Hijab

Re: The Veil (Hijab)

Great post masha'allah...

Another example is of the famous scholar Ibn Hanbal. He was walking in the market and a breeze of air lifted a woman's dress and he saw her ankle accidentally. His reaction was shocked and angry saying: these are the days of the corruption!


But that wasn't her fault, it was the wind.....:confused:



Shukri said:
if the scarf is too tight around your head
:confused:



 
Assalaamu'alaykum

Dear sister sumayyah,

Jazzakallahu khayran for your excellent and touching post...

I am a revert of nearly two years... but I did not wear the hijab immediately after my reversion. I have been told that if I did, things would've been easier for my family to accept.

But about 3 weeks ago, I decided to put on the hijab, alhamdulillah.

But this is not after much seeking, reading, finding out, praying, asking for guidance... and squashing fears of this and that, and not allowing syaitan to have a field day with my thoughts...

I was so worried about this and that... but the day I just decided to wear it, I felt really relieved. I am human and I am sinning every day... but by not wearing the hijab I was sinning every day... it was a big relief to know that I am able to be in control of committing a sin knowingly...

My mother cried. Every time she looks at or think of me, she cries. My grandad asked for brandy during dinner time when he saw me, something he has never done before in the 89 years of his life. My uncles and aunts look at me funny (but alhamdulillah they haven't said anything mean...). I just lost a couple of friends (hopefully for the time being, but if not, it would be for my own good..)... my sister consoled my mom saying that I was only becoming more old-fashioned in my dressing... and there is surely more to come...

But to withstand all these, I just tell myself that I am doing it for Allah's sake and ALlah's sake alone... that is enough to keep me going, insya Allah.

I must admit it was tough taking the first step... but the first step IS always the toughest...

I had a brother who (I am sure he had good intentions however) asked me in a group of brothers and sisters, wheN I was going to wear the hijab. To tell you the truth, I was very ashamed and embarrassed... but I was also upset to a certain extent because I was struggling within myself to wear the hijab and here comes someone who has no idea of what I was going through - and he just asked me outright in front of so many people. I was upset, but I told myself it was meant to be and maybe Allah has His reasons for that happening...

But alhamdulillah... slowly but surely my family will accept me...

I must admit, I did not want to wear the hijab initially, because I wanted to know more about Islam and to love it sincerely... only then I decided to put the hiijab on... I didn't want to take it out halfway nauzhu billah...

Alhamdulillah.. I have only Allah to be grateful to for my decision....

Wassalaamu'alaykum,
rayhana
 
Abdul Aziz said:
why can't women initiate divorce according to the sharia?I think I asked this before and received replies that women can provided they were oppressed.Any hadiths on this matter?

:sl:

umm generally speaking why?

ok i answer this as a woman (well duh)

a man, when in anger can hold back. it takes only a few words for a divorce

everytime a woman is angry she would scream divorce. and trust me that WOULD happen
so can you imagine it? :coolsis:
 
Asalaam 'Alaikum Dearest Rayhana:

I am glad that you enjoyed the post . . .

I understand how hard it must have been to make the decision to wear the hijab and I am glad that you finally were able to get to that point, masha'Allah. Mabruk! It is difficult just dealing with things on your own . . . but when you also have a close extended family it is even more difficult because you have all these other people's reactions to contend with. Alhumdulilah, Allah made you strong enough to make this decision and strong enough to stick with it. I can't say everything is going to be perfect . . . but it will get easier and soon hijab will be a part of you - something you couldn't imagine ever going without.

About losing the friends . . . if they were truly friends, they would accept you as you are and not worry about how you are dressed. Also, I think that in time, you may find . . . as I have . . . that it is hard having friends who are not Muslim because their lives are so different than ours . . . their goals are different . . . what they like is different. And Allah knows best. When I started wearing hijab, I also had non-Muslim friends that I worked with. Every chance they got . . . they seemed not to be able to help themselves . . . they would always make comments that were disturbing or disrespect my position. It got old . . . fast . . .

