How to avoid Christmas?

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Salam Aleykum everyone,
I've a half muslim and a half non-mulsim family background. My parents are separated, so I live with my mother. She is not a muslim, my dad is.

I converted to Islam about 5 months ago, and before it I was christian, just like my mother now. And I celebrated Christmass of course.

But since I am a muslim, I'm not thinking of the christian celebrations, including Christmas. I would not like to celebrate it, becuase Christmas isn't exist in the Islams' celebrations, and I did never like it that so much.

I've already spoken to my mother about it, and told her I prefet to be with my dad at the Christmas time. She said 'no', and she also told me to choose some present. Then I told that to her again, I would not like to celebrate Christmas.


I also don't want to celebrate it because of the alcohol, everyone is drinking alcohol a lot, and eating pork at Christmas. I also told it to her. She was like not listening to me.

I'm feeling myself forced to the Christmas. I would not really like to get any present for Christmas, or watching drunk family members.imsad I really prefer to stay at my dad until the Christmas done.

Here in Europe, especially in Hungary, they don't celebrate the main thing of Christmas. Somehow they forgot about Jesus' birth (peace be upon him).

Is there any possible way to avoid Christmas?imsad

Don't avoid it. Thats the best way. Christmass is the celebration and or day dedicated to Jesus Christos. Your making yourself depressed trying to work so hard to figure out a way to avoid it. God knows whats in your heart so you don't have to run around saying you don't want to celebrate Christmas. Just accept the gift from your mother, if you don't want it just give it tio someone who needs it later. You don't have to drink either, even if you don't want to see it just be with family. Do not disrespect your mother by telling her you want to leave her for this day. No Muslim or Christian should ever make you feel as if you should leave your family for a holiday.I don't care what anyone says on this thread, she is your mother and you must honor your mother, so if anyone says just leave, ignore them. I'm sorry you were not taught the true meaning of Christmas, I live in the US and most only think it's for giving gifts and getting drunk. It's sad, but you should learn the true meaning.

God be with you!
 
Don't avoid it. Thats the best way. Christmass is the celebration and or day dedicated to Jesus Christos. Your making yourself depressed trying to work so hard to figure out a way to avoid it. God knows whats in your heart so you don't have to run around saying you don't want to celebrate Christmas. Just accept the gift from your mother, if you don't want it just give it tio someone who needs it later. You don't have to drink either, even if you don't want to see it just be with family. Do not disrespect your mother by telling her you want to leave her for this day. No Muslim or Christian should ever make you feel as if you should leave your family for a holiday.I don't care what anyone says on this thread, she is your mother and you must honor your mother, so if anyone says just leave, ignore them. I'm sorry you were not taught the true meaning of Christmas, I live in the US and most only think it's for giving gifts and getting drunk. It's sad, but you should learn the true meaning.

God be with you!

Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Christ.And thats all, not for gift giving and drinking or any thing else.
 
Christmas and Islam

By Umm Muhammad

Quite a number of Muslims today, especially those living in Christian dominated countries or those influenced to a large degree by western culture, have been led to consider that taking part in the Christmas celebrations of friends and relatives is, at very least, a harmless pastime if not a legitimate source of pleasure for children and adults alike. In many instances, pressure to conform with the practices of society is too great for those of weak resolve to withstand. Parents are often tempted to give in to the pleading of children who have been invited to a party or who are unable to understand why they alone are being prevented from joining the festivities they observe all around them or why they cannot receive gifts on this occasion like the other children.

Indeed, the Christmas season has been aggressively promoted in every aspect of business, in schools, in every public place. High pressure sales tactics have invaded the home through television, radio, magazine and newspaper, captivating the imagination with every kind of attraction day and night for a month or more every year. Little wonder that many of those thus targeted so persistently succumb to temptation. Among earlier generations, Christmas was an occasion which was still basically religious in orientation. Gifts, trees, decorations and feasting assumed lesser roles. But now all of this has changed. As noted in an American publication, Christmas has gone the way of many other aspects of society, becoming one more element in the mass culture which every season enables manufacturers and merchants to make millions of dollars through an elaborate system of gift exchange which comes more often from mutual expectations that "must" be fulfilled than from the heart. The commonly accepted notion that happiness is derived largely from possessions and entertainment is the driving force behind the month-long preparations and festivities which continue on through the end of the year. This fact, although blameworthy in itself, has led many Muslims into the delusion that Christmas is no longer a religious occasion and therefore does not conflict with Islamic belief.

