How does one get a woman if he's alone?

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Salam, dear Muslims, how can a man get a woman and get married if he does not have parents is passed away or permanently separated?

And also, if man never gets a woman in this duniya, will he SURELY get as many woman as he wants in aakhirah as Allah says?

Please answer seriously.
 
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ah17865 said:
Salam, dear Muslims, how can a man get a woman and get married if he does not have parents is passed away or permanently separated?
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Same like other men. He can look around, and when he see a woman who look good he can try his luck through proposing marriage. Or he can ask people around him to introduce him to a woman.

Being orphan, or being a kid from separated family does not prevents someone, man or woman, to get married.
 
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Same like other men. He can look around, and when he see a woman who look good he can try his luck through proposing marriage. Or he can ask people around him to introduce him to a woman.

Being orphan, or being a kid from separated family does not prevents someone, man or woman, to get married.
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That is not the case in this day and age.
 
ah17865 said:
That is not the case in this day and age.
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It's difficult to find someone these days, especially in the west. In addition to try online muslim matrimonial sites, you can try tapping into your community. That means going to the masjid more regular for event and stuff so you can get to know the community and them getting to know you. Then you can ask the imam , you can ask the brothers you get to know there and they can have their wives find out, etc.
 
ah17865 said:
Salam, dear Muslims, how can a man get a woman and get married if he does not have parents is passed away or permanently separated?

And also, if man never gets a woman in this duniya, will he SURELY get as many woman as he wants in aakhirah as Allah says?

Please answer seriously.
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depends in which thing you put your faith in.
 
Walaikumasalaam,

The first thing you should do is make dua to Allah swt.

Ask Allah swt to give you what is good for you insha Allah.

Also be open and honest with the people that you do know.

Insha Allah they might know someone suitable.

Try and seek out the voice of the elders in your community - if you feel they are individuals with good character and emaan.

An old head is always better than a young head.

Don't rush into marriage if you feel you are not ready or the sister isn't suitable for you.

And finally just want to stress on the first point - make dua for Allah swt to open the doors of marriage for you if this is what you want.

May Allah swt make this path/journey easy for you Ameen.
 
Arranged marriages aren't required in Islam. Her parents don't have to meet with your parents. Although, parents should be involved it is not a requirement if you don't have any. Your chances of marriage aren't lessened due to a parent's death or them cutting you off for no reason. Also, I don't think you will never be married unless you live sort of separate from society. It can be hard finding a spouse but if Allah has willed it then it will happen in due time. In my masjid a man posted a flyer asking for someone looking for a husband to email him. I'm ashamed to admit but I thought it was comical. Then I thought 'Well why didn't I do that when I was looking for a husband?"
 
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greenhill said:
What do you mean?


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He probably means they ( woman's parent) will want to do a background check about his character and they also want to talk to other Guardians in the absence of parents - eg Elders,Sibling,Uncle,Cousin etc to understand whether there is mental compatibility between the families- ( the man's family and woman's family).
 
Predator said:
He probably means they ( woman's parent) will want to do a background check about his character and they also want to talk to other Guardians in the absence of parents - eg Elders,Sibling,Uncle,Cousin etc to understand whether there is mental compatibility between the families- ( the man's family and woman's family).
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Aaaaahh….. Ok, That makes perfect sense… totally missed that!

Jazakallah khair



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I dont know about you people, but In this generation, girls and boys are making out at school, college then they start to have intercourse and get the woman pregnant. - that is their marriage done in this day and age.
 
The main purpose of man having a woman is simply for His pleasure, everything else is optional.
 
IF man does not get a woman in this dunya, will he surely be granted ANYTHING he wants in Jannah? If he's in Jannah?
 
Assalamu Alaikum

ah17865 said:
I dont know about you people, but In this generation, girls and boys are making out at school, college then they start to have intercourse and get the woman pregnant. - that is their marriage done in this day and age.
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We are not from this generation alhemdulilah, and I'd rather be single all of my life than to fall into such a calamity.

ah17865 said:
The main purpose of man having a woman is simply for His pleasure, everything else is optional.
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I'm guessing this is referring to your statements above, not your personal or islamic belief, correct? It would be easier if you posted everything in one post.


ah17865 said:
IF man does not get a woman in this dunya, will he surely be granted ANYTHING he wants in Jannah? If he's in Jannah?
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Absolutely.

My advice as others have suggested, is to make sincere du'a and be on top of your game in regards to your worship. Nothing in this world is willed without His consent, and that includes your destiny. Also let the people around you know that you're looking for someone, and i'm sure if they come across a person that they believe you'd be suitable with, they'd try to help out.
 
ah17865 said:
The main purpose of man having a woman is simply for His pleasure, everything else is optional.
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I don't know if you are a troll or just shriking your abilities as a muslim to educate yourself, but what you have said is completely incorrect. Allah has put women on this earth for more than pleasing Allah's creation.
 
I don't know if you are a troll or just shriking your abilities as a muslim to educate yourself, but what you have said is completely incorrect. Allah has put women on this earth for more than pleasing Allah's creation.
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I think he was generalizing that guys these days are impregnating women or using them for pleasurable reasons without committing to them. Allahu a'lem lool.
 
ah17865 said:
Salam, dear Muslims, how can a man get a woman and get married if he does not have parents is passed away or permanently separated?

And also, if man never gets a woman in this duniya, will he SURELY get as many woman as he wants in aakhirah as Allah says?

Please answer seriously.
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Firstly, a man does not get a woman. You meet one and marry. "Get" is not a proper word to describe this event.
 
Charisma, thank you for your comment, you are right. In the end Allah owns everything and he is in control.
 
"how does one get a woman if one is alone?" (ie: hermit)

Answer:

One does not.

Scimi
 
Sounds like a trick question.
You are alone but finding other people?
 

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