How to achieve Humbleness?

[Amat Allah]

"And for all religion We have appointed a rite [of sacrifice] that they may mention the name of Allah over what He has provided for them of [sacrificial] animals. For your god is one God, so to Him submit. And, [O Muhammad], give good tidings to the humble [before their Lord] (34) Who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts are fearful, and [to] the patient over what has afflicted them, and the establishers of prayer and those who spend from what We have provided them. (35) " Surat Al Hajj.

then we can achieve humbleness but how? then we have The Book of Allah and The Sunnah of His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) to learn from them may Allah humble our hearts, guide us to Him, help us to worship Him right and be pleased with us Ameeeeen

 

[Flame of Hope]

"And for all religion We have appointed a rite [of sacrifice] that they may mention the name of Allah over what He has provided for them of [sacrificial] animals. For your god is one God, so to Him submit. And, [O Muhammad], give good tidings to the humble [before their Lord] (34) Who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts are fearful, and [to] the patient over what has afflicted them, and the establishers of prayer and those who spend from what We have provided them. (35) " Surat Al Hajj.

Most definitely Allah knows who among is truly humble and who is not. He has knowledge of all things. And in the Qur'an the true believers and the saliheen are promised the Gardens of Paradise.

But is this knowledge available to us? Do we know who among is really good and who is not? Can we even imagine that we could be among those who Allah describes in the Qur'an as 'Who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts are fearful, and [to] the patient over what has afflicted them, and the establishers of prayer and those who spend from what We have provided them.' ?

For a man or woman to even think that he is among those people who would be saved and who would be going to Jannah because ... he believes himself to be righteous.. God-fearing.. and humble!!! La ilaha il Allah!!!

Allah has surely informed us that there will be people who behave like the People of Paradise but because of the evil in their hearts, Allah causes them to do deeds of the People of Hell when they are nearing death... and then they enter Hell.

This is what happened to Iblis. This is certainly what can happen to us as well, if we are not careful.

A man who is truly humble and righteous NEVER thinks of himself as righteous. Whoever believes himself to be humble and sincere loses his humility.

 

[Flame of Hope]

“Verily one of you behaves like the people of Paradise until there is but an arm’s length between him and it, and that which has been written overtakes him and so he behaves like the people of the Hell-Fire and thus he enters it.” - ( Bukhari)

 

[Flame of Hope]

Allah says,

{And know that Allah cometh in between a man and his heart, and that it is He to whom ye shall (all) be gathered} (Al-Anfal: 24)

 

[Flame of Hope]

"Did they then feel secure against the Plan of Allah? None feels secure from the Plan of Allah except the people who are lost." (7:99)

 

[Amat Allah]

Yes, thats why we should learn how to be humble through Qur`aan and Sunnah cause only those two sources will teach us real humbleness and Allah knows if we will be able to gain it or not...

Allah Is the only One Who knows the truthful, sincere and honest from the arrogant and those who want to only show off and be amongst the hypocrites...

May Allah make us humble but never humiliate us to anyone but Him and May He The Exalted honor us by Him and keep us firm on His straight path always and forever and May He The Most Merciful never throw us in Hell and May he reward us with the Highest level of Paradise without being reckoning Ameeeeeeeeeen

non knows where is his/her end and non should be decieved of his/her good deeds ever and May Allah help us to worship Him right, guide us and keep us guided till we meet Him and then lead our way to Al Firdaws without Hisaab or punishment Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

 

[al Amaanah]

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^ Allahomma ameeeeen!

 

[Snowflake]

Jazaki Allah khayr kathira my sweet sis for your beautiful posts. May Allah forgive us and protect us and accept your beautiful heart felt duas for us. Ameen thumma ameen.

 

[Flame of Hope]

Yes, thats why we should learn how to be humble through Qur`aan and Sunnah cause only those two sources will teach us real humbleness and Allah knows if we will be able to gain it or not...

Allah Is the only One Who knows the truthful, sincere and honest from the arrogant and those who want to only show off and be amongst the hypocrites...