The materialistic atmosphere surrounding the celebration of Christmas is, in reality, a manifestation of pagan culture (Jaahiliyyah) at its worst. It can only be seen by the conscious Muslim believer as a rat-race designed and implemented by Shaytaan to accomplish a great waste of time, effort, money and resources while countless families barely subsist in a state of poverty throughout many areas of the world. In addition to the commercial side of Christmas, although less obvious to the casual observer, are certain religious aspects to be noted. The celebration was and still is intended by practising Christians as a remembrance of the birth of Jesus Christ (peace be upon him) who is considered by many of them as God incarnate or the second person in a trinity, and thus they celebrate the birth of "divinity." The word itself is an abbreviated form of "Christ Mass," i.e., sacrament in commemoration of Christ. Although taken by Christians to be the birthday of Jesus, the actual date of celebration, December 25th, cannot be traced back any further than the fourth century after Christ. Ironically, this day is also considered to be the birthday of the Hindu god, Krishna, as well as Mithra, the Greek god of light. It also coincides with the annual Tree Festival which had long been celebrated in Northern Europe before the Christian era and which has been recently revived in some Arab countries in an attempt to encourage celebration by disguising the religious significance of the day.

The Christmas tree is the most obvious aspect of that pagan celebration which was incorporated along with its date of observance, December 25th, into church rites. The evergreen tree, because it keeps its green needles throughout the winter months, was believed by pre-Christian pagans to have special powers of protection against the forces of nature and evil spirits. The end of December marked the onset of a visible lengthening of daylight hours - the return of warmth and light and defeat of those evil forces of cold and darkness. At a particular stage of its development, the church is known to have adopted certain of the popular pagan practices into Christianity for political or social reasons.

Thus, in more aspects than one, the holiday is deeply rooted in the worship of different forms of creation rather than the Creator Himself. A Muslim cannot possibly approve of such beliefs or the practices which stem from them. Anyone with a minimal knowledge of Islam would surely reject kufr (disbelief) and shirk (association of partners with Allaah) in every form. Only through ignorance or unawareness could one continue to participate in activities that reflect the acceptance of both. Muslims must be firm in refusal of all which is contrary to the concept of "Laa ilaaha illallaaha (there is none deserving of subservience except Allaah alone)." Consideration for others is well and good on the condition that Islamic principles are not compromised. Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) says:

{If you obey most of those upon the earth, they will lead you away from the way of Allaah} [An’aam 6:116]

And He commands:{Follow what has been revealed to you from your Lord and do not follow any patrons other than Him} [A’raaf 7:3]

Although some, in all honesty, admit their weakness in the face of continual social pressure, others defend their participation by the strange assertion that they observe the occasion through regard for Jesus ('Isa), a prophet of Islam. If such an observance, with its semblance of Islamic atmosphere, is invalid for Prophet Muhammad (saws), how then can it reasonably be valid for other prophets who neither observed nor encouraged such practices, which were later devised by those who abandoned prophetic teachings for their own inclinations and preferences?

{Have you seen him who take as his god his own desire, and Allah has left him astray through knowledge} [Jaathiyah 45:23]

Again, the Muslim is reminded of the hadiths in which the Prophet (saws) warned against imitating the non-believers and encouraged distinguishing oneself from them in dress and manner. Whether taken from the materialistic or the religious standpoint, Christmas can have no place in the Muslim's heart nor in his home. Any Muslim, young or old, who has a secure place in an Islamic community or group which has regular activities and affords companionship will find little difficulty in rejecting that which is harmful to himself and his family, in spite of the apparent attractions. In some societies, refusal and resistance may require actual jihad, but those who seek the acceptance of Allah and fear Him will undertake the task with knowledge that they are striving for salvation and will thus be firm and resolute. For Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) calls to believers, saying:

{O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones} [Tahreem 66:6] And in the avoidance of Hellfire lies Paradise.
 
Don't avoid it. Thats the best way. Christmass is the celebration and or day dedicated to Jesus Christos. Your making yourself depressed trying to work so hard to figure out a way to avoid it. God knows whats in your heart so you don't have to run around saying you don't want to celebrate Christmas. Just accept the gift from your mother, if you don't want it just give it tio someone who needs it later. You don't have to drink either, even if you don't want to see it just be with family. Do not disrespect your mother by telling her you want to leave her for this day. No Muslim or Christian should ever make you feel as if you should leave your family for a holiday.I don't care what anyone says on this thread, she is your mother and you must honor your mother, so if anyone says just leave, ignore them. I'm sorry you were not taught the true meaning of Christmas, I live in the US and most only think it's for giving gifts and getting drunk. It's sad, but you should learn the true meaning.

