I am such a failure arghh, just want to cry

Don't worry about it, it happens really often!

Here's my little story:
I started University 4 years ago, I originally was supposed to complete my degree in 3 years. Originally, I planned to do: a major in German, and a double minor in Spanish and Russian (I spoke neither language).
After a year and a half, I dropped the German and hadn't even taken a single Spanish course, started a major depression due to a failed long-term (5 year) relationship, a huge change in my whole life and consequently failed 4 out of 10 classes in 2 semesters. I was at rock bottom.
In my 4th semester (one of my most turbulent semesters), I started taking translation courses (I am French-Canadian but speak English fluently). I loved it! I continued and started putting the pieces of my life and education back together. Even though I hit a few bumps in the road, I kept at it.
I gratuated in May from one of the best universitites in Canada (world-recognized), I do what I love (translation) and I've made my family very proud (out of 7 cousins, I am the only one to actually complete a university degree). I may be tooting my own horn, but I stuck to my guns, I kept at it, I worked hard and God rewarded me.
So don't despair. Just make the changes you have to and keep at it. Plus, it's compeltely normal to start studying something and change your mind. Take this wonderful opportunity you have and make the best of it!
 
MaiCarInMtl said:
Don't worry about it, it happens really often!

Here's my little story:
I started University 4 years ago, I originally was supposed to complete my degree in 3 years. Originally, I planned to do: a major in German, and a double minor in Spanish and Russian (I spoke neither language).
After a year and a half, I dropped the German and hadn't even taken a single Spanish course, started a major depression due to a failed long-term (5 year) relationship, a huge change in my whole life and consequently failed 4 out of 10 classes in 2 semesters. I was at rock bottom.
In my 4th semester (one of my most turbulent semesters), I started taking translation courses (I am French-Canadian but speak English fluently). I loved it! I continued and started putting the pieces of my life and education back together. Even though I hit a few bumps in the road, I kept at it.
I gratuated in May from one of the best universitites in Canada (world-recognized), I do what I love (translation) and I've made my family very proud (out of 7 cousins, I am the only one to actually complete a university degree). I may be tooting my own horn, but I stuck to my guns, I kept at it, I worked hard and God rewarded me.
So don't despair. Just make the changes you have to and keep at it. Plus, it's compeltely normal to start studying something and change your mind. Take this wonderful opportunity you have and make the best of it!
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its definitely McGill :D. congrats to you.
 
Haven't read anyone's reply here so my apologies if it is a repeat.
6 mins to iftar so I'll make it brief...

You are going to be the age you are going to be whenever, might as well get there doing something you like than doing something you hate... it really doesn't matter when you begin or finish.. it is all about that single step you take to realize your goal.
I was doing my masters/PhD combined and 9 months into it I realized, I didn't want to spend my life doing research.. I had already my B.S and my parents just wanted me to get married and have a job (they didn't approve of my bachelors in biology anyway) as they wanted me to go the path of all the females in the family (into pharmacy).. I pleaded with them for months, and took a few jobs with pharmaceutical companies which I hated, and eventually applied to Med school...

When you turn 38, do you want to be 38 and a midwife or 38 and a lawyer? think about that and realize that no one else is going to live your life or die your death or be accountable for your deeds, and then make the best informed decision for you insha'Allah..

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woops... I just realized the age of this thread, I feel so foolish :haha: I wonder how the OP is doing? Insha'Allah she is on her way to achieve what she wants..

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AnonymousGender said:
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No your right I guess I just freaked out when your doing a medical subject and your closer to qualify it gets scary and I am now going to give it a shot since iskarah turned out in favour of it.

Whats the point is diffucult to compare subject since law and midwifery are completly different, I guess we need more midwifes than lawyers.

Make dua for me please!
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Asslsamu Alikaum.

I had similar experiences like yours. My family wanted me to become a doctor so I can compete with my other relatives who are dentists and doctors. I hate science, hate maths and I hate the idea handlings patients....gross.

I wanted to do law too. :p I told my parents and they went mad. They ignored me for several weeks but they later accepted it...

But anyway I hope everything turns out fine for you!

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Oh wow I feel stupid. This topic is kinda old. -_-;;;
 
Guestfellow said:
Asslsamu Alikaum.

I had similar experiences like yours. My family wanted me to become a doctor so I can compete with my other relatives who are dentists and doctors. I hate science, hate maths and I hate the idea handlings patients....gross.

I wanted to do law too. :p I told my parents and they went mad. They ignored me for several weeks but they later accepted it...

But anyway I hope everything turns out fine for you!

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Oh wow I feel stupid. This topic is kinda old. -_-;;;
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I'm desi, so must i really mention the option my parents gave me? Medicine. However, because they are so broad minded, masha'Allah, they gave me another option. :exhausted Computer Science.

However, my ultimate goal is not to acquire a degree. Insha'Allah I wish to do something better with my life. I believe my parents know what is best for me, and I can't go wrong by making my parents happy and by obeying them. Thus, no matter how much I hate Math and science, I am going to go for a Computer Science degree Insha'Allah.

I personally wanted to do Business Admin or Economics. Either way, Insha'Allah I'll be doing a minor in English.

Duas Requested.
 
Salaam.

Yeah I think many Asian parents want to see their children go Uni and do medicine. -_-;;

Mashallah it is good to hear you’re trying to keep your parents happy. I do feel guilty for upsetting my parents and not keeping them happy. :hmm:

I will do dua for yeah.
 
I think medicine is cool but is overrated. If someone, like me, loves it then they should go for it but not cuz they succumbed to pressure from parents, peers and the like. It is generally an area which ensures job security, of course only if you are a professional and a compassionate doctor, than others such as research where you have heavily dependent on the agencies/govt to fund and if they think your project is crap then you sit down, rewrite teh whole grant application and continue submitting it (while living hand to mouth) till your grant gets released. meh.
 
:sl:,

I was graduated my BS degree in Pkg Engineer that I was very grateful to work in a big companies Fisher Price and Crayola. I had a hard time in University in the beginning but I get and get better in the end. Pkg Engineer is very tough in physics, math, chemical, biology, advanced courses and I am done, whew! All sides of my parents are doctors, lol.

My parents were proud of me that I was the first person in family members to complete education in US with a degree.

My advice is it is your decision to choose any study program that make you happy, study hard and get over with it.
 

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