As for the brother and what he said . . . when we set aside the anger and pain . . . what he said is true . . . we must wear the hijab. However, people are often (unfortunately) quite insensitive to the fact of how hard things can be for someone who is new to Islam. It is hard for them to 'step in our shoes' so to speak. I would just say . . . think of the best . . . assume the brother just had your best interest at heart and leave it at that. There's no point being upset about it or being angry. Although - I know it is sometimes easier to hold onto those feelings than to actually look at the issue . . . which is that he was right. Don't worry . . . your post didn't come out like you were A N G R Y or anything . . . but perhaps your feelings were hurt?

As for your family . . . you seem to be blessed . . . for while they are having problems adjusting, they at least are accepting of the situation. Many people who become Muslim who have close families . . . the family openly disrespects them . . . kicks them out of the house . . . and I am sure it's not easy for them. Just be patient, kind and loving towards your family . . . show them Islam in action. Just don't use them as an excuse not to do something we know we should do . . . If they see you have strength of purpose and they also see the beauty of your actions as a Muslim . . . who knows, they may also become Muslim. And . . . make lots of dua that they do become Muslim, insha'Allah.

Asalaam' Alaikum,
Sumayyah Umm Sadiqah wa Asma

rayhana said:
Assalaamu'alaykum

Dear sister sumayyah,

Jazzakallahu khayran for your excellent and touching post...

I am a revert of nearly two years... but I did not wear the hijab immediately after my reversion. I have been told that if I did, things would've been easier for my family to accept.

But about 3 weeks ago, I decided to put on the hijab, alhamdulillah.

But this is not after much seeking, reading, finding out, praying, asking for guidance... and squashing fears of this and that, and not allowing syaitan to have a field day with my thoughts...

I was so worried about this and that... but the day I just decided to wear it, I felt really relieved. I am human and I am sinning every day... but by not wearing the hijab I was sinning every day... it was a big relief to know that I am able to be in control of committing a sin knowingly...

My mother cried. Every time she looks at or think of me, she cries. My grandad asked for brandy during dinner time when he saw me, something he has never done before in the 89 years of his life. My uncles and aunts look at me funny (but alhamdulillah they haven't said anything mean...). I just lost a couple of friends (hopefully for the time being, but if not, it would be for my own good..)... my sister consoled my mom saying that I was only becoming more old-fashioned in my dressing... and there is surely more to come...

But to withstand all these, I just tell myself that I am doing it for Allah's sake and ALlah's sake alone... that is enough to keep me going, insya Allah.

I must admit it was tough taking the first step... but the first step IS always the toughest...

I had a brother who (I am sure he had good intentions however) asked me in a group of brothers and sisters, wheN I was going to wear the hijab. To tell you the truth, I was very ashamed and embarrassed... but I was also upset to a certain extent because I was struggling within myself to wear the hijab and here comes someone who has no idea of what I was going through - and he just asked me outright in front of so many people. I was upset, but I told myself it was meant to be and maybe Allah has His reasons for that happening...

But alhamdulillah... slowly but surely my family will accept me...

I must admit, I did not want to wear the hijab initially, because I wanted to know more about Islam and to love it sincerely... only then I decided to put the hiijab on... I didn't want to take it out halfway nauzhu billah...

Alhamdulillah.. I have only Allah to be grateful to for my decision....

Wassalaamu'alaykum,
rayhana
 
may Allah make things easy for you! but hey even if you struggle in this world (and life is a test) you will get your reward for every step you take for Allahs pleasure. May Allah give you strength in everything you do for his sake.
 
muslimbychoice said:
Asalaam 'Alaikum Dearest Rayhana:

About losing the friends . . . if they were truly friends, they would accept you as you are and not worry about how you are dressed. Also, I think that in time, you may find . . . as I have . . . that it is hard having friends who are not Muslim because their lives are so different than ours . . . their goals are different . . . what they like is different. And Allah knows best. When I started wearing hijab, I also had non-Muslim friends that I worked with. Every chance they got . . . they seemed not to be able to help themselves . . . they would always make comments that were disturbing or disrespect my position. It got old . . . fast . . .

