How can I approach a Muslim girl in a halal manner?

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Its not her clothes and make-up. She is genuinely beautiful and a good muslim. Its why I would like to marry her one day

So, you can approach her one day when you have ready to get married, not today.

For this time it's better if you try to change your special feeling to her into 'ordinary' feeling. It's not too hard, you can do it. Then one day after you have ready to marry a woman you can approach her. If she has been married or already accept proposal from someone else, you can try to approach other girl, in halal manner, of course.

When I was 17 I was attracted to a girl in my high school who I didn't even knew her name until next year. She was not popular girl, even she's a quite girl, and considered as average, not beautiful.

Just like you, I wanted to approach that girl but I didn't know how, even I did not dare to talk with her. What I did just came to school earlier and sat near the school gate, wait for her would pass in front of me. And after school hour had over, I quit from the classroom quickly and sat near the gate again. ;D

But then I tried to make myself busy and focus in my activity. I could. Then my feeling to her turned into 'ordinary' feeling. And later I just knew her name.

Do you have a hobby?. Try to active and focus to your hobby, or to an activity which you like.

And how to approach a girl? To be honest I don't know. The advice in my previous post is sourced from an article, not from my experience. I was in position that approached by girl, not in position that approach girl. That's happened after I graduated from high school.

But let me clarify. A woman marry us, not because we are handsome or rich, but because she accept us. If we are handsome and rich but she does not accept us, we cannot marry her. If we are not handsome and not rich but she accept us, we can marry her.

So, make yourself "Acceptable".

What is "acceptable" person?. this is person who respected by people. And he is respected by people because he always respect people and always treat people well.

Of course, become the "acceptable" person is not a guarantee we will be accepted by a girl who we want to marry. But at least, if this girl reject us, another girl must be accept us. We don't need to expect all women in the world will accept us because we will not marry all women in the world. Accepted by one woman is enough.

Is too early if you try to approach a girl now. Try to change your special feeling to her into 'ordinary' feeling. Build your personality to make you become the acceptable person, and learn how to treat women nicely. It will make you easy to be accepted by a woman because women expect someone who can treat them nicely.

You can start with treat all women around you nicely. Your mother, your grandma, your aunties, your sisters, and all other women around you.