How much money is needed to support a husband and wife in Atlanta, GA?

[Mustafa16]

I want to get married during college, and I was advised to work for the post office, but the only jobs available are for seasonal jobs which are 89 days a year....I did the math and that makes 18,100 dollars a year if you count the average national wage for a postal worker.....is that enough? and if not, how can I work the rest of the year at another job? I doubt a manager would be willing to let me work only 20 weeks a year.....

 

[Scimitar]

Maybe you should wait until after college. Allahu Alam.

Scimi

 

[*charisma*]

Assalamu Alaikum
[MENTION=38474]Mustafa16[/MENTION] Bro I can literally merge all of your threads together. I think I might just do that please try to stick with one thread and just reply with your concerns. Marriage is much more than how much you make, you still gotta grow up a little bit too. I commend you in your proactive-ness of securing a future, but your obsession with this girl is a bit worrying.

 

[EgyptPrincess]

I want to get married during college, and I was advised to work for the post office, but the only jobs available are for seasonal jobs which are 89 days a year....I did the math and that makes 18,100 dollars a year if you count the average national wage for a postal worker.....is that enough? and if not, how can I work the rest of the year at another job? I doubt a manager would be willing to let me work only 20 weeks a year.....

Why are you rushing this? Women don't like desperados bro. $18,100 might be the bare minimum needed to adequately support you and your future wife but anything could happen. You may get sacked or they may no longer require you at the post office, then what?

One step at a time brother. Focus on university, get a career earning > $30,000 a year then you can support your future wife. Supporting your wife means more than just providing food and a roof.

 

[Cpt.America]

5 dollars sounds legit.

 

[Cpt.America]

Jk bruh. The amount you make doesn't matter as much as the understanding between you and your spouse.

If you are sure you want to get married now, then there's no harm in putting yourself in the market so to speak lol.
If it happens you find someone and they find you and you discuss it with walis and do ishtekhaara and all of it the right way, and you are both willing to live with lesser means for a while (or even as dependents from your parents for some time) then go for it.
Rizk comes from Allah.

But if you feel uncomfortable with the concept of taking care of a spouse with the amount you make at this time, that is a very valid reason, and you can fast until you feel ready for marriage.


Basically if you feel ready, go look. You might find a match.

And if you don't feel ready, due to this money issue, then hold back for now.

 

[Mustafa16]

Jk bruh. The amount you make doesn't matter as much as the understanding between you and your spouse.

If you are sure you want to get married now, then there's no harm in putting yourself in the market so to speak lol.
If it happens you find someone and they find you and you discuss it with walis and do ishtekhaara and all of it the right way, and you are both willing to live with lesser means for a while (or even as dependents from your parents for some time) then go for it.
Rizk comes from Allah.

But if you feel uncomfortable with the concept of taking care of a spouse with the amount you make at this time, that is a very valid reason, and you can fast until you feel ready for marriage.


Basically if you feel ready, go look. You might find a match.

And if you don't feel ready, due to this money issue, then hold back for now.

but the girl I plan on marrying lives in Florida, while I live in Georgia....why would she want to move to Georgia to marry me, when I hardly make enough money? what could I possibly have to offer? in other words, how do I make myself more desireable?

 

[Mustafa16]

What makes a suitor who lives far away desireable besides money?

I am 17, and just finished the 11th grade, and I want to get married during college.....I wont be making that much money, and the girl I plan on marrying lives in Florida, while I live in Georgia (the reason I know her is because our fathers are friends, we are part of the same jamaat, our moms used to be friends, and we used to be playmates and close friends as children)......what would make her want to move to Georgia, where I live, to marry me, leaving behind everything she's ever known...? what traits make a man a desireable husband? especially if he lives far away?

 

[EgyptPrincess]

but the girl I plan on marrying lives in Florida, while I live in Georgia....why would she want to move to Georgia to marry me, when I hardly make enough money? what could I possibly have to offer? in other words, how do I make myself more desireable?

Get a decent well paying job / career then you have a home, money, car etc to offer her as well as maturity and your deen will also be stronger

 

[Mustafa16]

Get a decent well paying job / career then you have a home, money, car etc to offer her as well as maturity and your deen will also be stronger

but what about BESIDES money?

 

[Scimitar]

17 and wanting to marry is noble.

But you need to grow a brain first.

Scimi

 

[EgyptPrincess]

but what about BESIDES money?

Piety is important of course. Personality, maturity, education, common interests, looks, what company does he hold etc

There is a lot of boxes that need to be ticked in my opinion. Some women can be incredibly picky which a lot of men find frustrating.

 

[keiv]

but what about BESIDES money?

Your personality

 

[Cpt.America]

but what about BESIDES money?

Some sick shoes brah. You need a pair of siiick shoes.

