I NEED consolence!!! PLEASE!!!

[Tiara B]

Assalamu Alaikum everyone, it was really comforting to read all you replies and yes, I do have to keep lots and lots of FAITH nd HOPE in Allah.

It is partly true that some men might not like women who have a higher education /better salaries than themselves. But I think that at times we need to trust Allah. It's Qadar . I don't personally think marriage will be an issue to girls, dunno about there.

I think also your demandings will affect getting married. Because on the other side, who wouldn't want to marry a doctor??

I don't think that you necesseraly have to move abroad. Are there not any suitable universities in your country, or perhaps you should ask if you have any relatives abroad.

I sincerily hope you will get an education. Medicine is an interesting field.

I will make du'aa for you

You talked about studying abroad, which placer are in your mind?

Thanks a lot sis, I'm really grateful for you. It's good to know atleast, that there are other people like me...and sadly, there are no proper universities or whatever in SL. that's why most people move abroad. I think India is good, but Malaysia seems to be much better.

 

[Kabeer]

Assalamu Alaikum,

I am also a Sri Lankan Muslim, I know the silly standards set by the community.
If you wish to be educated, do so. There is no harm in doing so. So what if it closes off certain males as spouses?
The men who would care in such a way, you probably wouldn't be happy with anyway.

Peace.

 

[Tiara B]

i feel better after reading your posts....alhamdulillah....and yes you cant achieve everything you desire in this world...and Inshallah.,, Allah who guides us in the right path, will choose the path that is best for me....because he is the Judge, the Creator and the All Knower.....and my duty is to follow the True Path..Alhamdulillah

 

[Cabdullahi]

you can marry first and perhaps do it part time Allah Knows best!

 

[Abdul Wahid]

i feel better after reading your posts....alhamdulillah....and yes you cant achieve everything you desire in this world...and Inshallah.,, Allah who guides us in the right path, will choose the path that is best for me....because he is the Judge, the Creator and the All Knower.....and my duty is to follow the True Path..Alhamdulillah

sister.

It's good to know that your feeling more better. Take it one day at a time.

The best of planners is ALLAH(SWT).

:wa:

 

[CosmicPathos]

To the OP: As sister The Vale's Lilly has correctly said, medicine is a long road, regardless of wherever you study and practice. It would require patience, determination, a great deal of personal sacrifice, deep motivation and constant soul-searching. My friend is going to be a general surgery intern and he will be spending more than 80 hours/week of work for the next 5 years. A truck-driver will be making way way more than my friend in these 5 years (My purpose is not to belittle truck drivers, the purpose was to show that he wont get paid according to the sheer volume of work he'll do). It even scared me, not that I was not expecting it but at least I can mentally prepare in advance ... the decision to study medicine will certainly cost heavy personal sacrifices ..... but I guess if it is just done for the sake of Allah then it is a worth-pursuing endeavor in path of the Beloved which is rife with thorns, obstacles and poisonous creatures.

 

[Tiara B]

Isn't there any short course i can follow, in the field of science? Because i don't want to spend the rest of my life with my head burried in books.

And all the descriptions you gave me on how it would be like to study medicine, well, i admit it's a bit frightening, but at the same time, a small part of me wants to take up the challenge. i don't know, i'm a bit undecided right now,i just have to pray Isthikarah and supplicate to Allah.
But i also need to know what the short courses are in the field of science, at-least 3 to 4 years would do.