Assalaamu'alaykum sister sumayyah,

Yes, I must agree with you.. on one hand I would love to be with the friends I used to spend so much of my time with, but on the other hand, I realise that our goals are different... and when that happens, we just don't know what to talk about... most of my friends don't know that I am wearing the hiijab yet, but those who do.. well, most of them just don't want to meet up with me at the moment. But Allah knows best, and He knows what's best for us. alhamdulillah.

About the brother, well, I am no more upset. I was. But learnt to accept the fact that Allah had willed it to happen. Maybe another sister could pull him aside and tell him nicely that if he really wanted to ask about when a sister is going to don the hijab, maybe he should ask a sister to do so, and not do it in a group. Allah knows best. But I am okay with it no problem not angry whatsoever, i was! But no anymore :)

Yes, I am blessed for I have not been kicked out of the house.. alhamdulillah.. but really, my mother has been seeing me less.. I guess she still needs to come to terms with the fact that her daughter is going all weird (in her eyes anyway...) and well, my father alhamdulillah is taking it alright.. but I pray to Allah to make it easy for them too...

It feels great that so many around the world can give support because we are all one big family, it is amazing isn't it.. irrespective of race or colour or whatever... it doesn't matter for Islam IS for all of mankind. Subhanallah.

sister sabr (great nick :)) and sister Rabi'ya... amin to the dua's.. :)

Jazzakallahu khayran sister... may Allah bless you and your family and may He guide us all to the straight path. Amin.

Wassalaamu'alaykum,
rayhana
 
Asalaam 'Alaikum:

I wish you all the success in this endeavor and may Allah shine on you the light of knowledge about Islam and the patience to deal with those who are less than understanding of your position.

Just think . . . becoming a Muslim has opened up a whole new world to you . . . and a whole new spectrum of friends to find. We have something really special because we have a unity that knows no boundaries . . .

I agree that you might want to get someone to talk to the brother and advise him on the proper manner of giving naseehah. There are articles on that subject all over the internet . . . just do a search on naseehah or islam & advice.

Give your family time to adjust. If they are anything like my family . . . they may be praying this is a phase and that you will get out of it soon. Once they see you are serious and dedicated . . . they may relax a little.


With love for the sake of Allah,
Asalaam 'Alaikum
Sumayyah Umm Sadiqah wa Asma
 
salaams
i do not yet wear a hijaab insha'Allah i am going to start wearing one, and reading this post has made me want t owear a hijaab even more, the part about the husband is true,jazakallah for such a lovely post.
God Bless U!
 
Asalmualikum I know that this article is kinda a long article, but I hope that all the sisters here read it. It’ll give u an idea of how important hijab is in Islam.

Where is your Hijab
In The Name Of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All Praise And Thanks Are Due To Allah, And Peace And Blessings Be Upon His Messenger.



By JUNDULLAH



Dear sister in Islam, thanks a lot for taking the time to read this article. This article has been written mostly for those sisters who do not wear the Hijab, for those who have not yet understood the importance of the Hijab, and for all those who wear the Hijab but failing to fulfill its requirements.



“Jewels Are Precious – So Protect Them”. Sister you are the Jewel, you are Precious, and you need Protection. Your Creator has shown you long ago how to protect yourself but Laa, No you won’t heed him, you will do what you like, dress yourself as you like and go wherever you like… and afterwards you’ll cry, but for some of you it will be too LATE.



“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that what is apparent, and to draw their veil over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands’ fathers, or their sons or their husbands’ sons, or their brothers’ sons or sisters’ sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women’s nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.” (An-Nur 24:31)



From the above verse it is easily understood that, apart from lowering her gaze, a woman must not display any part of her body. We also understand from the same verse that a woman must cover her chest and should not reveal her adornment to anyone except to her husband, father, father-in-law… as stated in the above verse.

So, to fulfill Allah’s command, you should wear a Hijab.



What is a Hijab? In the Qu’ran, the term Hijab is used of the attire of the Muslim woman as a whole, but also includes the way she lives and acts. In everyday language it often refers to the veil or scarf itself which must cover the head and chest.

Hijab is derived from the Arabic word hajaba which means to conceal or to prevent from being seen. So a Hijab can be an opaque piece of cloth which covers your body from the public’s eyes.



