Having 4 wifes whats the rules?

[Abz2000]

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Ghamidi is "Ahmadi/Qadyani??Are you sure sis :hmm:

I dont even buy household items from their shops.As i enter in the shop,i check the picture of their leader they all hang in their shops but last time,i did'nt notice and buy shoes from there.When my mom paid for the shoes,then i noticed the picture +o(

I remember i read a fatwa to not have any type of relations with Qadyani/Ahmadi people thats why i dont even buy from their shops.I wanted to confirm is that right?

Asalaamu Alaikum, no Javed Ghamdi is of the Tolu E Islam and followers of Sir Syed Ahmed and Ghulam Ahmed Parvez or in other words "Hadith rejectors". He is given a lot of coverage on mainstream Pakistani channels and is a devil in disguise.

We should all warn our Pakistani brothers and sisters to be careful of watching and listening to his lies and deciet for he is misleading many without those people even realising.

May Allah save us from the evil of such people. Ameen

 

[IslamicRevival]

In this day and age, should Polygamy really be practiced? Is there any need? I mean taking on a second wife, a widow or a poor woman for example is an honorable thing to do but these days people want four wives for the sake of it

Muslims today have lost the TRUE meaning of this ruling in my opinion

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

In this day and age, should Polygamy really be practiced? Is there any need? I mean taking on a second wife, a widow or a poor woman for example is an honorable thing to do but these days people want four wives for the sake of it

Muslims today have lost the TRUE meaning of this ruling in my opinion

I don't think we should have such a simplistic view about this issue. It depends on the situation and a persons particular circumstances and what situation and circumstances they find themselves in etc. It also depends on an individuals intention and sincerety which ONLY Allah knows of.

Also nowadays there are far more women looking for marriage in the UK (Cant speak for the rest of the world) than there are men looking for women. I do not know if this is because there are more women than men but one of the major signs of the day of judgement is that there will be far more women than men and maybe this is starting to happen now and that is when polygamy will be more relevant than ever before.

But a person has the right to have a polygamous marriage as long as they do justice to all the wives. If they cannot then surely they will be punished and one of the punishments is that such a person on the day of judgement will have have of their body paralysed:

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrates that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam) said “A man who has two wives and he does not deal justly with them will be resurrected on the Day of Judgement with half his body paralysed.”(Sunan Tirmidhi)

So this is not an issue that men who practice polygamy should take so lightly. If they cannot do justice between his wives then he will be accountable on the day of judgement and punished accordingly.

And Allah knows best in all matters

 

[Salahudeen]

Marriage in Islam is Ibada so why not do as much ibada as you can as long as you can meet the conditions of the ibada :hmm:

 

[ardianto]

Having up to 4 wives is a privilege in Islam that given only to Muslim male. But unfortunately, this is the privilege that most common misused by males who follow their lust. Majority of Muslims who commit polygamy actually are not worthy for married in polygamy marriage. Even I have found at least two cases which non-Muslims pretend as Muslims only to do polygamy.

Mostly of polygamy marriage were not planned before, but happened after married men meet women who attract them. And they see privilege to polygamy as the chance to follow their lust.

Like I have written in another thread, there is a bad habit among Muslim males in Indonesia. They always miss salah, never fast in ramadhan, don't know anything about Islamic knowledge, but when their wives found they have been married other women, suddenly they turn into temporary scholars, gave 'lecture' about polygamy in Islam. This is the example when Islam is misused to legitimate lusty behavior.

I have read and heard many complains about polygamy. Many of those women complains, their husbands start to forget them after they married new wives. And I often read or heard cases which those wives hate each other because they think their love their 'enemies' more than them.

Mostly of wives who married in polygamy hate their husband other wives. And in mostly of polygamy marriage which I have found, husbands love one wife more than their other wives.

But it doesn't means there is no good polygamy marriage. I have found several good polygamy marriage which the wives and the husband feel happiness, and a wife and other wives are respect each other. I know personally with a man who married 4 wives in polygamy like this.

There are two things that make those polygamy becomes good polygamy.

First. The husband and the wives are religious Muslims. Even the husbands are ulama or at least have qualification to teach Islam.

Second. The second, third or fourth marriage are planned marriage. They had intention to have other wives, and then they start looking for other wives. Even in some cases, those new women proposed by old wives. Different than in bad polygamy which the husbands have intention to marry after they meet women who attract them.

Polygamy is privilege for Muslim males, but Muslims are not allowed to use this privilege only to legitimate lusty behavior. And is ulama duty to remind ummah not to misuse this privilege.