How can I stop over sharing the good and the bad

[unknownab]

In the past 2-3 years I have gained a bad habit of over sharing things in my personal life whether that be family issues for an example issues with my mother etc and even the good things that happen in my life . I would like to stop doing this but for some reason over sharing comes so easily to me before i would be nervous to tell anyone about my problems but in these past years it’s been quite the opposite. I would really like to stop this habit but i’m not sure how i think i do it so i can keep a conversation going with a person and as usually when stuff happens i like to get different opinions and support. Over sharing has done more bad then good for me as a few weeks ago one of the girls i felt comfortable sharing things with we had a small argument and they told people about the problems that i told them about and told them to keep private. I never expected them to do this as we had discussed this issue before and that person agreed with me saying anyone who shares peoples private things that they tell them is a bad person yet they went and did exactly that. I have also noticed that when i share good things with a certain person good things such as i got into university or if something good happens to me or a trip that i am going on it gets delayed or it doesn’t happen on the dates to when it is supposed to happen. I am writing this to ask for advice on how i can stop doing these things and if anyone can give me alternative options so that i still have a way to express how i feel and let everything out without telling people. I just want to become a more private person as the less people know about u the better.

 

[Imraan]

In the past 2-3 years I have gained a bad habit of over sharing things in my personal life whether that be family issues for an example issues with my mother etc and even the good things that happen in my life . I would like to stop doing this but for some reason over sharing comes so easily to me before i would be nervous to tell anyone about my problems but in these past years it’s been quite the opposite. I would really like to stop this habit but i’m not sure how i think i do it so i can keep a conversation going with a person and as usually when stuff happens i like to get different opinions and support. Over sharing has done more bad then good for me as a few weeks ago one of the girls i felt comfortable sharing things with we had a small argument and they told people about the problems that i told them about and told them to keep private. I never expected them to do this as we had discussed this issue before and that person agreed with me saying anyone who shares peoples private things that they tell them is a bad person yet they went and did exactly that. I have also noticed that when i share good things with a certain person good things such as i got into university or if something good happens to me or a trip that i am going on it gets delayed or it doesn’t happen on the dates to when it is supposed to happen. I am writing this to ask for advice on how i can stop doing these things and if anyone can give me alternative options so that i still have a way to express how i feel and let everything out without telling people. I just want to become a more private person as the less people know about u the better.

Assalam walaikum Bit like me then... I had the same issue growing up into adulthood with relatives etc.I learnt that its best to be selective in the info you share with others because it can be used to talk behind your back...My circle of friends are very small so my issues are very reserved with those I truly trust and even if the info was Compromised to others I would know who compromised it. But that's not really it, when I share an issue I look at it as a adversary... If I'm the one suffering then I'll be rewarded for it somehow.. And I always ask them to remember me in my duas. Calamities can come to anyone... Even to those that are spreading someone elses misfortune.... It's only a matter of time.... The only thing you can do is control the damage, limit who you speak to, people you cannnot trust is not worthwhile having regular conversations with.....Worry about yourself rather than what others will think and pray everyday that your life becomes easy and you are saved from calamities....