Hijaab is not a fashion accessory!

cat eyes said:
well when i entered into islam first i was not wearing the veil because i did not know the importance of it but i was doing all the other stuff. what really made me realise i should wear it is because people were thinking i was a non muslim so at work alot of the time guys and girls would ask me out to cinema,club,pub etc and i felt i was not really protected also i mean i was constantly being asked out by men at work and i felt so cheap that i had to do something about it nobody took my relgious belief seriously until i wore the hijab and thats the truth nobody will treat you with any respect.
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:sl: jazakallah for sharing this with us. May Allah give us all the ability to fulfil his obligations properly and sincerely. Ameen

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That’s not Hijab!


We’ve all been there, you see a sister in skin tight jeans with a teeny scarf barely wrapped around her head, you judge and sometimes, if you’re bold enough, you set her straight. As a new muslim, I wrote an article about Hijab, Alhamdolillah I helped a few sisters to adopt the hijab but I burned many bridges. Perhaps I thought everyone should be at the same place of acceptance and understanding that I was, for certain I did not yet realize that Muslims are like everyone else, imperfect and prone to err.

All too often we see well meaning sisters (and brothers) approaching hot button issues like this without the necessary delicacy or the understanding of the other side of the story (or perhaps not realizing there is another side) We see serious and fragile issues approached with condescending humor or outright attack. But at what expense?

Hijab is Fard (Obligatory)

It’s right there plain for all to see in the Qur’an. Even most our sisters in the skin tight jeans know that and there is no sugar coating here. Hijab, is fard.

The word “Ignorant” is thrown around so often I think most of us are desensitized to it. It has almost become a way to make those we are “correcting” faceless, to make our judgments impersonal and remove the sense of responsibility we should have over our words. Because it’s them that’s ignorant, we’re just educating them, after all, hijab is obligatory! It’s not a choice.

There is this hadith to remind us to own our words, we are responsible for each and every one:

Abû Hurayrah relates that Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his neighbor. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guest.” [ Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim ]

And this Ayah (verse from the Qur’an)

“No good is there in much of their private conversation, except for those who enjoin charity or that which is right, or bring reconciliation between people. And whoever does that seeking Allah’s pleasure, then We shall grant him a great reward.” [ Sûrah al-Nisâ' : 114]

Together this Hadith and Ayah teach us to speak what is right, with good words. If we speak up about hijab and what consists of proper hijab, and we guide someone to the decision to wear it Alhamdolillah! We get a great reward for that. If we speak up about hijab in a way that is not inviting and drive someone away from it, Allahu A’alam (God knows best).

Be Gentle as the Prophet was.

Most of us have read the “humorous” Hijab article describing various types of incorrect hijab with silly nicknames and analogies. I’m sure the authors intentions were not bad, but the affects could be serious. Rather than encouraging sisters towards correct hijab, educating them in the importance, the meaning, the beauty of Hijab it essentially alienates them and makes fun of their interpretations of or attempts at hijab. This will not soften any hearts or guide anyone to the humble and wise beauty that is Hijab.

Thus it is due to mercy from God that you deal with them gently, and had you been rough and hard-hearted, they would certainly have dispersed from around you (Qur’an 3:159)

It is not easy to reserve judgment when we consider a concept so easy, so basic and so fundamental however the manner of the Prophet peace be upon him was not to embarrass and ridicule but to approach in a careful way so as to soften hearts and guide people to what is right.

A bedouin urinated in the mosque and some people rushed to beat him. The Prophet said, ‘Leave him alone and pour a bucket of water over it. You have been sent to make things easy and not to make them difficult‘ (Al-Bukhari)

Islam is a Journey

One thing I think a lot of us forget is that Islam is a journey.

Think of it as a road with almost a billion people walking on it. The one who walks faster is further along, the one who started later is further behind, each person is at a different place on their individual journey. If they fall, our job is to offer a hand up, if they have lost their map, our job is to offer ours as a means of guidance.

Islam was revealed to Muhammad peace be upon him over 23 years, during that time Allah offered transitional laws that were later abrogated, laws were given as the community matured, not all at once. This is not a reason for us to be lazy and take our time with perfecting our character, but it is a reason for us to understand the journey and to accept that everyones understanding and practice will change and evolve over the course of their lives, it’s not for us to dictate the journey each person takes, that is with Allah.

What’s the story?

Everyone has one. Reasons behind what they do and don’t do, things they find difficult deep down in the pit of their stomach, things that mind over matter doesn’t even begin to touch. I have a vast collection of my own. Something I try to remember when talking to anyone, about anything, is their story and how little I know of where they come from and what makes them tick the way they tick, I simply don’t know where their heart is at any given time. Even the hardest heart, is still a beating heart.

