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[aadil77]

Yes, I feel like my body has no worth anymore because of the way I used to dress. I dress much more modestly now. But that doesn't change the fact that many guys have seen quite alot of my body. I can't erase that. I know God forgives. But humans aren't as capable as He is to forgive. My husband will have a hard time knowing other men have seen alot of me. I've humbled myself to him, admitted my wrongs, and insist on my change. But it's still not easily forgiven. He's unsure to trust my change.
~Lynn

You can always wear the face veil, it might give some assurance to your husband, that the guys that have seen you may never come across you again

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Greetings,

Thank you all for your warm welcomes. You all seem very helpful, Insane Insaan especially gave a good perspective of things. I was raised a Christian my whole life. I saw the hypocrisy in it, began to question things, and what drew me toward Islam is the sincerity of it. Such a firm standing on keeping the beliefs true in a secular world. One thing I am dealing with is the shame of my old life. I haven't always dressed modestly. It kills me to think of the things I've worn. I just know I'm going to have to deal with that on my soul forever and hope that Allah can forgive me of it.
~Lynn

its cool. we all commit sins, ones we are aware of and ones we have forgotten or don't know about. the good thing about your situation is that you realize it and thus can change it (many people don't have such privilege). as long as you are breathing then there is still hope to change and realize that things will get better so work your way up slowly slowly. its just matter of time that things get better. please don't give up on Allah or despair. dont let your sins engulf and overwhelm you. we are all on the same par as well. i sincerely hope things so well for you.

I just feel like my body has no worth anymore. I have nothing to offer my husband.

everybody has a worth and you shouldn't underestimate or belittle it. i hope you will see that one day.

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

Aslaamu`Alaaykum

When your muslim your whole dress code changes, ie the way you dress and the way you even talk to them.
Them guys probably wont recognise you when you start to dress modestly and besides they have nothing to do with you no more, you shouldnt keep in touch with them and just lower your gaze when around them for example when you see them at the mall/town. It shoudlnt matter what "they" think of you, what should matter is now what Allaah thinks of you and its good that you realise what you did was wrong that really something that will teach you something and something you will be aware off when it comes to your own children.

May Allaah ease your affairs dear sistah, Ameen

Wa`Alaaykum Salaam

 

[Insaanah]

Peace, AudreyLynn,

Ok. It's a good sign that he's told you that he'll give you a chance to prove yourself. It may be that only after you've done that, he'll feel he's able to forgive you. With time, as he sees you develop as a Muslimah, he'll inshaAllah (God willing) realise that you were sincere in your change and are serious about your faith. Allahu a'lam (Allah knows best). Perhaps in his mind he's not sure if he's doing the right thing, or has heard other stories before where things went wrong.

Tell him you're becoming a Muslim for you, and not for him, as you are going to have to answer to Allah for your own deeds. You are doing it because you fear and love Allah, and you want to be successful on the Day of Judgement. And that you feel an inner peace with that (if you do).

And a few other points to remember, AudreyLynn:

-Make sure that if you become Muslim, you're doing it for you, and not for him.

-The one worthy of the greatest fear (and love), is Allah.

-Allah is All-Forgiving, even if humans aren't.

I really hope and pray that things work out for the two of you together, and that you can grow and develop as Muslims together.

We're here to support you.

Peace.

 

[cat eyes]

You're correct, my husband to be was raised in a Muslim family. Though he doesn't claim himself as a Muslim, many of his values and beliefs reflect that of one. Many of the things you've suggested I've said. To be fair I've broken his trust in a few ways. I'm not happy with the person I used to be. Him finding out a few things about my past is what made me end up praying on the ground in the first place begging for guidance. That night I felt a change in me. I truly believe God spoke to me while praying he told me to read Surah 73, it spoke to me personally and help clear everything I was asking. That was when I first believed that Muhammad (peace be upon him) is the Messenger of God. I've broken my husband's trust in a few different ways and he's wary that this change may be a little too convenient of a time. But I would never mess around with my religion. I'm being honest and true. I regret what I've done and I know it's a long road to forgiveness when it comes to him. And he's told me he'll give me a chance to prove myself, I only hope he can forgive me.
~Lynn

welcome to the forum.

if hes not in to his own religion and he only carries the name muslim then this is tricky situation.

if you want to revert an all that i wouldn't advise you to marry such a man. im saying this from a scholars point of view. marriages such as this very rarely work out thats why.

May Allah guide you. ameen

 

[Rhubarb Tart]

Salam

:welcome: to the forum. I hope you enjoy your stay..

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