Help, I have no friends

[highway_trekker]

 

[syilla]

Subhanallah i love this video thank you for sharing

 

[$tr@wB3rRy]

Shaykh Shinqitee is the top shaykh masha'Allaah, may Allaah ta'ala preserve him, ameen

Jazaakillaah khyran for sharing, ukhtee

 

[syed1]

I have no friends. Every where I go it seems like people come in my life and they eventually leave so now I've learned that no good thing lasts and I never get attached to anyone emotionally. My own father won't speak to me. it aches me inside. I don't know what to do. It feel like everywhere I go I am being reject, from job interviews from forums like this one whom won't even give me access to the brother section. It is quite unfortunate. But I'm use to it so it doesn't phase me.

This was a good video, but to be honest although everything he said was absolutely true there are times when people need a human connection, a shoulder to cry on or some one to talk to. Last night I wept, silently. I'm not afraid to admit it. I'm 20 years old male and I'm trying my best to adhere to my faith after living a foul lifestyle for so long. I go to the mosque frequently now, and I remember Allah constantly. I try to keep a smile on my face, as the prophet would and I try to follow his sunnah as much as I can. but I realized I am very fragile and could literally break any moment..

I don't know what going to happen to me. I don't know what my purpose in life is (in terms of career etc). TBH I wish I'd die a peaceful death, with a smile on my face and the shahada on my tongue and just rest in my grave till the day of qiymah. Obviously I have no idea if I have been forgiven or not so I hope that Allah will have mercy on me. I still fear death because I don't know what will happen but I guess all we can do is hope and fear.

 

[syed1]

double posted.

 

[Abz2000]

May Allah reward you brother, i am downloading this to watch on the phone when i have a bad day or feel down,
will listen to it on the train and when resting, and i dont think i'll get tired of it til i've memorized it

 

[Sothis Girl]

I have no friends too since I was grad school. My fiance said I'm more "stone-hearted" now that what I used to be because it;s been quite long time I don't make friends like I used to in undergraduate. I've tried to talk to my classmates, but they are not for me. We have too different "vibrations". :hmm: I spend my hours alone in the bedroom dorm, with my dolls, diary, e-books, and computer. I know I'm very friendly person, but I'm too shy to initiate conversation, and hence prefer to stay in the background.

Being friendless sucks. In the beginning you can lie to yourself "it's okay, I'm okay, I can still live". But as time goes by, you will realize that something in your heart is missing and there's a big hole in it. That is when you realize you're actually very lonely and need someone to share your happiness and pain to. Someone to share a part of your life - other than spouse. My fiance is the only person I've ever talked heart-to-heart to for this recent 2 years.

 

[abdullah_001]

No ya akhi, certain things you only realize when you go through certain situations. And Wallahi, listening to the Sheik speak the hair on my skin stood up. What he spoke was the truth and the fruits of imaan are only experienced by those who have faith in Allah (swt). And remember this life is nothing but trials and tribulations, and remember that the Prophet (saws) said that this world is a prison for the believer and paradise for the disbeliever. Remember we are human beings and our cause is noble -- and while many people may have numerous friends if they had no faith they would feel empty even if they were surrounded by the entire world as their family. Peace only comes from remembering Allah (swt). And lastly, remember that no matter what trials you go through, Prophet Muhammad (saws) went through much worse, peace be upon him.

Like the sheikh said, Whatever you do for the sake of Allah (swt), Allah (swt) will reward you for it in this life AND the next one, inshaAllah.

 

[real islam]

Do you need friends really?If than why?
Please try to find out one friend who can
help you when you are wrong.In your right
time everyone can except your friendship.
But when you are in wrong to them they will
deny you.But i would always try to be with my
well wishers.Thanks for the post.Please
communicate

 

[Periwinkle18]

SubhanAllah gr8 video jazakAllah for sharing, i always wanted frnds who were religious neva had those type of frnds buh alhumdulillah now i know i don't need anyone Allah is there for me i do think at times tht im alone i just hav to remember tht im not, i do hav some one who i could talk to

jazakAllah for the amazing reminder

 

[Who Am I?]

Friends?

Bah, who needs them?

I never had many friends and I turned out OK...

.. with my neckbeard, my Legos, my dogs, my computer games, and surrounded by various Star Wars and Star Trek figurines...

They're not dolls, they're action figures!!

 

[Periwinkle18]

Friends?

Bah, who needs them?

I never had many friends and I turned out OK...

.. with my neckbeard, my Legos, my dogs, my computer games, and surrounded by various Star Wars and Star Trek figurines...

They're not dolls, they're action figures!!

lol they're dolls

 

[GodIsAll]

Friends?

Bah, who needs them?

I never had many friends and I turned out OK...

.. with my neckbeard, my Legos, my dogs, my computer games, and surrounded by various Star Wars and Star Trek figurines...

They're not dolls, they're action figures!!

That's about the 10th time "Who Am I?" has made me laugh out loud! Thank you!