May Allah make us humble but never humiliate us to anyone but Him and May He The Exalted honor us by Him and keep us firm on His straight path always and forever and May He The Most Merciful never throw us in Hell and May he reward us with the Highest level of Paradise without being reckoning Ameeeeeeeeeen

non knows where is his/her end and non should be decieved of his/her good deeds ever and May Allah help us to worship Him right, guide us and keep us guided till we meet Him and then lead our way to Al Firdaws without Hisaab or punishment Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

Yes, the Qur'an and the sunnah provide us with all the guidance we need to achieve humility.

But I don't think the way to achieve humility is by running after it.

It is by running away from its opposite: PRIDE.

If you can succeed in removing pride from your heart... that would be the supreme success.

It is also something that has to be done on a daily basis... as regularly and as frequently as we can.

 

[Amat Allah]

and to run away from pride we should learn first how to be humble honey (we have to know first the immunity and treatment to know how to avoid the disease and treat it later) and learning is not enough if not trying to put everything we have learnt and taught from Allah into effect...

and real humbleness can never be gained but by someone who has real Taqwa and strong Imaan...and Allah knows if we have those or not...

 

[Flame of Hope]

and to run away from pride we should learn first how to be humble honey (we have to know first the immunity and treatment to know how to avoid the disease and treat it later) and learning is not enough if not trying to put everything we have learnt and taught from Allah into effect...

and real humbleness can never be gained but by someone who has real Taqwa and strong Imaan...and Allah knows if we have those or not...

Assalamu alaykum my dear sister.

We do learn the way of righteousness and humility through the guidance of the Qur'an and the Sunnah. We learn what is good and what is not good.

With an increase in knowledge and understanding, a man grows in humility. This humility is in reality a cleansing of the heart... and this occurs only when people acquire knowledge. (A verse in the Qur'an clearly states that it is ONLY people who have been granted knowledge that fear Allah....)

People of knowledge are aware of the extent of their ignorance and they understand their limitations and weaknesses. They recognize their complete dependence on Allah. They are the ones who are sensitive to the suffering of others, who do not look upon themselves as better than others, who are constantly checking their intentions, who are always fearful that their actions may not be accepted, who never feel secure from the plan of Allah, who are frightened by the very thought of sinning and who prefer to refrain from an act rather than commit it and then repent.

Yes, we can learn how to be humble by learning how to be humble. And we can then practice what we know. But would that mean that we have achieved humility? Can we afford to think that we have reached the station of Humility at any point in our lives?

Can we think to ourselves that we have become good? That we have become righteous because we are acting on the knowledge we have acquired? Because we now pray, we fast, we give in charity, we smile, we help people in need, go on Hajj, learn and recite the Qur'an?

If we do think that to ourselves, we have lost our humility for sure.

It is for this reason that we cannot go after humility. We can learn how to be humble but we cannot think to ourselves that we have achieved humility after learning how to be humble.

For Allah alone is the judge, who knows best who among us is truly humble and who is not.

The Day of Judgement is the Day when we shall find out if we were successful or not.

 

[Amat Allah]

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh my sweetheart

thats why I said before that Allah the only One Who knows habibati...^^

May Allah love you Ameeen

 

[Flame of Hope]

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh my sweetheart

thats why I said before that Allah the only One Who knows habibati...^^

May Allah love you Ameeen

Assalamu alaykum sister.

When you first posted this topic, I knew that people would read it just like they read other topics or articles and then forget about it. I did not want that to happen to this topic..... because this is the topic that every Muslim must turn his attention to and REMEMBER every day of his life.

"How to achieve humbleness" is a topic that would make quite a number of Muslims read it with interest. But the problem with it is.... due it's difficulty in achieving it, in my opinion.... a lot of people forget the article.... even when they had the sincerest intention to follow the advice given in the article!

So I kept this thread alive. Feeding it with related material. I never want this thread to die!!!

Humility is our ultimate goal... it is the ultimate in goodness. It is for the humble that Allah created Jannah. And what did Allah surround Jannah by? He surrounded it with difficulties and hardships. He surrounded it with trials, tests, thorns and spikes. He made the way to Jannah so steep and so full of unpleasant, painful and uncomfortable things that just looking at the obstacles in the way... Jibreel declared that he did not think anyone could enter Jannah!!!

