One day your husband is late and doesn't call and it's annoying.
Another day your husband is late and doesn't call and it's frustrating.
A different day your husband is late and doesn't call and it's hurtful.
Yet another occasion he is late and doesn't call (and doesn't learn!) and you barely notice.
Same scenario but different reactions each time, where one time it leads to a fight and another time nothing at all.
To avoid the fight or repair from one, you need to back up before your feelings kicked in and ask what was it that you were desiring or expecting to have happen that evening when your husband came home. Because when the need wasn't met, you reacted.
To prevent this or heal from it, you have to express your real desire.
"I missed you today and really want to spend time together...."
"I felt down today and have been waiting to hug you..."
"I'm struggling to feel good enough around you right now...."
"I'm hungry but didn't want to eat without you, and I made your favorite meal."
None of these blame the husband, but all honor your feelings and show him how important he is to you which can inspire him in return to want to be there with you more often.
- Wives of Jannah