How social are you?

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Assalamo alaykom,

At the right times I love being alone, but at the same time I have no problems in being alone even with people around me. When I moved to my own apartment in August last year I loved being alone, and I had a hamster as only company. Today, many months after, I'm feeling like I will soon go crazy if I will keep living alone for much longer. I need someone to talk to, someone to complain to, someone to see and not feel alone. So I'm trying to be more outdoors, go to the mosque, meet sisters and go for walks and don't be much home. It doesn't help though, whenever I come home I wish I had stayed out longer. But I don't know how to make it all work. Kheir inshaAllah.
 
since Ive been "Lonely" for quite a while now and being lonely to me means thinking, contemplating, Ive begun to hate it so much now because it will lead me to disbelief ... i need to stop thinking ... for that I need to become a parrot, just talking to people about useless things, and stop thinking. i guess too much of everything is bad. need time for my self now I guess?
 
this thread is so depressing, I spend a lot of time alone, and hate it, just I lost touch on purpose with so called mateys and out of work too so do not associate with disbeliever much....I was thinking of not getting maried but as soon as I find a bride now, I will not waste time to get married,

can you honestly say that you dont wish you were maried at times, the love afection and common goals you will have like children family and companionship, a wife a good wife will always have back you up and give you motivation to do more and become a rounded person, and together you can have as much joy as you like if you know what I mean, honestly can you say you do not get human urges when you wish you had a wife.

A wife makes you complete or will make me complete, when I get married insha allah I can see my wife riase my confidence, self esteem and give me motivation and joy and tranquility and someone who you can talk with who will share your best interests....I will treat my wife with dignity and respect and hope to have lots of tranquility or magic moments, and she will give me reason to excell, plus the kids we will have insha allah.

I think having a wife getting married will get you a deeper understanding in life and you experience what is love and what is devotion allah willed us to get married thats why he made us to, and marriage is the most moral way to do this and the best.

I think you are deluding yourself or maybe nervous about the whole marriage, but you cant sriously like spending so much time alone, you may have a disorder, if you do llike isolation or do somethings which you cant do in the presence of people?
 
J Aaliyah said:
Assalamo alaykom,

At the right times I love being alone, but at the same time I have no problems in being alone even with people around me. When I moved to my own apartment in August last year I loved being alone, and I had a hamster as only company. Today, many months after, I'm feeling like I will soon go crazy if I will keep living alone for much longer. I need someone to talk to, someone to complain to, someone to see and not feel alone. So I'm trying to be more outdoors, go to the mosque, meet sisters and go for walks and don't be much home. It doesn't help though, whenever I come home I wish I had stayed out longer. But I don't know how to make it all work. Kheir inshaAllah.
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Wa alaykum assalam,

I agree, spending too much time at home is not good.. when you're at home you should do something productive instead of doing nothing and just thinking!! I find that reading/studying helps a lot...
 
So, how often do you guys see family or friends? Only on weekends or also during weekdays? Do you wish to see them more often? I mean, is it even possible to be more social in these hectic modern times?
 
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ali-imran said:
this thread is so depressing, I spend a lot of time alone, and hate it, just I lost touch on purpose with so called mateys and out of work too so do not associate with disbeliever much....I was thinking of not getting maried but as soon as I find a bride now, I will not waste time to get married,

can you honestly say that you dont wish you were maried at times, the love afection and common goals you will have like children family and companionship, a wife a good wife will always have back you up and give you motivation to do more and become a rounded person, and together you can have as much joy as you like if you know what I mean, honestly can you say you do not get human urges when you wish you had a wife.

A wife makes you complete or will make me complete, when I get married insha allah I can see my wife riase my confidence, self esteem and give me motivation and joy and tranquility and someone who you can talk with who will share your best interests....I will treat my wife with dignity and respect and hope to have lots of tranquility or magic moments, and she will give me reason to excell, plus the kids we will have insha allah.

I think having a wife getting married will get you a deeper understanding in life and you experience what is love and what is devotion allah willed us to get married thats why he made us to, and marriage is the most moral way to do this and the best.

I think you are deluding yourself or maybe nervous about the whole marriage, but you cant sriously like spending so much time alone, you may have a disorder, if you do llike isolation or do somethings which you cant do in the presence of people?
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w salam,

I hope that you do get married. Do you have any experience in dealing with women in the capacity of a husband? It requires certain skills to deal with a wife and in such a way that one does not get depressed. Such a person is known as "ladies' man." Of course we do not go into haram actions but every relationship needs certain requirements to be fulfilled. I think the relationship with a woman is one too where a man (husband) should really know how to handle a woman (his wife) so that he is able to retain her love for him or she will start loosing interest in him. As long as you make yourself something which is harder to be attained, she will have want to earn you. You will have to make sure that you do not become dependent on her. The moment you do, game over. Just some passing thoughts. We are turning from a depressing to a happy thread. But thats not a bad thing, is it?
 
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So, how often do you guys see family or friends? Only on weekends or also during weekdays? Do you wish to see them more often? I mean, is it even possible to be more social in these hectic modern times?
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I wish to be with my friends 24/7 lol ... but of course thats unrealistic. I dont see them sometime for months and I dont have much friends calling me on the phone. I try to make calls to couple of friends in a week? but thats about it.
 
Argamemnon said:
So, how often do you guys see family or friends? Only on weekends or also during weekdays? Do you wish to see them more often? I mean, is it even possible to be more social in these hectic modern times?
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Well if your in College then you usually see most of your friends everyday and the rest you have the weekend to see them but i guess if your actually working its a bit harder, but if you can make time to visit the forum and sit infront of a computer screen I guess you can have time to perhaps to go see your mates ehh. Seeing family every so often is always nice aswell, unless they are annoying :hmm:
 
I wanna be with my friends and family but the problem is when they do unislamic things I feel like being alone is good\

Marry a 100% islamic girl I mean a girl who has good knowledge in islam ! Thats the starting point of JOY
 

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