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burdenofbeing said:
I always get amazed by how different and painful pakistani relations are, for example.
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<_< thanks

burdenofbeing said:
well if the machine is not working you have your hands! my mother didn't have a washing machine you ungrateful woman!

:P ..
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:offended:imsad:cry::'(

burdenofbeing said:
About pakistan.. well, it's all these stories I heard from both pakistani people and people familiar with them. Things about in-laws, tyrant parents, incredible shyness of both parties, severe undereducation about sex and all that. One example I remember very clearly was about a couple who couldn't have sex for 3 years because both were afraid to make the first move..
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oh my lord

and the rest of the points.....i thought everyone went thru all of that...:offended: are you telling me Allah only chose pakistanis to suffer in these matters:><:
 
:sl:LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You kids make me laugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Seriously though sis every person has different needs and wants .It is very hard to please one another all the time. Just try your best and if your best isn't good enough well then i would start to get stroppy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

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=burdenofbeing;1127820]well if the machine is not working you have your hands! my mother didn't have a washing machine you ungrateful woman!

:P
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Cheeky so and so! Like all mothers of her time, including mine didn't miss what they never had! :rollseyes

And although I can't remember but I'm sure mothers probably dressed their children in the same clothes for days lool. But anyway, check this out so you get my point. My washing machine broke down once. Exxy, twiddled a few knobs and declared it irrepairable. I went out payed over 300 quid for a new washing machine which too didnt work when the man installed it. Then he realised the outlet pipe was blocked. There'd been nothing wrong with my old machine at all which the scrapman nicked while it sat outside for a relative to take. Bah!!! :'( If exxy had got some more knowledgable to check the problem I wouldn't had been left with a burning hole in my pocket. :raging:



About pakistan.. well, it's all these stories I heard from both pakistani people and people familiar with them. Things about in-laws, tyrant parents, incredible shyness of both parties, severe undereducation about sex and all that. One example I remember very clearly was about a couple who couldn't have sex for 3 years because both were afraid to make the first move..
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^o)

That is soooooooooo....

True!!! :-[:X

However, it doesn't mean that ALL pakistani families are like that, but I guess compared to other cultures pakistanis do have more of these issues. imsad

I find the last bit silly though cuz that can happen in any eastern culture where these things aren't discussed openly. And just because it happened to one pakistani couple, you can't consider that the norm when it comes to pakistanis in general.
 
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well if the machine is not working you have your hands! my mother didn't have a washing machine you ungrateful woman!
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that wasnt cool ^o)

why am i going to use my hands when there are other options open :$
 
^Oh I read that as martial arts first! Jzk Allah, will listen to it.


Edit: laterz......

OMG amazing lecture mashaAllah! :ooh::thumbs_up:D


Peoplez you must listen to it inshaAllah :peace:
 
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Scents of Jannah said:
However, it doesn't mean that ALL pakistani families are like that, but I guess compared to other cultures pakistanis do have more of these issues. imsad

I find the last bit silly though cuz that can happen in any eastern culture where these things aren't discussed openly. And just because it happened to one pakistani couple, you can't consider that the norm when it comes to pakistanis in general.
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oh, so I'm guessing you are pakistani as well. of course you would know better, I was just giving example, and all I've told was based on what I've heard from interested parties.

Also, I didn't say pakistanis don't have sex until 4th year. :| that was just the example that immediately sprung to my mind. to explain my point.

jeez. :P
 
'Abd al-Rahman said:
60+ ways to please your wife:

http://forums.almaghrib.org/showthread.php?t=28917

:D
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A good read :)

Women dont needs diamonds and rubies, just a smile will be a treasure, and indeed women are pleased by the slightest affectionate gestures, for e.g. a sister i know recently told me how she hadnt seen her husband all day and was driving somewhere when she saw him driving past her and he flashed his lights at her, and when she was relating this to us, she was giggling and was so happy and even said, 'im so happy he did that'....can u believe it, im sure her husband will never know how happy he made her by something he would think insignificant, but to her, it made her day.

So never think that something you do will be insignificant or go unnoticed.
 
:sl::D How sweet............................ that made me smile!:w::)
Sahabiyaat said:
A good read :)

Women dont needs diamonds and rubies, just a smile will be a treasure, and indeed women are pleased by the slightest affectionate gestures, for e.g. a sister i know recently told me how she hadnt seen her husband all day and was driving somewhere when she saw him driving past her and he flashed his lights at her, and when she was relating this to us, she was giggling and was so happy and even said, 'im so happy he did that'....can u believe it, im sure her husband will never know how happy he made her by something he would think insignificant, but to her, it made her day.

So never think that something you do will be insignificant or go unnoticed.
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'Abd al-Rahman said:
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Here you go..a marriage cheat sheet for the sisters:

http://muslimbestlife.com/blog/?p=829
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:w: That was funny mashaAllaah.

I think the ''cheat sheet'' has a lot of truth to it. InshaAllaah the op reads, as it has a lot of benefit. :)

The most important thing is being considerate of each other's feelings and actually giving some effort into doing things that you might not necessarily like but your spouse does. Sometimes you even grow to like those things as a result.
 
Scents of Jannah said:
adding on...

1. Comb his hair/beard (sometimes)
2. After washing his clothes, perfume then before hanging up ready for him
3. Offer to remove his shoes/socks when he comes in shattered from work and give him a bowl of hot water to soak his tired tooties in. Offer tea etc.
4. Serve him nice food on time.
5. Draw a flowery border on a sheet of paper, address it to him with sweet words
6. If he likes having a hot soak, fill the bath (add bubble bath or relaxing essential oils, have his towel/bathrobe ready etc and light candles and place around bathroom to create a soft relaxing ambience (no electric lights). Give him a chilled drink to enjoy while he soaks.
7. Give him plenty of hugs and cuddles etc.
8. Make him feel you really missed him when he comes home. Smile, hug etc..
9. Listen to what he says attentively without interrupting him then say what you have you. If you disagree with anything, keep your tone neutral, not angry etc.
10. Honour him and show him your love by respecting his family and being like a daughter to them.
11. Never waste his money.
12. Keep yourself beautified for him. (A pain I know but men like seeing beauty).
13. Arrange a surprise outing.
14. Now and then, create romantic atmosphere in bedroom with candles, flowers and esp. rose petals on bed.
15. Give him massage with scented oils.
16. Keep telling him you love him so much. (That's right brain-wash him) LOL!
17. Be steadfast in your deen. Make lots of duaa to Allah for his health, barakah in his earnings, his deen and akhirah and ask Allah to bless your marriage and make it pleasing to Him.
18. Don't ever let pride hold you back from showing your love.
19. Appreciate him as a gift and blessing from Allah. And thank Allah as much as you can. Allah loves those who thank Him and will increase His mercy and blessings on you both.
20. Be happy. Allah has given you an opportunity to please your husband and therefore please Him through it.

Hubbies and hubbies-to-be... I hope that's also made you think how you can also keep your wives happy. InshaAllah.


wa salam.
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waw::......this must be Cloud Cuckoo Land
 
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To ask this question, the lady starting this thread is obviously in despair at her failure to get the appropriate love and care from her husband. It is unfortunate (at the least) that some of those posters, offering her advice, haven’t asked themselves whether they are qualified and the potential damage they might do before their arrogant fingers hit the keyboard.
 
why are you automatically assuming she has a problem?
We all thought she was asking for advice, as that is how the question is worded?, if she had a problem, she should have said!
 

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