Salams,
this is about a problem I have been having recently. I have been introduced to a girl through some mutual friends. Both of us are sunni muslim. we have both been in a relationship before that had ended for the sole reason because the other person was not a muslim. Anyways over the course of 2 to 3 weeks we got talking got to know each other and I like her very much. I think she likes me to because she seems very comfertable with me and does not mind sharing and talking to me about personal issues.
We have both become better practicing muslims since our previous breakups, and she has also become a Hijabi. I really like her and have a good feeling about her, that she is the right person for me to get to know more and maybe eventually marry.
however, last week she talked to her ex boyfriend after a while and now is confused and thinks we should not talk for a while and she needs time. this hurt me because i thought things were ok between us. I dont think she doesnt like me, instead i can think of 3 possible reasons of this.
1. she still has feelings for her ex and was reminded by this phone call, and is just not ready to trust another man right now.
2. since becoming hijabi she feels it is wrong to be talking to a man alone or dating a man.
3. she regrets sins she has commited in the past and is afraid they will happen again if she dates.
what should I do? i really like her, but i dont think proposing marriage right away or telling each others parents to get involved is the answer. im sure this will just scare her away.
Thanks,
this is about a problem I have been having recently. I have been introduced to a girl through some mutual friends. Both of us are sunni muslim. we have both been in a relationship before that had ended for the sole reason because the other person was not a muslim. Anyways over the course of 2 to 3 weeks we got talking got to know each other and I like her very much. I think she likes me to because she seems very comfertable with me and does not mind sharing and talking to me about personal issues.
We have both become better practicing muslims since our previous breakups, and she has also become a Hijabi. I really like her and have a good feeling about her, that she is the right person for me to get to know more and maybe eventually marry.
however, last week she talked to her ex boyfriend after a while and now is confused and thinks we should not talk for a while and she needs time. this hurt me because i thought things were ok between us. I dont think she doesnt like me, instead i can think of 3 possible reasons of this.
1. she still has feelings for her ex and was reminded by this phone call, and is just not ready to trust another man right now.
2. since becoming hijabi she feels it is wrong to be talking to a man alone or dating a man.
3. she regrets sins she has commited in the past and is afraid they will happen again if she dates.
what should I do? i really like her, but i dont think proposing marriage right away or telling each others parents to get involved is the answer. im sure this will just scare her away.
Thanks,