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Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family?

My question is how much affection is it appropriate to show for husband and wife in fron of other family members? What does islam allow or encourage? Is it ok to hold hands... for a husband to put his arm around his wife ... for a wife to sit on her husbands lap ... a kiss on a cheek ... say i love you on the phone when there's other family member present?

Could anyone give some examples from Quran or hadith, what did Prophet used to do?

Jazakallah to anybody trying to enlighten me.
 
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I'm sure it's common knowledge to remain respectful in the company of other people, Nothing worse than a couple all over each other in public! It's also culturally wrong. Sitting next to your partner without groping him/her shows maturity and self-control.
 
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I believe none of the things i have mentioned mean a couple being all over each other. What the above poster said is just common knowledge and obvious indeed
AvarAllahNoor said:
I'm sure it's common knowledge to remain respectful in the company of other people, Nothing worse than a couple all over each other in public! It's also culturally wrong. Sitting next to your partner without groping him/her shows maturity and self-control.
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my question was showing affection to what degree does still remain respectful, preferably with some sourses as to where the info was taken from. Sorry, if i did not make it clear.
 
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You have to be aware of cultural sensitivities and so I think it would be best if you do these things in private insha Allah
 
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As I understand it, whitemuslimah is asking about Islamic rulings, rather than cultural views ...
whitemuslimah said:
Could anyone give some examples from Quran or hadith, what did Prophet used to do?
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I remember once asking about whether it was allowed for Muslim couples to hold hands in public (because I have never seen Muslim couples in my community doing so). The opinion then seemed to be that there was no Islamic reason not do hold hands, and that depending on cultural background some muslims did hold hands ...
 
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:sl:

In a situation like this the Islamic view may very well be the culture view, i.e. if it is offensive in the culture, don't do it even if Islam permits it. I don't know what the Islamic cut off line is.

Personally, i don't see anything wrong with holding hands but to sit on your husbands lap, wow that's way to far!
 
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glo said:
As I understand it, whitemuslimah is asking about Islamic rulings, rather than cultural views ...
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Just like Malaikah said, it may be offensive to certain cultures so even if it was islamically permitted, then it would be better to refrain in order to not cause offence
 
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whitemuslimah said:
My question is how much affection is it appropriate to show for husband and wife in fron of other family members? What does islam allow or encourage? Is it ok to hold hands... for a husband to put his arm around his wife ... for a wife to sit on her husbands lap ... a kiss on a cheek ... say i love you on the phone when there's other family member present?

Could anyone give some examples from Quran or hadith, what did Prophet used to do?

Jazakallah to anybody trying to enlighten me.
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tHIS IS JUST NORMAL..FOR AMERICAN...AND ENGLAND KISSING,HUGGING AND ETC IF NON-MUSLIM....IS OK...THEN MUSLIM IS HARAM..! MAYBE KHALWAT...
IF U THINK IS OK...SO OK LAH...SO BE OPEN-MINDED!
 
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:salamext:

It depends on your culture. Personally, I think that holding hands should be the limit in front of people. It shows a lack of modesty of you go further, e.g. kissing, etc. (even though they are your spouse).
 
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Suffiyan007 said:
tHIS IS JUST NORMAL..FOR AMERICAN...AND ENGLAND KISSING,HUGGING AND ETC IF NON-MUSLIM....IS OK...THEN MUSLIM IS HARAM..! MAYBE KHALWAT...
IF U THINK IS OK...SO OK LAH...SO BE OPEN-MINDED!
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Brother, think about what you are saying. It is normal for non Muslims because they do not have modesty, it is not normal for Muslims because we should have modesty.
 
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I don't believe it is necessary to do such things in front of other family members. Even holding hands, surely a couple can sit there without holding hands. Must have time during the day to this and kiss etc when family is not around.
 
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Brother, think about what you are saying. It is normal for non Muslims because they do not have modesty, it is not normal for Muslims because we should have modesty.
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Yes, i do know.what i am gonna said is ok for non-muslim....cause no modesty.ya i know.i said for muslim husband and wife,can kiss and hug and etc..just do it when no one seeing...in the house.! i have seen husband and wife kissing and hugging in front of their children...for american! is normal for them.!
 
