Hurazannat
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Assalamualaikum to All. Long story short. I was Christian and converted to Islam because I felt peace in being a Muslim. I am divorced woman and met a Muslim man. This man said he wants to marry me and over video call he married me without witness. I know this is not the correct way but that time I felt everything was right. And we started living together (Which is another big crime I have committed). None of our family members know. He would tell me to wait for the right time. He also told me that before going to Hajj he will lawfully marry me and keep me with his family. After few months I got to know I am pregnant and that's when everything changed. He started abusing me mentally, he even went physical. He wanted abortion and sent me to my mother. But I didn't want abortion as I have previously committed this sin, for years I didn't get pregnant when I was married to my first husband, and I knew that I became infertile, I regretted badly and would cry and I promised Allah that I will not commit this sin again.
I came to my Mother and I told her that I am pregnant with the child of my x husband. I could not tell her anything about the man I really was with and about my conversion to Islam as I didn't want matters to become more worse. Thanks to Allah that my mother accepted the child. Now I am 7 months pregnant living with my mother and she is the one who is financially helping me. I am getting a huge support from my mother.
The thing is my child's father does not know actually what is really happening. I stopped talking to him by switching off my phone and totally disconnecting myself from everything as he was mentally abusing me, calling me and my mother names everyday. He would ignore me. All he wanted was abortion and he told me he will continue to live with me if only I abort. I was scared as he threatened me that he knows a lot of criminals and could harm me (he is a lawyer) so I told him I aborted(I didn't give him my current address and I am living in another city far from him). Oh and another thing after I came to my mother he also told me that he got married to another woman so I should abort the child. I was so mentally depressed and lonely, I stopped talking to everyone accept my mother. I used to pray and cry to Allah to give me the strength and Allah did give me strength to go through my pregnancy, I can feel it. Recently nearly after 1.5 months I switched on phone and my child's father called me and I received. He was being very nice, I guess he thought I already had abortion but when he understood that I didn't abort he got angry with me again and told me I destroyed his life and I cheated on him by keeping the child. He said he will never forgive me or call me and will hate me forever, (the same things he told me before too) and then he disconnected the line, I didn't call him back or send him any message, I just switched off my phone again and its been 17 days. One thing I want to clear from my side I didn't use my baby as a weapon to get him, I had no intention at all, I didn't want to destroy his life, I really love him, I just wanted that he himself accepts both of us but I didn't force him to. Now I want to know is that 1) Am I really cheating on him by keeping my baby, 2) How did I destroy his life 3) Should I inform him after baby is born.
Please help me with some advice.
I came to my Mother and I told her that I am pregnant with the child of my x husband. I could not tell her anything about the man I really was with and about my conversion to Islam as I didn't want matters to become more worse. Thanks to Allah that my mother accepted the child. Now I am 7 months pregnant living with my mother and she is the one who is financially helping me. I am getting a huge support from my mother.
The thing is my child's father does not know actually what is really happening. I stopped talking to him by switching off my phone and totally disconnecting myself from everything as he was mentally abusing me, calling me and my mother names everyday. He would ignore me. All he wanted was abortion and he told me he will continue to live with me if only I abort. I was scared as he threatened me that he knows a lot of criminals and could harm me (he is a lawyer) so I told him I aborted(I didn't give him my current address and I am living in another city far from him). Oh and another thing after I came to my mother he also told me that he got married to another woman so I should abort the child. I was so mentally depressed and lonely, I stopped talking to everyone accept my mother. I used to pray and cry to Allah to give me the strength and Allah did give me strength to go through my pregnancy, I can feel it. Recently nearly after 1.5 months I switched on phone and my child's father called me and I received. He was being very nice, I guess he thought I already had abortion but when he understood that I didn't abort he got angry with me again and told me I destroyed his life and I cheated on him by keeping the child. He said he will never forgive me or call me and will hate me forever, (the same things he told me before too) and then he disconnected the line, I didn't call him back or send him any message, I just switched off my phone again and its been 17 days. One thing I want to clear from my side I didn't use my baby as a weapon to get him, I had no intention at all, I didn't want to destroy his life, I really love him, I just wanted that he himself accepts both of us but I didn't force him to. Now I want to know is that 1) Am I really cheating on him by keeping my baby, 2) How did I destroy his life 3) Should I inform him after baby is born.
Please help me with some advice.