All of the Qur'an and all of the hadiths teach us how to become humble.... how to be righteous.... how to be good. Because this is what the Qur'an was sent for. To guide us and show us the way to righteousness.

It requires a struggle... and a struggle that is unceasing. The moment you stop struggling, you lose the game.

To become humble isn't a one time thing.... and can't be treated like we do other strivings. Like if we are striving to be a doctor, we learn and study and put in years of hard work.... and then we become doctors. We can't say the same thing for humility.

We may start off by having an intense desire to learn about Islam, have the noblest intention to obey Allah in all matters, seek knowledge and acquire knowledge with years of study, do all our acts of worship on time, follow every rule and commandment given in the Shari'ah, learn the Qur'an and recite it beautifully etc. etc. etc. But after all this, we cannot say that we have become humble.

True humility is when you acquire knowledge, learn and understand the true meaning of worshipping Allah.... and that humility causes you to keep your deeds secret. To keep them concealed. True humility leads to true sincerity. And sincerity is acquired when you do not make a show of your righteousness. You keep it hidden.

So the righteous and the humble servants of Allah are actually the hidden gems of this earth. They can be among the ordinary, unknown folk... you never hear about them. And the state of their hearts is in better condition than what their apparent deeds show.

Hence, the Qur'an informs us: "Do not scorn other men.... it may be that they are better than you."


In other words, we do not know and can never know who is really good and who is not. We might think highly of a certain Muslim because of he never misses a prayer. But it's possible that we're completely mistaken in our estimate of him and he is in reality a vile hypocrite.

In Sura Mulk we are informed that the reason why Allah created man was to see who among us is better. And who are the ones among us who are better? They are the ones who are humble.... who have not an atom's weight of pride in their hearts.

And to not have an atom's weight of pride in the heart.... it takes a lot of work. It requires knowledge and vigilance.... to be on your guard, for Shaytan is always waiting to lead you astray from the Straight Path.

So many people fall into Shaytan's trap and are deceived into thinking that they are doing well now that they are doing everything that Allah has commanded.

How does it sound to you? When a person reads the Qur'an and reads the verses describing the believers.... and how they will be admitted to Paradise and enjoy all its delights... and he thinks to himself, "I'm a believer. I'm doing everything that the Qur'an tells me to do. I fear Allah and my skin trembles in fear when I read about Hell... and so Jannah is promised to me! The verses in the Qur'an about the successful ones refer to me!!"


I've heard Muslims making appalling statements such as:

"You'll be in Jannah, insha'allah!"

"Farewell! We'll meet in Jannah, insha'allah!"

"I'm on my way to Jannah!"


BIG QUESTION: How do they know WHO will be in Jannah?!!

We cannot be entertaining such thoughts! In fact, we cannot even make that judgement for anyone else.

We cannot be thinking to ourselves, "I am a good Muslim. I have a good heart," or say about another, "He is a good person. He has a good heart."

How can we dare to ascribe purity/righteousness/goodness to ourselves?!

How can we talk about what lies in a person's heart and declare him/her to be good?!
Like you say sister.... it is only Allah who knows who is better. It is not for any of us to make that judgment.... and it is better for us to be busy rectifying our own affairs and be worried whether Allah will permit us to die as Muslims or not. For Allah is able to do all things.... and it's most easy for Him to turn things around and make kafirs out of Muslims and Muslims out of kafirs.

And Allah wrongs us not. We wrong ourselves.

La ilaha il Allah, Muhammaddar Rasul Allah.

