How to achieve Humbleness?

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Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh honey ^^

May Allah beautify every single moment of your precious life with His love and rememberance and all beautiful things always and forever in this world and in the hereafter and all the Ummah Ameeeeeen
 
The noble scholar becomes humble in gaining knowledge, while the ignoble matches his increase in knowledge with an equal share of arrogance. [ Ali radi Allah anhu]
 
Four Traits

Imam Ghazali (ra) mentions in his Ihya’ that Imam Junaid (ra) said,

"Four traits lift a person to the highest ranks, even if their works and knowledge are little:

(1) Forbearance (hilm)

(2) Humility (tawadu`)

(3) Generosity (sakha’)

(4) Good character (husn al-khuluq)–and this is the perfection of faith."

[Ghazali, Ihya' `Ulum al-Din]
 
Jazaki Allahu khayran my dear for you constant precious tender Ameeen
 
Amat Allah said:
Jazaki Allahu khayran my dear for you constant precious tender Ameeen
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Wa iyyakum sister. I was going to bump up this thread but glad you did it before me. :)

Well, here's another saying to add to this thread:

A humble knowledge of oneself is a surer road to God than a deep searching of sciences.
 
To see God everywhere is essentially this: to see that we are not, that He alone is. If, from a certain angle, humility can be called the greatest of the virtues this is because it implies in the last analysis the cessation of egoity, and for no other reason.

Frithjof Schuon
 
Those who Allah loves are granted three things--------the overflowing generosity of the river, the illumination of the sun, and the humbleness of the earth.

[Bayazeed al Bustami ra]
 
Come to realize your own qualities and He will lead you to know His.
Come to realize your weakness and He will lead you to His strength.

[Ibn Ataillah ra]
 
[Muslim, At-Tirmidthi, Abu Dawud & ibn Majah]​

From these Hadiths and stories, we conclude that the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him)​

prohibited praising others, especially while they can hear their praise.​

This is because such praise may encourage the praised persons to overestimate themselves,
especially if they were people of position or wealth.
Also, such praise may lead the praised person to be arrogant, which may lead to laziness and a lower number of good deeds,
for one will depend on what he heard of praise and ignore acquiring more good deeds.​




Does this refer to not extending compliments to others because I have noticed that people, children especially, are expecting more and more compliments for things that they do instead of just taking joy from their good deeds.

I can see how this expectation of external approval can negatively effect simple kindness, productivity, and creative.
 
Endymion said:
I use to stand up for every single person i meet to shake hand with them.I feel really bad when someone elder or younger come to meet me and i stay sit but for no doubt,no one is more humble than the Messenger of Allah SWT.When He SAW command us not to stand up,we should not stand up to welcome someone :statisfie
From today,i decided to practice this one,Inshallah :statisfie
Jazakallahu Khyran for the reminder,my dearest Sister :statisfie
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Assalamu Alaikum sister,

If I may I would recommend that you explain your action as to avoid been thought of as lacking in manners, for in todays world it's western manners that come first.
Masalam
 
Does this refer to not extending compliments to others because I have noticed that people, children especially, are expecting more and more compliments for things that they do instead of just taking joy from their good deeds.
I can see how this expectation of external approval can negatively effect simple kindness, productivity, and creative.
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Assalamu Alaikum ProudMuslimSis,

Should you add Mashallah to a reasonable compliment for example you say to a child "Mashallah that's a beautifull drawing you made" that's okay or Subhanallah that was good story and well read is fine; or to an adult "Mashallah that dress really suits you".
In other words as long a the complement has Allah S.W.T's name and it's not extravagant it's fine.
Should one say or you are the smartest person I've ever met, now that's wrong.
In some cultures if you pay a compliment without Allah S.W.T's name they get very aggressive as they might think you're giving them the evil eye.
Like one says oh what a lovely baby and the baby starts to vomit or develop a fever you're are going to be in trouble.
This is no superstition either there are Ahadith about the evil eye.
It pays to stick with the Sunna.
I'm sure you're also familiar that a lot of compliments are false and placing Allah S.W.T's name to them makes one think again right ?
I hope my answer helps you.
Masalam
 
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Humility is a strange thing. The minute you think you’ve got it, you’ve lost it.
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This is strange. But the same thing applies to sincerity. The minute you think you've got sincerity, you've lost it.

A wise person said, ""Whoever sees sincerity in his sincerity, his sincerity is itself in need of sincerity. The destruction of every sincere person lies in his sincerity to the extent that he sees sincerity in himself. When he abandons seeing sincerity in himself he will be sincere and purified."
 
Humility

by Sohaib Baig

Humility: A quality mastered by few, though claimed by many.


Muslims believe that ultimate judgment comes only from Allah Himself. This gives Muslims boundless relief and freedom – for as long as they are following Allah’s injunctions with wisdom and sincerity, they know not to fear the opinions of others.

Thus if society regards a believer as the ‘lowest of the low,’ they remain unperturbed because they believe Allah’s Judgment to be the Highest. This prevents us from becoming arrogant because we have absolutely no proof of our own success.

Even if a person appears to be on the path of success outwardly, their internal condition may differ. And though one may know his or her internal state of humility, it cannot guarantee remaining steadfast in the future. Even if a person does remain steadfast in humility, they know the Final Judgment is still entirely up to Allah Himself, Who is Free to do what He wills.

Thus, this uncertainty of how we will be judged deprives us from arrogance; it keeps us in a constant state of yearning for Allah’s mercy and forgiveness.

Lastly, recognizing Allah’s ultimate authority helps Muslims refrain from passing judgments on others as they realize that their own judgment is completely useless. We can never assume superiority to another even in the face of blatant external signs of hypocrisy or arrogance. All we can do is provide advice for both internal and external reform, for nobody knows what lies in our futures.