Source: http://www.muslimasoasis.com/2010/01/thats-not-hijab/
 
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, what better time than any for our sisters to begin to wear the hijaab properly if they did not do so before Ramadan. Those who have just started wearing it then does it not feel amazing? Does it not feel like freedom for you? Then continue to wear it all through the year and do not listen to others who oppose you or the whispers of shaythan for shaythan is only wanting your destruction.

For those who conceal the beauty are most beautiful in the eyes of Allah and those who reveal their beauty to others is beautiful to shaythan and shaythan is your sworn and eternal enemy. So would you wear it for Allah or take it off for shaythan? Decision is yours but death can come at ANY time and what if it came whilst you were not covered?

May Allah give us all the ability to act upon our obligations and may he make it easy for us and guide us to the straight path. Ameen
 
Akhi your post makes alot of sense, just the other night as I was walking out the masjid a group of sisters were walking in the opposing direction and most of them were wearing black to be honest I didn't really notice them or their faces nothing caused me to look twice, but amongst them was 1 sister who was wearing a really bright hijaab that was also decorated with patterns and naturally my eye picked her up cos the colours and decorative patterns on her hijaab made her stand out so much. It's as if she was going to a wedding the way her hijaab was so heavily decorated. I didn't even notice the sisters who were wearing black but for some reason my eyes picked the bright colours up.
 
Br. Hamzah undoubtedly shares some of the best articles I have read on this forum.. be that as it may, I'd like to emphasize that it is important to wear garments that represent you as a Muslim and represent your religion. Clean/smart and reflective of Allah swt blessings upon you. not wearing skimpy jeans and a colorful scarf doesn't mean that you can't wear clothes that kempt conservative clothes that represent Islam.

When you got for a job interview, everyone is dressed in a smart suit in the three allowed colors as dictated by the 'corporate world' Black/Gray/Navy blue.. no one dresses in busy looking, skin tight, meant to seduce outfits and everyone complies with that because they want a job.. well think of what you'd want when you desire to attain paradise.

I find it disheartening when I see Muslims either wearing ridiculous western garb, or dressing like unkempt paupers to feed into stereotypes about us.

please be mindful of Allah swt blessings upon you without being prodigal..

and Allah swt knows best

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I saw fawta talking about colours of hijab. The fawta mentioned (I will search for it and post it here ishallah) that it depend on where you are. He said if you are in a country where people wear coloured clothing (like somalia for example where they were green, blue, yellow all sort of colours really but the covered fully) then it would be okay. And if you where in country where people wore dark clothing, coloured clothing would be unacceptable because you stnad out.


Anyway the point was the person would not stand out so it depend where they are too.


Give me time to look for it.
 
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, Unfortunatley many of our sisters go out and wear hijaab of innappropriate colours which attract too much attention to themselves which goes against the very purpose of hijaab but this also applies to some men. I myself have seen many brothers in the Masjid who wear bright red, pink, orange and yellow tops.

It is innappropriate for a male to be wearing bright orange, red, pink and yellow tops for it is forbidden for a male to dress feminine and imitate women in anyway with regards to the way they dress. It is also innappropriate for males to be wearing low cut tops and tops which are too tight on the body for they are imitating women by dressing so feminine.

Women are allowed to wear any colour of clothing but when going out they should be very careful not to choose colours which may attract too much attention. It is contrary to the purpose of hijaab to wear bright pink and red coloured hijaab but there is nothing wrong with wearing darker colours but brighter ones should be avoided when going out. When they are at home in front of mahrams they can wear whatever colour they like.

Unfortunatley there are many of our sisters out there who wear hijaab in a fashionable way like behind there ears with their whole neck and ears showing with huge earings on and hijaab like a camels hump and also hijaab with ten inches of makeup. One should ask themselves what there intention is behind wearing hijaab in this way? Some say it is better than nothing but is it really? By wearing the hijaab in this way they are influencing others to wear the hijaab in the same way and that is why so many unfortunatley wear hijaab innappropriatley. With hijaab comes responsibility and that responsibility is that they may influence other sisters to think that it is acceptable to wear hijaab in such a way. This also applies to men who dress to imitate kufaar and dress so femininley. What impression is this giving to our younger youth who grow up to look upto us and get influenced by us whether we like it or not.

Therefore let us realise that we have responsibilites in the way we dress outside and that this should not be taken for granted for shaythan always wants to play his evil hands in every aspect of our lives. Males should not wear feminine bright colours so tightly and low cut for this is not only imitating the kufaar but also imitating the women and such people are cursed.