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Malaikah said:
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Personally, i don't see anything wrong with holding hands but to sit on your husbands lap, wow that's way to far!
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anonymous said:
Lol thats embarassin bein al over each other in front of fa,ily for the FAMILY if not for the couple id never do dat wit my hubby man
leave dat 4 d bedroom ahahah
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Layla454 said:
Just like Malaikah said, it may be offensive to certain cultures so even if it was islamically permitted, then it would be better to refrain in order to not cause offence
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Lonely Gal said:
I don't believe it is necessary to do such things in front of other family members. Even holding hands, surely a couple can sit there without holding hands. Must have time during the day to this and kiss etc when family is not around.
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AnonymousGender said:
:D go for it wen de fam int lukin! no wait dnt...coz den.. erm..
jst dnt do it, but hold hands iz cute wen couples do dat ..ahhhh :-[
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- Serene - said:

:salamext:
Personally, I think there should be the limit of holding hands in front of the family members. Other than that, people say you lack modesty.
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All these seems to be personal opinions.

Does anybody know what exactly the official Islamic rulings in this matter are?
I feel whitemuslimah is still waiting for an answer to her question ...
 
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Hey glo,

No offence or anything, but it is really simple, is it not? What is considered modest and what is not? I guess it can depend on your culture though...

 
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if you love your wife/love your husband no harm show affection in front of people,either relatives or parents of the husband and wife...the parents also showing affective to the love one...! cause if u love someone,u wil hug or kiss on forehead or cheek....rather mouth to show obvious...so if u love your wife u can hug whether is in public...and people just ignored what u did...even your parents kissing and hugging..! just to make happening..! i not that kind of narrow minded...! i know muslim restricted cause the act is inappropriate, cause married couple is married,if not marry yet is haram..cause Khalwat,the act for the couple not yet married and have an affair..for me husband and wife kissing and hugging in front family is to make witness from the family to see them their like loving and happiness couple.! other will feel hope they be in love again.!
 
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Suffiyan007 said:
if you love your wife/love your husband no harm show affection in front of people,either relatives or parents of the husband and wife...the parents also showing affective to the love one...! cause if u love someone,u wil hug or kiss on forehead or cheek....rather mouth to show obvious...so if u love your wife u can hug whether is in public...and people just ignored what u did...even your parents kissing and hugging..! just to make happening..! i not that kind of narrow minded...! i know muslim restricted cause the act is inappropriate, cause married couple is married,if not marry yet is haram..cause Khalwat,the act for the couple not yet married and have an affair..for me husband and wife kissing and hugging in front family is to make witness from the family to see them their like loving and happiness couple.! other will feel hope they be in love again.!
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:salamext:

whitemuslimah, please make sure you note this down as his opinion, because Islaam is totally opposite to this.
 
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Suffiyan007 said:
if you love your wife/love your husband no harm show affection in front of people,either relatives or parents of the husband and wife...the parents also showing affective to the love one...! cause if u love someone,u wil hug or kiss on forehead or cheek....rather mouth to show obvious...so if u love your wife u can hug whether is in public...and people just ignored what u did...even your parents kissing and hugging..! just to make happening..! i not that kind of narrow minded...! i know muslim restricted cause the act is inappropriate, cause married couple is married,if not marry yet is haram..cause Khalwat,the act for the couple not yet married and have an affair..for me husband and wife kissing and hugging in front family is to make witness from the family to see them their like loving and happiness couple.! other will feel hope they be in love again.!
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I knew that u asked her to quote my comment.the husband wife problem...probably their problem...for me if the couple doing this no point that i gonna to said objection...is their choice...if using syariah law...it will objection...as long as dont get to other people problem to trouble...the husband and wife wanna on the public...i aslo dont care...! is their problem! we can't force that a husband wife kiss and hug will be arrested...i obey what is islam teaching and Quran said....and i respect others people who is couple,that they wanna kiss or hug on the publics is their choice...i not gonna said u can't do this and that....
 
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Seing that modesty is a great part of Islam.

As he (SAW) has said 'If you dont have modesty then do you as you like
-to the nearest words- Hadith Qudsi!

Being aware of todays climax and how much inapropiate sexual material or
things that provoke is apparent;as muslim parents one should keep
the bedroom affairs,within their privacy.

Having said that,parents can always interact with one another utmost politely,have a respectful approach to one another,showing their understanding;building a peaceful enviroment at home and serving a good
picture of the marital relationship for their children.
 

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