importance for that fulfillment.
Let us not lose our balance. Let us all aim to evolve spiritually as human beings who understand the purpose behind the gifts of love, intimacy, and connection.
- Wives of Jannah
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Aw I'm sure Mr Eric you are a good husband and a strong human being who stood the test of time. My prayers may Aunt be healthy after her operation.
It is truly beautiful to fight for your love, to keep it alive. MA shaa Allah.
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subhanAllah sister. Thanks for sharing such a gem MA shaaAllah .
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nice sharing !!
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Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (May Allah exalt his mention and protect him from imperfection) said: “A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!”. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)Commentary:
Mentioned in this Hadith are the various reasons why we choose our wife. Another Hadith tells us that he who marries his wife for her money or her family will finally become their slave. Whoever marries ONLY for her beauty will find all his troubles will come from this beauty. But he who chooses his wife for her chastity will be at peace which is the fundamental basis of life. But this does not mean that a woman cannot be chaste and at the same time beautiful and from a good family. Only a pious woman is in the true sense faithful and obedient to her husband who has himself good conduct. Such a couple not only lead a happy life but its future generation is also brought up on the right lines with the help of such a woman, otherwise you risk spoiling the future generations. For this reason, while selecting a wife, one should give preference to religion over all other qualities.Riyaadiss-Saliheen (The Meadows of the Righteous)
By Imam An Nawawi
Chapter 45, Page 121, No 364
Mentioned in this Hadith are the various reasons why we choose our wife. Another Hadith tells us that he who marries his wife for her money or her family will finally become their slave. Whoever marries ONLY for her beauty will find all his troubles will come from this beauty. But he who chooses his wife for her chastity will be at peace which is the fundamental basis of life. But this does not mean that a woman cannot be chaste and at the same time beautiful and from a good family. Only a pious woman is in the true sense faithful and obedient to her husband who has himself good conduct. Such a couple not only lead a happy life but its future generation is also brought up on the right lines with the help of such a woman, otherwise you risk spoiling the future generations. For this reason, while selecting a wife, one should give preference to religion over all other qualities.Riyaadiss-Saliheen (The Meadows of the Righteous)
By Imam An Nawawi
Chapter 45, Page 121, No 364
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A real man is respectful to his wife, both in public & in private.
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A happy Marriage requires understanding, commitment and compromise from both sides. One person isn't always strong as when the husband is weak wife plays the role of a strong one, when the wife is weak, the husband is her strength. So both sides reciprocate in a healthy relationship.
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“The word “shams” (sun) is feminine, and “qamar” (moon) is masculine. The sun burns itself out to give light and life to everything around, and the moon is muneer, meaning it reflects the light. Within itself it has no light; it radiates the brilliance of the sun. So when we shine as men, the implication is that we are reflecting the glorious light of our women. May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’aala be pleased with them.” (Shaykh Abdullah Adhami)