What is the purpose of the Hijab? The purpose of the Hijab in Islam is not to cut Muslim women from participating in the activities of the society or to keep men and women utterly segregated or to make it hard for women to function normally in life. Rather, the Hijab is to help women maintain their dignity and honour as free persons and to help them fulfill their obligation smoothly and comfortably.

The Hijab has been prescribed for your own good dear sister. It protects you from the lusty intentions of evil people. The Hijab is meant to preserve your dignity, O Muslim sister!

Hence like all other Shari’ah-based commands, Hijab should be given due care, for it brings countless fruits and benefits. Hijab is the proper Islamic dress code, which is primarily intended to safeguard modesty, dignity and honour of men and women. In instructing you to wear the Hijab, Allah has given Muslim women what they can bear of injunctions and obligations, for Allah says,



“And We do not lay on any soul a burden except to the extent of it’s ability, and with Us is a Book which speaks the truth, and they shall not be dealt with injustly.” (Al-Mu’minune 23: 62)



What are the requirements of the Hijab? The requisites of Hijab or proper Islamic clothing for women:-

1. It should cover the whole body except face and hands. (may cover face and hands if you wish so)

2. It should be loose-fitting.

3. It should not be transparent or revealing.

4. It should not be an attire specifically worn by men only.

The first condition can be supported by taking a look at the verse stated above (An-Nur: 31). As for the second one, the clothes you wear should not be tight so that it does not take the form of your body. Also the clothes should not be transparent and should not be in such a way that your body is revealed. Finally the attire should not be one that is worn only by men because the Prophet (s.a.w) had once said that there will be punishment for those men who imitate women and vice-versa. So, women are not said to be imitating men only when they cut their hair or while doing activities that should have been done only by men, but also while clothing themselves as them. O you Muslim sisters, abide by the laws of Allah. Follow your only guide, AL-QUR’AN. As long as your clothes fulfill the above conditions, then you don’t have to worry.



Hijab is a duty that the Almighty has prescribed for Muslim women, for woman like YOU. Don’t you know? Don’t you know what Allah has said in the Holy Book? Allah says:



“It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by God and his Apostle, to have any option about their decision: if anyone disobeys God and his Apostle, he is indeed on a clearly wrong path. ”. (Al-Ahzab: 36)



It is clear that Allah Almighty has obliged Muslim women to wear Hijab in order to preserve them from bedizenment (to dress or ornament with showy finery) which would definitely make them prone to harassment and render them an easy prey for depraved men with lusty motives. Thus Hijab is meant to protect you, to protect your honour and dignity, and to protect you from the illnesses of our society. Hijab is also meant to safeguard and protect the whole society from temptation and secure the stability of marital lives.



Now, after reading the above verses and this article, don’t you feel at least a little guilty for having disobeyed Allah for so long. So, what are you waiting for? Don’t you think its time to bring the real Islam back into your life? Why do you want to be like those Kuffars when you have the deen of Haq (truth) in your hand? Can’t you see that you are being manipulated by the Kaffirs? Can’t you see?

So what are you WAITING for? RETURN BACK TO YOUR LORD! RETURN BACK TO ALLAH! Ask for His forgiveness for all those years that you have sinned. GO AND GRAB THAT HIJAB!!!



If a person refuses to wear the Hijab after knowing that it is a requirement mandated by Allah, then she is truly a transgressor and guilty of a serious offence in the sight of Allah. She will surely be punished for this sin unless Allah wants otherwise.



Why do you want to be the pleasure of public’s eyes by exposing your body and beauty? Why? DON’T YOU REMEMBER WHAT ALLAH SAYS IN THE THIRTY-FIRST VERSE OF SURAH AN-NUR? If ever you have to expose your body, then do it only in front of your husband and not for the public.

Who do you FEAR? ALLAH or the KAAFIRS? Are you ashame to wear the Hijaab only because these Kuffars will make fun of you? Won’t you be ashamed then when Allah will ask you why you didn’t obey him? Can’t you do it only for the pleasure of your creator?



