How do you Cope with Death?

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Simple Question!

How do you Cope with Death?

No, not YOUR death, that hasn't happened...yet!

I meant, say, someone you know dies; spouse, sibling, parent, uncle, friend, mentor, etc., how do you cope with the loss?

Personally, I haven't 'lost' anyone, say, in the last decade, and before that, I'm pretty sure my cognitive abilities were as absent as a murderer's heart.

Examples:

"I drank tea when my cat died"

"I visited the shrink when my papa died"

"I asked my Diety (God, or anyone holding Holy Power, like Buddha for Buddhists, Jesus for Christians, etc.)"

"I cried, had some Ice Cream, and watched Shindler's List to help ease my situation"

(((You get the Idea)))


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Dahir said:
Simple Question!

How do you Cope with Death?

No, not YOUR death, that hasn't happened...yet!

I meant, say, someone you know dies; spouse, sibling, parent, uncle, friend, mentor, etc., how do you cope with the loss?

Personally, I haven't 'lost' anyone, say, in the last decade, and before that, I'm pretty sure my cognitive abilities were as absent as a murdere's heart.

Examples:

"I drank tea when my cat died"

"I visited the shrink when my papa died"

"I asked my Diety (God, or anyone holding Holy Power, like Buddha for Buddhists, Jesus for Christians, etc.)"

"I cried, had some Ice Cream, and watched Shindler's List to help ease my situation"

(((You get the Idea)))


Mods, if you feel this thread is unnecessary or too sensitive, be free to delete or close it.
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erghh im sorry i aint sure same herei havent had anyone of my family die for last decade i aint sure my parents grandparents are all living and so are my brothers ... and me ...
mashallah ...


i dont mean to go too off topic but i watched schindlers list at schoool its a good film ... but i know its upsetting ... i mean the part where they throw that old man out of the window ... and so on ...
 
i mean the part where they throw that old man out of the window
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Uh, I didn't actually ever see Schindler's List, but a scene like that must be worthy! (not because I don't like Jewish people, but because I'm a 'minimal' fan of violence.)
 
As time goes on your views change. Eventually you reach a point were virtualy every one you grew up with is gone. After seeing so many Loved ones go, you come to the understanding that death is not a thing to be feared. It is just as normal and no more traumatic than birth.

Now, when a loved one dies, I understand, wish them well and hope that one day we will meet in Jannah Inshallah.
 
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Anyways, when somebody who is close to me and I care about dies, I do tend to get emotional.. But at the same time, they've suffered a lot, and I just pray their suffering is over and they are rewarded with Jannah.

But we all shall face death, and may Allah take us to Him in strong imaan. Ameen.
 
Good question, but you know what i say don't stress so much bruv, when you don't know it's harder to imagine so we tend to think negative,
when the time comes remeber Allah and he will remember you, " fadhkuruuni adhkurkum"
We lost our grandad when we were younger, and our dad rahimahumaAllah 3 years ago, you learn to deal with it in time, alhamdulillah Allah is merciful, and in islam we're taught to be patient, just try to remeber things like the hadeeth 3 things that continue after you death........the last one is the pious child that prays for his/her parents.
Just things like that, and also an ayah mum reminded me with " fa idhaa jaa'a ajulum laa yasta'khiruuna sa3atan wa laa yastagdimuun"
and if there time comes they won't be able to delay an hour or put it forward.
also "kullu nafsin dhaa'igatul mawt" every soul shall taste death.
Alhamdulillah having deen definately helps you cope with death,
those without tend to repeat "why me" , "but he/she was so young" " it wasn't his time " etc...
forgetting the decree of Allah the wise.
May Allah make us all from the patient pious people.
 
Good question, but you know what i say don't stress so much bruv
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Same here, I tend to never get too attached to anyone who isn't immediate family or a car.
 
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Same here, I tend to never get too attached to anyone who isn't immediate family or a car.
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I meant don't worry about how you'll cope with death, you'll cope with it when it comes in the mean time, think positive, of course i don't mean don't think about death, cos its good to remeber death.
I can understand what you mean about not getting attached too, guess it'll help you deal with things like death, if their time came.
Just don't be anti social lol !
 
just forget about it dont cry for years over the person they aint comin back for sure
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Well, not so lucky for us. But for believers of re-incarnation, they can look at a tree, cow, cloud, or vase, and see their loved ones, oh lucky them!
 
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Well, not so lucky for us. But for believers of re-incarnation, they can look at a tree, cow, cloud, or vase, and see their loved ones, oh lucky them!
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How is that lucky? They arent really seeing anything other than the object i hope you realise that as a muslim.:rollseyes

On topic- ive never lost anyone close to me yet alhamdulilah.. i guess most of the people here at LI are too young to have such experiences.
 
How is that lucky? They arent really seeing anything other than the object i hope you realise that as a muslim.
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I know, as a Muslim, that they see nothing more than an object, but the concept, and BELIEF in that makes them so lucky. But, them seeing nothing more than an object is like our belief in Allah, they think we're praying and submitting to a non-existent force. I was stating a concept, but thanks for at least trying to make things right.
 
How do i cope with the death of my loved ones?

Make dua for them,read quran for them.And KNOW that the fact that they arent around anymore is the Will of Allah (swt) and thats that.

Wa'salaam.
 
im not really sure how i cope with it no one really close to me has died yet. but when a family member dies im usaually shocked. and i say to myself to bad they didnt accept islam. by they way my whole family is non muslim.
 
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You achnowledge that Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raajiun.
From him we come and to him we shall return,
grieving is allowed for fixed periods but the emptiness of the heart is unlikely to ever be fulfilled again so i say worship Allah, giv your whole life for Allah swt, then join ur loved ones in the akhirah ;)


:wasalamex
 
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Be happy for them that they have left this cruel world and they have seen what they have put forth.
 
when i was little (abt 5) i cried when my dad took our car to the scrap yard.
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That is terrible pain, I hope you got past it, may peace be with the Car.:giggling:


Be happy for them that they have left this cruel world and they have seen what they have put forth.
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Good point, I always try to look at the happy side of every situation, "Hope for the Best, Prepare yourself for the Worst.
 
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As some of the respected members have mentioned, the truest Islamic way of coping with dead is not to be saddend or not to endure any kind of emotional burden of some sort, but yet to be happy that they are going to a better place.

Whatever may be the reason that we pass on is mysterious. It may be that Allah is putting them in a better place or whatever reason. Therefore, we should not be saddend to such an extreme measure.

:w:
 

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