We should be careful of letting shaythan play a part in the way we dress for he is always trying to influence us and deceive us until eventually we are committing major sins without even realising it. So we should wake up and try to wake others up but in a gentle, beautiful manner using wisdom and tact. The best dawah we can give to others is the way we dress ourselves for if we dress appropriatley then this will influence others to dress the same inshallah.

May Allah save us and guide us to the straight path. Ameen
 
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I couldn't find the one I was taking about but found this:


Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


Dear questioner! Thank you for this question, which reflects a true desire to learn more about Islam and its guidance and to live accordingly.


In the first place, it should be noted that there are certain requirements for a Muslim woman's dress. These are:


1. It must cover the whole body.

2. It must not be tight or transparent.

3. It must not delineate the parts of the body, especially those parts that are sexually attractive.

4. It must not be a dress that is usually worn by men.


Jurists, including Imam Ash-Shafi`i, have unanimously agreed that hijab is obligatory upon every woman; however, they differ on covering the face. Some jurists hold that the face must be covered whereas others maintain that it is merely a recommended act.


There is no specific significance for the color black to say that the dress should be black. In some cultures, certain colors are reserved for men; in such a case, a woman should not wear those colors while in that cultural setting.


Elaborating on this issue, Sheikh Muhmmad Saleh Al-Munajjid, a prominent Muslim scholar and Saudi lecturer, issues the following fatwa:

“It is not one of the conditions pertaining to the Muslim woman's dress that it should be black. A woman may wear whatever she wants, so long as she does not wear a color that is only for men [according to the custom of the country], and she does not wear a garment that is an adornment in itself, that is, decorated and adorned in such a way that it attracts the gaze of men, because of the general meaning of the verse:‘and not to show off their adornment…’ (An-Nur: 31)

“This general meaning includes the outer garment, if it is decorated. Abu Dawud narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: ‘Do not prevent the female slaves of Allah from attending the mosques of Allah, but let them go out unadorned.’”

In the Fatwas of the Standing Committee for Fatwa and Research in Kingdom of Saudi Arabia we read:

"It is not permissible for a woman to go out in a decorated garment that attracts people’s gaze, because this is something that tempts men.

“The dress of the Muslim woman need not only be black. It is permissible for her to wear any color of clothing so long as it covers her `awrah (the parts of the body that have to be covered), does not resemble men’s clothing, and is not so tight as to show the shape of her limbs or so thin as to show what is beneath it, and does not provoke temptation.

“It is not a must for women to wear black. They may wear other colors that are worn only by women, do not attract attention, and do not provoke desire.

“Many women choose to wear black, not because it is obligatory, but because it is farthest removed from being an adornment. There are reports that indicate that the women of the Companions used to wear black. Abu Dawud narrated that Umm Salamah said: ‘When the words ‘and to draw their veils all over juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms [one interpretation of the meaning])’ (An-Nur: 31) were revealed, the women of the Ansar (Helpers) went out looking as if there were crows on their heads because of their garments.’

“This is to be understood as meaning that those clothes were black in color.”

Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.islam-qa.com


Also read:


Requirements of the Muslim Woman's Dress



Read more: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503547294#ixzz0y26OQ3ml
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ive realised wearing full black does not attract anyone.
 
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sweet106 said:
I saw fawta talking about colours of hijab. The fawta mentioned (I will search for it and post it here ishallah) that it depend on where you are. He said if you are in a country where people wear coloured clothing (like somalia for example where they were green, blue, yellow all sort of colours really but the covered fully) then it would be okay. And if you where in country where people wore dark clothing, coloured clothing would be unacceptable because you stnad out.


Anyway the point was the person would not stand out so it depend where they are too.


Give me time to look for it.
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I totally agree!! Here most of the time for exmple in weddings n those places people usually wear colourful dresses, for exm. pink. all the dress n pant is pink and wht abt the head? so EVERYONE i guess i hvnt seen exception here, match their dress colour with their hijabs. But, in case someone wears black dress,, they 'd wear black hijab aswell.
I guess it depends on what u wear, if u wear something colourful then its ok.
 
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how would you go around advising sisters about modesty in places where there are alot of sisters (such as a masjid). individually, the task may not be so hard...so if you see one or two sisters whose dress doesn't conform to the sunnah in a group of hundreds, generally it would be easy to advise...or perhaps even a sister you may bump into at the mall or something...again it is easier to advise. but how would you go about advising alot of sisters? could putting up a poster concerning the conditions of hijab, etc on the notice boards in majids/community centers do the trick? any ideas?
 