You are not wearing the Hijab because you are afraid that these Kaafirs will say that your Hijab is something that is outdated. No my sister, they will say this only because they are IGNORANT. Due to the decrease in moral values nowadays, circumstances have made Hijab even more than necessary. In our society of today, human are like wolves in clothes with lusty motives and ideas under their scalps. With sex crimes constantly increasing and “liberated women” in the society, they now face high chances of being sexually harassed or raped. Allah made the Hijab compulsory so as to protect you from harm dear sister. Be it you are going to school, to work, or to any other places, you must wear your Hijab. This is Allah’s law, and be aware that the Almighty’s laws has got no flaws. Many IGNORANTS will tell you that your Hijab is like a portable prison that restricts your mind and life. Do you know why they say this nonsense to you? This is because they want you to fall victim to their plots. So, beware! Don’t be naïve enough to slide away from the rope of Allah. Wake up O Muslim sister, WAKE UP!!!



Do you know why the number of rapes is increasing? Do you Know? Its because of women who don’t want to accept the laws of the Almighty, women who are ready to compromise Islam, women who are ready to reject the Truth. Yes my dear sister, we know you won’t compromise Islam, we know that like all of us you want to be in Jannah one day and we know that you have Imaan in your heart. So, for the sake of Allah, just to be in Jannah, just to make the difference between you and the Kaafirs, AS FROM NOW REPENT, REPENT FOR HAVING DISOBEYED YOUR CREATOR AND START WEARING YOUR HIJAB AS FROM TODAY ONLY FOR ALLAH’S PLEASURE AND FOR THE PLACE (JANNAH) THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE IN ONE DAY.



There is only two destinations after death; one is Jannah and the other one is the Hell. My dear sister you are at a cross-road, its time to take your decision now. SO NOW THINK ABOUT IT AND DON’T LET SHAITWAAN HELP YOU TO TAKE THIS DECISION, AND MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL DON’T LET HIM BLIND YOU. We hope that Allah will help you take the right decision. AMEEN.
 
salaam alakum all,

in answer to your question yes hijaab (ie covering the body and head in such a way that only face and hands are visible) is an obligation for muslim women, Allhumdulilah it is a wonderful thing when you understand why you are wearing it and seek to please Allah.

ne of the verses in the Quran protects a woman's fundamental rights. Verse 59 of Surah Al-Ahzaab reads: "O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when outside) : so that they should be known (as such) and not molested".

Muslims differ as to niqaab(the face veil) but Allahu alam,
personally i wear hijab and a jilbab or long coat.

jazakallah khair for sharing this article its very good.
 
I should also add that not wearing a hijab doesnt take you outside the fold of Islam and as muslims we should be patient with the sisters not yet wearing the hijaab, we are not born knowing.

Sometimes sisters interested in practising are snubbed by hijaabis because they dont wear hijaab.

the first time i went to a mosque, i wasnt really appropriatly dressed, my hijaab kept slipping and my dress wasnt quite long enough, Allhumdulilah the wonderful sisters there, pinned my hijaab tighter for me and lent me a jilbab to pray in, may Allah reward them well for thier kindness if they had looked at all disapprovingly at me i think i would have been crushed and had a hard time returning to that masjid.
 
ummbilal said:
I should also add that not wearing a hijab doesnt take you outside the fold of Islam and as muslims we should be patient with the sisters not yet wearing the hijaab, we are not born knowing.

Sometimes sisters interested in practising are snubbed by hijaabis because they dont wear hijaab.

the first time i went to a mosque, i wasnt really appropriatly dressed, my hijaab kept slipping and my dress wasnt quite long enough, Allhumdulilah the wonderful sisters there, pinned my hijaab tighter for me and lent me a jilbab to pray in, may Allah reward them well for thier kindness if they had looked at all disapprovingly at me i think i would have been crushed and had a hard time returning to that masjid.
MashaAllah thats really nice.... Although i did not get this treatment from my mosque when i first went. nobody commented and very soon I was more aware of how I dressed

MashaAllah sister, seems like you got a nice group of sisters around u :)

Rabi'ya:rose:
 

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