How Did U Do It?????????!!!!!!!!!

''you never lose by loving you always lose by holding back.out of all the forms of caution,caution in love is the most fatal to true human happiness''

don't know if that is of any help^ i dont want to give an opinion on what to do now because i don't want it to be the wrong one making you lose out or suffer...as they say love is blind...now all you may see in him is goodness...later on if things didn't work out you may reaslise the reason behind it not working out and it may be Allah (s.w.t) wants to give you someone better than him....:)

Insha'Allah you find your happiness :thumbs_up
 
Allah has someone for you. Just keep believing that. He must have not be the right one. It will take some time but you will get over him and the right man will come into you life. Best wishes.
 
Salam sister, I have found that there is a saying simple and honest.

"If you love someone enough, let them go if they return then it was meant to be if not then they were not meant to be".

I hope this helps for I have just gone through a situation similar to you and I am waiting for the phone to ring as well. Ishallah

Abdualh
 
AnonymousGender said:
:sl: i forgot to add one thing he does not and never knew i loved him. but it has been three years now i have not said anything. i am a human as well :cry:
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:sl: Sister if you say he didnt know you loved him...... sorry to say it but it sounds like you had a crush on him, this is not love. Love is something you share together- not on one side. Love is something you have when you go through the good, the bad and the ugly together.

Enshallah when you meet the right person, you will realise that this guy was not worth your precious time.

My advice is dont tell his parents anything.... i dont think its in your best interest to get involved with his personal love life.

Allahu' a'lam:w:
 
:sl:


All the ingredients for unrequited love, carry on, and it's gonna get to you big time one day, it'll drive u craaaazy...

I gather it's not easy to let go, or even forget...as u say '24/7' in your face...

I think [note..bad things happen when i think]..you should take a good long look at life on the whole...will this be for the best? Will you be able to live with yourself if the answer was 'no' from the fella?

He might be what you want now, but is he who you want to spend the rest of your ENTIRE life with?
Do you honestly believe in your mind that this would defo be the right decision to wed him, if he agrees? If so, boom! Get the sweets ready, expect to be knocking at his door waving a question about:)...

If no, bide your time, i know it can be hard as you've waited so long thus far..But you want to be certain, this aint no play ground, where u make the decision whether or not you got fouled playing footie or not...hmm bad example...

As you can quite rightly gather, i aint giving decent enough advice, but....if all else doesnt make sense, you can get help, top of the range help! And there's a small matter of money though...IT'S FREEE!...Turn to your Lord:D

Pray Istikhara!:D
Take care
May Allah swt help you in this situation, ameen
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:sl:
i am sorry to hear this. i think you are bein tested by Allah and you have to remain patient. i kindof understand what u are goin through..its hard. . TIME IS THE BEST HEALER and if u are destined to be with him it will happen and if your not ..your not.. everyone told me that..i fink i am accepting that now.. accepting felt like failing /losing but slowly u start realising.. if allah wills you may be with him if not than allah knows best.i personally emotionally hurt myself too much over someone who has moved on and possibly is alot happier.. Remember Allah, i advise this to myself first as i need a better relationship with my lord..
i hope inshallah good things work out for yourself and us all inshallah tala. wouldnt it be beautiful if we were closer to Allah tala, and eventually we would one day get the people we want inshallah.

Love..? to be honest i dont know how you define it anymore especially in the soceity we live in today. but i know that True love is a blessing and from allah tala. i hope allah makes it easy for u inshallah.:D

:w:
 
AnonymousGender said:
:sl: brothers and sisters. i loved someone and i was very close to them we could talk about anything and everything but then we drifted apart because of some things some family members said to him.
i love him a lot and i dont want to lose him. i know he loves someone else, but i cant get over the fact that he loves someone else, i love him so much, i wanna be with him 4ever and ever.
how did u get over ur, urm, person that u loved and are not with anymore?
please help me :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
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:sl: sister,
just giv it time sister sometimes in life we lose something/someone and we gain something/someone,
the best thing to do is make sincere du'aa to Allah, part of life is to go through struggles and trust me just give it time you will eventually move on and come out as a stronger person.

hope this helps :-\

:w:
take care x
 

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