God be with you!

He cnt ignore it because he is a muslim n he knws what is forbiden in islam.hs mother honor cn b cherished in alot of ways whch wl make her 4get chrismas.
 
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Jazakallah Khairun, Hamza, for that good post.

I've also been thinking about the Christmas celebrations(well.. actually about how to avoid it) a lot lately as it's going to be the first time for me as a muslim.

My family is not religious apart from my grandfather who is a following Christian. However, my dad for some reason likes to go along with all the celebrations as some tradition even though he's not really a Christian.

I'm intending to avoid everything related to the Christmas as much as I can but what's troubling me is that when my dad asks me to do something related to the celebrations. I've already told him that I don't want any presents but do I also have the right to disobey him when he for example tells me to turn on some Christmas lights or for example decorate the Christmas tree as it is all a part of a celebration originating from pagan traditions and slightly from Christianity?

All help would be appreciated.

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:sl: Brother,

You are over 16 year old now, you can make your own decision. If you feel something is not correct in Christmas including alcohol, party, celebrating, Santa Claus idol, Christ birth, etc,........ You can choose to leave it.

Ofc, show her your love in Islam right way. :D
 
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Jazakallah Khairun, Hamza, for that good post.

I've also been thinking about the Christmas celebrations(well.. actually about how to avoid it) a lot lately as it's going to be the first time for me as a muslim.

My family is not religious apart from my grandfather who is a following Christian. However, my dad for some reason likes to go along with all the celebrations as some tradition even though he's not really a Christian.

I'm intending to avoid everything related to the Christmas as much as I can but what's troubling me is that when my dad asks me to do something related to the celebrations. I've already told him that I don't want any presents but do I also have the right to disobey him when he for example tells me to turn on some Christmas lights or for example decorate the Christmas tree as it is all a part of a celebration originating from pagan traditions and slightly from Christianity?

All help would be appreciated.

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Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb my brother jazakallah for sharing this with us. It is never easy for reverts to fully practise and implement Islam in their lives considering the fact that their families are usually still non believers. What you should do is to make them understand in a gentle manner why you cannot partake in such celebration. If you actually sit down with them and explain to them the origin of these celebrations then they may understand better. Also make them realise that this is contrary to Islam and so you cannot partake in these celebrations. This is better than just telling them straight up that you cannot partake in such celebrations because it is contrary to Islam. You should always try to explain the reasons why so they can understand better and then once you have explained yourself then they may have questions which you can answer to the best of your ability.

Also make dua to Allah that Allah gives your family understanding and remember if your family see an improvement in you in that you have become a better human being then they are more likely to change their views on Islam and who knows look into Islam for themselves. The best dawah (Inviting to Islam) is ones character and behaviour and how one comes across to others.

Show them how Islam has changed yourlife for the better so that they may see the light of Islam and pray to Allah to guide them but remember we are just informers and ONLY Allah can guide so always have this in mind and know that we cannot guide anyone to the truth.
 
Sorry for the late reply from me, but I've been to my dad on the weekend, so I have not been too active. But I'm here now...

Well,
I can't make a real decision from your posts, because noone of you could really answer my question. BUT IT'S NOT A PROBLEM! :) :) :) Because, you could tell me things I didn't know before, and now I know. :) Well, we'll see if I'll be celebrating Christmas... Anyways, I still don't want it. We will see. :hmm:
But at least, thank you for read my posts and posted replies.
 
Sorry for the late reply from me, but I've been to my dad on the weekend, so I have not been too active. But I'm here now...

Well,
I can't make a real decision from your posts, because noone of you could really answer my question. BUT IT'S NOT A PROBLEM! :) :) :) Because, you could tell me things I didn't know before, and now I know. :) Well, we'll see if I'll be celebrating Christmas... Anyways, I still don't want it. We will see. :hmm:
But at least, thank you for read my posts and posted replies.

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, no problem my brother we are here for you and if you ever have any other issues or problems then don't ever hesitate to ask or share it with us. Remember us in your dua's inshallah. Wa Salaam
 
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, no problem my brother we are here for you and if you ever have any other issues or problems then don't ever hesitate to ask or share it with us. Remember us in your dua's inshallah. Wa Salaam
Thanks. :)

I'll always remember! ^^>
 

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