As-salaamu'Alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu brothers and sisters,
I am looking for advice on how to help my husband with his imaan.
Some background information:
Masha'Allaah my husband is a very knowledgeable man and he used to be very righteous. He was very involved in the islamic community. He used to give lectures, teach qur'an, he had his own islamic bookstore and dawah center masha'Allaah. But we live in a western country and they did not like who my husband was, so the national security came and interrogated him. They searched his computer, his books, tapes, but they did not find anything to charge him with so instead they took his passport. He is now not allowed to leave the country, to go to hajj or see his family (who he has not seen now for over 15 years subhan'Allaah)
Ever since then my husbands imaan has just dropped. Subhan'Allaah. He just prays his fardh (alhamdulillaah) but that is it. I try and get him to pray in the masjid, pray his sunnah, read qur'an but he just says 'insha'Allah insha'Allah' and never does it.... or he will say 'I will do it for Allaah and myself, not for you'..
I know men don't really like being told what to do by a woman... so I'd love some advice on how I can help him increase his imaan insha'Allaah.
salam alaikum sister,
Subhan'Allah when i hear things like that i get so :raging: i dont know why some people are so evil. Gosh why can thy not just leave innocent people alone and go after their agendas of gaining control of oil!
never mind lets leave them to Allah swt the most Just Judge of all, each soul will get due in proportion for what thier own hands have earned so we will get justice Insha'Allah.
it is clear that this is the time when your husband is being tested and he needs to strive hard and bulid His imaan, nothing happens without Allah swt's will that we know and he knows too he knows it all sister but at times each and everyone of us needs to be reminded.
i dont think you are totally right about men not liking to be told what to do by a woman, it is the way the make it out to seem, but in secret without making it known to us women they do ponder over what we say and many times act upon it, women in most cases are the motivators of their husbands but what you need to realise that you need to Insha'Allah motivate him indirectly. if you have already tried to do so directly and it has not worked much now try indirectly.dont nag and carry on about it or for him to do this and that cos even though your only saying it for his own benefit and good, the chances of him acting upon it will not be high.
i suggest that you know try to set an example for him, the most beautiful and valueable lesson i personally myself hve learnt this year that even if you mean good and do something for someone for their own benefit if not done in the appropriate manner then your attempts will be fruitless, trying to force something down someone's throat is not the way to go.
i suggest that you start motivating him indirectly and set an example for him, what heused to be and do, start going to the mosque yourself to perform you salah, on sundays start off with gathering family children around or relatives and start to teach them the Quran, be involved in the muslim community more and the more your husband sees this the more he will be motivated dont say anything to him and dont tell him to do this and that just totaly leave him alone, but make sure that visually he sees this especially you teaching the kids Quran, then one day make up and excuse say something has come up or so and so needs help and you have to go but all the kids are coming round and ask him in the most loving manner if he would do the favour of teaching them instead for today.
and i promise you that Insha'Allah slowly slowy he himself will start again, motivation is not just done by words, it can be dne by actions, it can be direct or indirect, i have myself realised that indirect motivation for me has been the most effective and better way.
when i became a practisig muslim it bothered me a lot being a part of a non practisng muslim and i used to go out of my way to teach and enlightenmy family members and in return i used to get laughed at and my feelings would get hurt, but i wouldnt stop, i became so determined and was so passionate about that it came to the point where i was being a bit forceful, not physically of course but my family members would avoid the whole subject altogether and if by mistake someone brought it up everyone would disappear thinking oh she she goes again.
so i realised and gave up but Alhumdullilah this is the beauty of Allah swt, cos my intentions were clean and pure, i started to leave them to it and just crried on with myself and slowly slowly i realised that my own family members who would run away from me and discussions about islam started to approach me and ask me themselves, my nieces were motivated and inspired by just watching me to pray and would come to me and ask me if they could pray with me.
so be patient sister Insha'Allah Allah swt will reward you for your true intentions and means to do your husband good and make loads of dua...
i pray that Allah swt stregthens his imaan within his heart again and always keeps both of you guided to His straight path and bestows jannah upon you both to sbide therein for eternity.:statisfie
i ll keep u in my duaa's inashallah 
salam wa 3lykom