However, Muslims are instructed to show contempt for pure evil and to stand tall against tyranny. If a person is meek before evil and stands down, then their humbleness (or fear) will only feed the arrogance and allow that evil to grow stronger.

Just as there is virtue in being humble, there is evil in being arrogant, for it challenges the foundation of the Islamic worldview that is based on equity and equality.

Hence the saying of the Prophet (saws): “No one who has an atom’s weight of pride in his heart will enter the Garden.” (Muslim)

Anyone who is cognizant of his own vulnerable position in the universal scheme of things will find it difficult to become arrogant. However, this does not guarantee complete immunity.

Human beings as part of their very nature are susceptible to societal pressures.

If society praises us, our humility is threatened as we may attribute ourselves with a newfound greatness – which may delude us into believing in our own superiority and the higher probability of a successful future, because we are ‘better.’

Once a person believes in a greater likelihood of future success, they begin to worry less about it, something which can have devastating consequences. The more jealously we pursue our goals, the greater chance we have of achieving them. Arrogance numbs our concern and desensitizes us to all the shortcomings we may have, thus leading the way to disaster.

To shield ourselves from such pride, we are instructed to abstain from ostentation and all needless displays of our accomplishments. We have to be extremely careful about exposing our good attributes although we should mention our achievements if it promotes more good among others.

Feeling internally happy at one’s accomplishments on the other hand, is also permitted within certain bounds: so long as it does not lead to excessive self-amazement, arrogance, or forgetfulness of who allowed the success. In fact, we should recognize Allah’s blessings upon us, as this allows us to show gratitude to Allah, and pray that we successfully utilize them for even greater good.

Another commonly misunderstood concept is the relationship between dignity and humility, as some may confuse dignity with arrogance and humility with a lack of dignity.

Only by looking at the examples of our great elders can we understand the subtle differences between them.

Thus we find Umar (ra) admonishing a person walking with exaggerated meekness. Yet he had no problem wearing patched-up clothes and letting his slave ride the camel as they entered Jerusalem, even as the city’s Christian leaders awaited him.

In essence, our elders succeeded in maintaining both dignity and humility at the highest levels.

The two qualities were certainly not mutually exclusive, because dignity lies in giving honor to the soul created by Allah, while humility lies in downplaying one’s own actions and accomplishments.

The litmus test for this unique state of awareness is the fact that they were never above admitting their mistakes and never belittled others.

There is also no concept of self-confidence in Islam, for all power descends exclusively from Allah.

If a man believes he creates success alone, he is deluded, his actions worthless; but if he believes in Allah’s power, he is empowered, his actions weighty.

Humility therefore becomes a matter of faith in Allah; the more faith one has in Allah’s protection, the more powerful he feels – and the more humbled he is by this awesome power.

The Prophet (saws) himself was the greatest creation in the history of creation, yet the most humble of them all. This ’higher’ thinking can explain how the Prophet’s (saws) Companions felt absolutely no fear in challenging the powerful Roman and Persian empires, even as they humbled themselves by expressing reluctance at being assigned leadership roles within the Islamic state. Thus, despairing emotions are naturally foreign to a soul wholly immersed in love for the Divine.

A saying by the Sufi master Ibn Ata’ullah captures this sentiment eloquently: “One of the signs of relying on one’s own deeds is the loss of hope when a downfall occurs.”

Once a believer submits himself entirely to the Divine will, he will never feel a loss of confidence, or degradation for his Source of Confidence will never disappear:

“…Truly no one despairs of Allah’s Soothing Mercy, except those who have no faith” (Qur’an, 12:87).

And once one realizes he draws all his strength from Allah, Who can retract it at any time, his self-pride will automatically vanish:

“Say, ‘O Allah , Owner of Sovereignty, You give sovereignty to whom You will and You take sovereignty away from whom You will. You honor whom You will and You humble whom You will. In Your hand is [all] good. Indeed, You are over all things competent.’” (Qur’an, 3:26).

Humility is an extremely difficult quality to acquire and master, and like the battle to acquire sincerity, it remains a dynamic struggle throughout our lives.

Much of it stems from its ironic nature: how on one hand humility demands one to desist from self-amazement and lower oneself, but it only truly manifests itself in the most amazing people. Similarly humility destroys all superiority complexes, but only truly superior people can manage to accomplish that.

Ultimately, only firm believers in Allah are powerfully proficient at remaining humble.

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Humbling Thoughts.....

Indeed you ought to realise that a good man is he who is good in God’s sight in the mansion of eternity; and that is something unknown to man, postponed to the End.

Your belief that you are better than others is sheer ignorance.

Rather you ought not to look at anyone without considering that he is better than you and superior to you.

Thus if you see a child, you say, “This person has never sinned against God, but I have sinned, and so he is better than me”

And if you see an older person, you say, “This man was a servant of God before me, and is certainly better than me”

And if he is a scholar, you say “This man has been given what I have not been given and reached what I did not reach, and knows what I am ignorant of; then how shall I be like him?”;

And if he is ignorant, you say, “This man has sinned against God in ignorance, and I have sinned against Him knowingly, so God’s case against me is stronger, and I do not know what end He will give to me and what end to him”,

If he is an unbeliever, you say “I do not know; perhaps he will become a Muslim and his life will end in doing good, and because of his acceptance of Islam something of his sins will be taken away, as a hair is taken from dough; but as for me, God is our refuge [or God grant that it does not happen] perhaps God will lead me astray so that tomorrow he will be among those brought near to God and I shall be among the punished”

Imam Ghazzali (rahimullah)-Bidayatul Hidayah
 

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