I want help from anyone here who can provide it.
I'm in love with a woman, and we're both Muslims of the Hanafi school of Islam. The love is mutual, thank God, and we're best friends with one another. I'd love nothing more than to be married to her, and the sooner, the better.
The problem is this; we lack the financial means to get married. We're both virtually broke, and both our parents would be strongly opposed to our marriage out of us lacking independence (we're both financially dependent on our parents) and us being from different corners of society. And for obvious reasons, we can't have this be on either of our official records, so for the longest time, we had no idea where to proceed from there.
During this time, I have discovered that there's kind of marriage called a "misyar marriage", that basically fits everything we're looking for and can work out until we're formally married. Upon further research, I realized that the marriage in question is usually abused by rich businessmen to basically engage in what is legal prostitution, and I was disgusted by the fact that something so lenient and set up to help financially unable/couples not able to get married publicly can be used like this.
I would like to stress this in advance. Neither I nor my best friend are the kind of people who are interested in such a thing. I genuinely want to be in a functional relationship until I am capable of being married in formal terms. I am not doing this to abuse, neglect or simply (heaven forbid) do it to chase after other women. I'm in love with her and her alone, and that love is what had me pick up what courage I had and brought me here.
I would like a solution to our problem. And I was hoping (knowing that this is aimed specifically at Hanafi school Muslims) someone here would help assist us.
I'm in love with a woman, and we're both Muslims of the Hanafi school of Islam. The love is mutual, thank God, and we're best friends with one another. I'd love nothing more than to be married to her, and the sooner, the better.
The problem is this; we lack the financial means to get married. We're both virtually broke, and both our parents would be strongly opposed to our marriage out of us lacking independence (we're both financially dependent on our parents) and us being from different corners of society. And for obvious reasons, we can't have this be on either of our official records, so for the longest time, we had no idea where to proceed from there.
During this time, I have discovered that there's kind of marriage called a "misyar marriage", that basically fits everything we're looking for and can work out until we're formally married. Upon further research, I realized that the marriage in question is usually abused by rich businessmen to basically engage in what is legal prostitution, and I was disgusted by the fact that something so lenient and set up to help financially unable/couples not able to get married publicly can be used like this.
I would like to stress this in advance. Neither I nor my best friend are the kind of people who are interested in such a thing. I genuinely want to be in a functional relationship until I am capable of being married in formal terms. I am not doing this to abuse, neglect or simply (heaven forbid) do it to chase after other women. I'm in love with her and her alone, and that love is what had me pick up what courage I had and brought me here.
I would like a solution to our problem. And I was hoping (knowing that this is aimed specifically at Hanafi school Muslims) someone here would help assist us.