Ummu Sufyaan said:
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how would you go around advising sisters about modesty in places where there are alot of sisters (such as a masjid). individually, the task may not be so hard...so if you see one or two sisters whose dress doesn't conform to the sunnah in a group of hundreds, generally it would be easy to advise...or perhaps even a sister you may bump into at the mall or something...again it is easier to advise. but how would you go about advising alot of sisters? could putting up a poster concerning the conditions of hijab, etc on the notice boards in majids/community centers do the trick? any ideas?
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Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, jazakallahu khayran for your concern for other sisters. We should all strive to give dawah to others and to aslo constantly improve ourselves.

When advising sisters one to one then one must be careful not to sound attacking or judgmental lest the sister gets defensive and once this happens then they would not want to listen. Rather than say "you should", say "we should" and that will get a better reaction.

We must use wisdom and tact when approaching such issues and be gentle but firm in that the commands of Allah must be obeyed properly because unfortunatley some sisters want to find loop holes and that is why some wear the hijaab as a fashion accessory and think that it is alright to wear tight clothes and x amount of makeup for surely they arebeing decieved by shaythan.

In regards to how one can get the message across to many sisters then as you suggested posters can be very effective especially if they are eye catching and will draw the attention of those who are passing the notice board.

The poster should be eye catching but not too colourful so as to dilute the message of the poster but eye catching enough to draw attention of passers by so that they may read the poster. These posters should be put in University Islamic societies in the sisters sections as well as in local community centres and sisters sections in the Masjids.

Simplified versions of these posters can also be put up in notice boards in young Islamic girls schools so that they can learn at an early age that hijaab must be worn properly with jilbaab.

It may also be an idea to include this dawah in monthly Islamic newsletters especially those for sisters as well as e mail campaigns that can be forwarded to sisters encouraging them to forward to other sisters as the world wibe web is a great way of getting the right message accross a wider area in a short amount of time. Even short simple text reminders can be sent to sisters encouraging sisters to send to their friends etc.

It may also be a good idea to give out free leaflets in any sisters events or these leaflets can be left in the sisters section in Majids, community centres and Islamic societies in Universities etc for sisters to pick up at their own free will.

There is also quite a large Muslim community that take part in social networking sites like Facebook so there should be good articles and reminders on this topic circulating and posted on these social networking sites so that other sisters can read and benefit from them.

It is all about knowledge and so teachers in Islamic school for girls should be encouraged to get this message accross especially at an early age and there should be more talks about this important topic in the various sisters events that take place and in Islamic societies in Universities and local community centres. There should be regular reminders and lectures on this important topic.

One should also continue to make dua that all the sisters wear the hijaab properly and that Allah guide them to the right path. We should ask of Allah to make our dawah have a positive effect on people.

We should also remember that the best dawah is the way we come across in regards to our character. If we come across humble,respectful and one of good character then this is the best dawah we can give to others because they will see us in a positive light and will think that there is some good in this person and in what they follow but if we come across the opposite then no one will want to listen to us or take anything from us.

And Allah knows best in all matters
 
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Not my Muslimah Fashion Police!

As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

There are very knowledgeable, practicing Muslimah who lead by example in every Masjid. It amazes me that the Muslim brothers are the fashion police for sisters. Especially when they are not the sisters Mahram (unmarriageable kin) or Wali.

All Muslims are directed to observe modesty in dress. The extra direction for Muslim women is only to protect them from men.

The offensive dress of the tight fitting chinos, shorts, and pants worn by brothers is just as much an issue. (Very effeminate)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4jQi0Gjy3M

This was submitted with the best intentions and the best construction should be applied. Insha Allah
 
Re: Not my Muslimah Fashion Police!

sabr* said:
As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

There are very knowledgeable, practicing Muslimah who lead by example in every Masjid. It amazes me that the Muslim brothers are the fashion police for sisters. Especially when they are not the sisters Mahram (unmarriageable kin) or Wali.

All Muslims are directed to observe modesty in dress. The extra direction for Muslim women is only to protect them from men.

The offensive dress of the tight fitting chinos, shorts, and pants worn by brothers is just as much an issue. (Very effeminate)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4jQi0Gjy3M

This was submitted with the best intentions and the best construction should be applied. Insha Allah
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Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, jazakallahu khayran brother i also mentioned hijaab for men in my post before the last one last so please feel free to read my posts in this thread and unfortunatley this is a growing trend with our brothers and sisters which is contrary to Islamic teachings

This thread was also submitted with the best of intentions to highlight this growing issue. May this thread have a positive effect on those who read it inshallah.

And Allah knows best in all matters
 
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some sisters wear radioactive material just like the power rangers

pink...blue...red...yellow

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