 

[Amat Allah]

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh habibati

Yes, you are right Ya qalbi aaahh Alhamdulilah for everything...

and yes, non should say to anyone...indeed, you are in Jannah or hell ...ever...

we are not perfect habibati and sometimes when we do good to others , they see us as angels astagfero Allah Al 3atheem and think that there is non like us while we are nothing but sinful, did many shamfull deeds and sins against Allah...and maybe they are better than us too Allah Is the Only One Who knows...

but what to do in such case, when you are trying to be nice to others to make them happy, to make them feel good , to help them get closer to Allah and then they start saying those ugly ugly words to you? yes, they seem so nice to be said...but they are ugly cause they may make you ugly from inside...what to do?

when you are always trying to stop others from parising you and tell ya such things but there is no use, what to do?

when you know that they are saying those words cause they are trying to be nice with ya , paying you back and give ya in return, when you know that their intentions are not to hurt ya ever but to make you happy, what to do?

Yes, they may destroy you from inside and also make others think bad about ya and see ya as a hypocrite and arrogant; trying only to show off, thinking of yourself as the best, then what to do? and when you say to them I am not what you are saying or make a Duaa that may Allah make you deserve their nice words then this reaction of urs make them worse and worse...naaaaaaaah she must be an angel, then what to do and how to deal with such thing?


May Allah never prevent us from Al Jannah and May Al Firdaws be our home without any previous punishment Ameeeeeeeeen

 

[Iconodule]

"If you have compassion for all creatures and love your enemies, and if, at the same time, you judge yourself the worst of all people, this shows that the great grace of the Lord is in you." - St. Silouan of Mt. Athos

 

[Flame of Hope]

but what to do in such case, when you are trying to be nice to others to make them happy, to make them feel good , to help them get closer to Allah and then they start saying those ugly ugly words to you? yes, they seem so nice to be said...but they are ugly cause they may make you ugly from inside...what to do?

when you are always trying to stop others from parising you and tell ya such things but there is no use, what to do?

when you know that they are saying those words cause they are trying to be nice with ya , paying you back and give ya in return, when you know that their intentions are not to hurt ya ever but to make you happy, what to do?

Yes, they may destroy you from inside and also make others think bad about ya and see ya as a hypocrite and arrogant; trying only to show off, thinking of yourself as the best, then what to do? and when you say to them I am not what you are saying or make a Duaa that may Allah make you deserve their nice words then this reaction of urs make them worse and worse...naaaaaaaah she must be an angel, then what to do and how to deal with such thing?

Assalamu alaykum my dear sister Amat Allah.

I can understand what you're saying. It's something what I've faced myself and for a long time, I didn't know how to deal with it.

It made me scared. I went into hiding.... for more than 3 years. But I learned my lessons.... which I'd like to share with you.

I came to the realization that I could not run away from responsibility. If fulfilling my responsibilities and duties meant withstanding praise from people..... so be it. It must be endured.

How I feel about getting praised, how much I dread it and how much I wish to just vanish and be an unknown entity in this world... how strongly I feel about all this.... does not mean a thing.

A duty has to be performed..... whether people praise you or criticize you. You do it because you're obligated to do it.

So I've taught myself to ignore praise... and I've learned to be indifferent to what people say. I don't really care if what they say is good or bad.

This has helped me to come out of my shell. And because of that, I've been of far more help to people than I had been...hiding behind the wall.

And indeed... to Allah ALONE belongs ALL PRAISE.

Alhamdulillahir rabbil al ameen!

 

[Flame of Hope]

"Pride is concerned with who is right. Humility is concerned with what is right."

— Ezra Taft Benson

 

[Flame of Hope]

"It is said that it is far more difficult to hold and maintain leadership (liberty) that it is to attain it. Success is a ruthless competitor for it flatters and nourishes our weaknesses and lulls us into complacency. We bask in the sunshine of accomplishment and lose the spirit of humility which helps us visualize all the factors which have contributed to our success. We are apt to forget that we are only one of a team, that in unity there is strength and that we are strong only as long as each unit in our organization functions with precision.

— Samuel Tilden

 

[Flame of Hope]

"Humility leads to strength and not to weakness. It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes and to make amends for them."

— John J. McCloy

 

[Flame of Hope]

"I have three precious things which I hold fast and prize. The first is gentleness; the second frugality; the third is humility, which keeps me from putting myself before others. Be gentle and you can be bold; be frugal and you can be liberal; avoid putting yourself before others and you can become a leader among men."

— Lao-Tzu