I hereby nominate (pardon the democratic process in me) "Who Am I" as the funniest Muslim in the world.

 

[Who Am I?]

lol they're dolls

They're not....

(ok, maybe they are dolls)

... but they're not mine, I swear!

Oh, and GodIsAll, I appreciate the nomination, but I am not seeking office this term.

I just want to live and laugh, man... live and laugh...

 

[GodIsAll]

I just want to live and laugh, man... live and laugh...

Shouldn't we all, my friend? Shouldn't we all?

The world would be such a better place!

 

[Abz2000]

it's nice to have good friends, believers who you will die for and who would die for you, when you'd never betray each other.
seems those types of friends only come by Allah's grace,
I come across many other types but never answer the phone after getting wrong vibes.
better we promote Islam then we'll have good friends to support each other.
a true friend can be useful, you can always call each other and get each other to do things,
can you pick this up for me, wot area r u in? this shop doesn't accept cards over the phone, can you pop into the shop around the corner from you put a deposit on this for me before someone else takes it?
can you pick my son up, i just got nicked, can u hide this quickly!

still, those ones only come from Allah, the others fall apart at the second instance if not at the first.
hey, we got 2 billion friends, thicker than family, just a matter of coming together.

 

[Who Am I?]

Shouldn't we all, my friend? Shouldn't we all?

The world would be such a better place!

I keep telling management at work this, but they keep telling me that I should be serious. But I fight the system!

it's nice to have good friends, believers who you will die for and who would die for you, when you'd never betray each other.
seems those types of friends only come by Allah's grace,
I come across many other types but never answer the phone after getting wrong vibes.
better we promote Islam then we'll have good friends to support each other.
a true friend can be useful, you can always call each other and get each other to do things,
can you pick this up for me, wot area r u in? this shop doesn't accept cards over the phone, can you pop into the shop around the corner from you put a deposit on this for me before someone else takes it?
can you pick my son up, i just got nicked, can u hide this quickly!

still, those ones only come from Allah, the others fall apart at the second instance if not at the first.
hey, we got 2 billion friends, thicker than family, just a matter of coming together.

Got a flat tire on the side of the highway? Need an emergency ticket from Siberia at 3 AM? Need an out to escape from an awkward social situation?

Better network...

 

[CosmicPathos]

I have no friends too since I was grad school. My fiance said I'm more "stone-hearted" now that what I used to be because it;s been quite long time I don't make friends like I used to in undergraduate. I've tried to talk to my classmates, but they are not for me. We have too different "vibrations". :hmm: I spend my hours alone in the bedroom dorm, with my dolls, diary, e-books, and computer. I know I'm very friendly person, but I'm too shy to initiate conversation, and hence prefer to stay in the background.

Being friendless sucks. In the beginning you can lie to yourself "it's okay, I'm okay, I can still live". But as time goes by, you will realize that something in your heart is missing and there's a big hole in it. That is when you realize you're actually very lonely and need someone to share your happiness and pain to. Someone to share a part of your life - other than spouse. My fiance is the only person I've ever talked heart-to-heart to for this recent 2 years.

Muslims are not supposed to talk to non-mehrams, which include "fiances."

Friends are useless. Waste of time.

 

[جوري]

Muslims are not supposed to talk to non-mehrams,

who says? Saiida Aisha (RA) used to teach grown Muslim men and from her we've many ahadiths as just one example.. we're not a segregated society.
Ask yourself if this is a rule you can honestly live with in your everyday life. Including those who teach you in medical school and those you're going to practice on!

Genuine friends aren't a waste of time. A few members on this forum have gotten me through some pretty difficult times and shouldered much of my misery as if it were happening to them. even a word of du3a is sufficient to lessen a hard blow.
Akhi, for your sake I hope you can be more trusting of this ummah and of the good in it..

 

[CosmicPathos]

who says? Saiida Aisha (RA) used to teach grown Muslim men and from her we've many ahadiths as just one example.. we're not a segregated society.
Ask yourself if this is a rule you can honestly live with in your everyday life. Including those who teach you in medical school and those you're going to practice on!

Genuine friends aren't a waste of time. A few members on this forum have gotten me through some pretty difficult times and shouldered much of my misery as if it were happening to them. even a word of du3a is sufficient to lessen a hard blow.
Akhi, for your sake I hope you can be more trusting of this ummah and of the good in it..

I meant talking "heart out" and other 1-on-1 close encounters. There is a huge difference between getting educated, which is totally valid and allowed as you pointed out with a beautiful example provided hijab is being observed by both men/women, and talking one's heart out sitting on a table face to face, eye to eye, hands in hands.

as for friends, it was Allah swt, that helped you. Friends come and go. Any person who is a Muslim would/should be able to benefit you, even if they are not friends, as Allah swt said that believers are brothers, so if a believer is not acting like one, you should wonder if they are believers in the first place.

Thanks for your suggestion, its hard to trust anyone in 21st century. I am sure you share this sentiment with me after what we witness in humanity, in hospitals, and elsewhere.

wsalam