Jk get your deen on point. If she appreciates you for that, cool. If not, well move on. Also show that you're dedicated to school and work or something like that. I am told people appreciate ambition and perseverance or something. Supposedly.
But people also appreciate pizza, so you could probably buy her family an extra large with two toppings and extra cheese if you can't do the whole "yo check it out I'm totally ambitious and intend to have a good future ahead of me InshaaAllah" thing. (I know which plan I'm trying out. I got dominoes notifications in my email inbox yo.)

Also you're 17, and I'm assuming (because I don't want to scroll up again) that she's less than 17.
Marriage at a young age is noble.

But more important than being attractive to her right now, you have to have her wali's approval. And at 17 it may or may not be likely depending on how they know you and how you portray yourself to be.

If you try to court this girl, without going through her father first, then
first of all: bruh that's haram.
Second of all: bruh.... you know that's haram.
Third of all: yeah... If pops had some reservations about you before, he'll want you going to hell for eternity and a half now if you try to steal his princess without being man enough to show him respect first and giving his daughter her due honor by doing so
Fourth of all: .... look bro, I understand the heart can feel uncontrollable and the hormones are real... but bruh.... It's haram. Just in case you didn't know.

 

[EgyptPrincess]

Marriage at a young age is noble.

Marriage at 17 for a man is idiotic. Unless he is already wealthy enough to provide for her.

Look, for some reason people like to try and act that all that's required is piety. If a brother is pious then he should have no problems getting a wife, this simply isn't true and I'll say it if nobody else will.
@Mustafa16 No girl is going to be interested in your broke *** because money is needed to survive! You could be the most pious man in the world but if you can't financially support her and your future family, you're done for.

I don't think you quite understand how much life costs. Rent, bills, food, clothing, car / travel, general spending money and that's the absolute basics. Student loan? Debt? Tax? What if she wants some shoes or a bag? You cannot raise a family on minimum wage, hell it's hard enough for a single person to live on minimum wage, in the UK it's like £6.50 an hour LOL.

In America it's much much worse, $7.25 per hour = £5... mg:

To be honest there is probably a good website that tells you how much you need to earn to adequately support a marriage.

 

[Cpt.America]

Marriage at 17 for a man is idiotic. Unless he is already wealthy enough to provide for her.

Look, for some reason people like to try and act that all that's required is piety. If a brother is pious then he should have no problems getting a wife, this simply isn't true and I'll say it if nobody else will.
@Mustafa16 No girl is going to be interested in your broke *** because money is needed to survive! You could be the most pious man in the world but if you can't financially support her and your future family, you're done for.

I don't think you quite understand how much life costs. Rent, bills, food, clothing, car / travel, general spending money and that's the absolute basics. Student loan? Debt? Tax? What if she wants some shoes or a bag? You cannot raise a family on minimum wage, hell it's hard enough for a single person to live on minimum wage, in the UK it's like £6.50 an hour LOL.

In America it's much much worse, $7.25 per hour = £5... mg:

To be honest there is probably a good website that tells you how much you need to earn to adequately support a marriage.

I agree, that usually it is not the way to go, to get married if we don't have the means to support a family.

That being said, there are always exceptions.
If OP knows who he wants to marry and is really really sure about it right now, and feels that it would be a successful endeavour to follow through on that intention, there is no harm in pursuing that. If the girl wants to marry this guy, with the understanding he is a student, then really that is something that is personal and to be decided between the two of them.

But, If he wants to go this route, then he has to go by the proper channels to do so.

When I say to get married young is noble, I mean that to not delay in marriage is of course the best thing. If you have the means to be married then it is best to look to find a partner. And if someone has found a partner it is best not to delay and fall into sins and get the nikkah done. How a couple wants to personally operate and what understandings they have between themselves is entirely their own matter.

In this particular case if OP does marry said girl, it is most likely they will continue on with their lives in a sort of 'dating' type scenario, but in reality marriage and in reality fully halal, until he is more stable enough to buy a house and provide for a family and all that jazz.

Most people won't go for a 17 year old kid with no job and no money. No doubt.
But at the same time, we cannot say that most people equates to all people, and OP knows his situation better than any of us. So we are simply advising him on the basis of the parameters that he himself has described.

 

[Mustafa16]

Marriage at 17 for a man is idiotic. Unless he is already wealthy enough to provide for her.

Look, for some reason people like to try and act that all that's required is piety. If a brother is pious then he should have no problems getting a wife, this simply isn't true and I'll say it if nobody else will.
@Mustafa16 No girl is going to be interested in your broke *** because money is needed to survive! You could be the most pious man in the world but if you can't financially support her and your future family, you're done for.

I don't think you quite understand how much life costs. Rent, bills, food, clothing, car / travel, general spending money and that's the absolute basics. Student loan? Debt? Tax? What if she wants some shoes or a bag? You cannot raise a family on minimum wage, hell it's hard enough for a single person to live on minimum wage, in the UK it's like £6.50 an hour LOL.

In America it's much much worse, $7.25 per hour = £5... mg:

To be honest there is probably a good website that tells you how much you need to earn to adequately support a marriage.

I wasn't planning on getting married at age 17, I was planning on getting married during college at age 19 or 20.