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[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you ramen,

i need to know one more thing before leaving for wales. its my grandfather who's going to be my legal gaurdian and be along while i'm hospitalised. he'll meet me at southamptom and then his brother will drive us to london and THEN we stay the night at their home..AND THEN fly to swansea airport and then finally drive to neath!( i know thats crazy but we had to get everything done in 3 days..)

I have just reread your travel arrangements, and they don't make much sense to me. The main international airports are near London, so why drive 60 plus miles away from London airport to meet in Southampton, then drive 70 miles back to London? Which airport are you flying into?

Blessings

Eric

 

[ramen-thelegend]

Greetings and peace be with you ramen,



I have just reread your travel arrangements, and they don't make much sense to me. The main international airports are near London, so why drive 60 plus miles away from London airport to meet in Southampton, then drive 70 miles back to London? Which airport are you flying into?

Blessings

Eric

we had to get everything done in 2 days that is why its all really messed up. i'm travelling from peshawer( but there are no international airports there so we have to go to islamabad) to neath( but again there are no international airports there so we have to land on and swansea airport and drive to neath)

actually we first have a layover at paris then southampton( my grandfather's brother lives there, actually he was coming to england initially to meet him but now because of me, plans have changed) and then his brother drives us to london( from there, there were no flights until the next some days or so ,plus we could manage to reach for the next flight to swansea so yeah we're driving to london)

makes sense now?

 

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you ramen,

That makes sense if you are flying from Paris to Southampton, sorry I was not understanding you. I live a few miles from Southampton, I could call into one of the Southampton mosques and ask if a couple of sisters could meet you. No promises that I could make it work, but I could try. I have to go out at 9 am for much of the day; if you could let me know.

I did post the contact details for the mosques, but just do a Google search for Southampton mosques if you would like to make contact yourself

Blessings

Eric

 

[ramen-thelegend]

Greetings and peace be with you ramen,

That makes sense if you are flying from Paris to Southampton, sorry I was not understanding you. I live a few miles from Southampton, I could call into one of the Southampton mosques and ask if a couple of sisters could meet you. No promises that I could make it work, but I could try. I have to go out at 9 am for much of the day; if you could let me know.

I did post the contact details for the mosques, but just do a Google search for Southampton mosques if you would like to make contact yourself

Blessings

Eric

thank you so much Mr.Eric but i dont think thats going to work since i have to meet my grandfather there, i dont think he'd allow that and neither do i know the specific timings for now. i know sounds stupid and sooo unorganized but thats the way it is. i mean thats the way it works in my family. i dont know much of the details of anything thats happening. i'm told to do whatever i'm said and asked to shut up and not question anymore.

i have an old friend( he's a guy but has big sisters who're really nice and i asked them if we could meet and they said yes) who's from pakistan but they're living in paris, i'm meeting them there. its not for sure i will meet them but they said they could take out time in the next two or three days. i have to meet them because i'm travelling solo so i dont know some kind of rules...or i dont know...

anyways if you get contacts of someone, do let me know!

 

[ramen-thelegend]

i finally got to talk to my mom! finally!

i talked to my mom! [MENTION=38408]Serinity[/MENTION] [MENTION=370]Eric H[/MENTION]

i took all your advice. she did slap me again but it was different this time. not really sure good or bad.

i just went up and said i was sorry for ruining her time with her family and she slapped me...i stood there firm and she asked me if i felt how she was feeling because of what i did. i told her it wasn't my fault i got sick and asked her why she was being so rude to me...i got a slap back and she told me that was because i keep talking back to her and then i asked her why she did it in the first place and she said go on ! what do u have to say?...me has nothing to say..me say sorry again for all the problems i had ever caused her and thanked her for all the money she had wasted on me only to end it all up, i mean return her with cancer and that if i live i'll pay her back and wont let her down ever again and she interrupts and be like ok! i get it ! thats it? is that what u had to say? me say yhass but did u even listen to any of it?? she slapped me again and i started bleeding...she got me up and i simply asked her WwwHhhYyyy? and she said i'm sorry. i said sorry again and thank u for everything and she asked me to go get lost and get my QURAN!( she took it away about a month back when she grounded me for some reason). i asked her why she changed the topic...i expected her to slap me again but she be like you're going or not or do you want another slap...me seriously didn't want another so i left.

thats what happened.........

 

[Eric H]

Re: i finally got to talk to my mom! finally!

Greetings and peace be with you ramen;

You are so brave, well done for persisting in trying to make up with your mum, she sounds a very troubled women. I don't know either of you, but I sense a change in your mum, she sounds like a woman who would never say sorry, so to say sorry even after slapping you seems a huge step forward.
For her to say you can have your Quran back, also seems like a huge change to me.

But all that is not important, the important thing is you have tried your best to make peace with your mum, this will help you in the future. Life is hard, somehow you need to look at yourself at the age of 14, and be prepared to fight all battles with loving kindness, in the end kindness will help you find strength. You are already incredibly strong, but you do not realise it.

I am going to see if I can make contact with the mosque, do you know an approximate time you might be in Southampton.

Blessings

Eric

 

[Serinity]

Re: i finally got to talk to my mom! finally!

i talked to my mom! @Serinity @Eric H

i took all your advice. she did slap me again but it was different this time. not really sure good or bad.

i just went up and said i was sorry for ruining her time with her family and she slapped me...i stood there firm and she asked me if i felt how she was feeling because of what i did. i told her it wasn't my fault i got sick and asked her why she was being so rude to me...i got a slap back and she told me that was because i keep talking back to her and then i asked her why she did it in the first place and she said go on ! what do u have to say?...me has nothing to say..me say sorry again for all the problems i had ever caused her and thanked her for all the money she had wasted on me only to end it all up, i mean return her with cancer and that if i live i'll pay her back and wont let her down ever again and she interrupts and be like ok! i get it ! thats it? is that what u had to say? me say yhass but did u even listen to any of it?? she slapped me again and i started bleeding...she got me up and i simply asked her WwwHhhYyyy? and she said i'm sorry. i said sorry again and thank u for everything and she asked me to go get lost and get my QURAN!( she took it away about a month back when she grounded me for some reason). i asked her why she changed the topic...i expected her to slap me again but she be like you're going or not or do you want another slap...me seriously didn't want another so i left.

thats what happened.........

I don't want you hurt tbh........ Try to talk to her again, this time ask Allah SWT for help. It is called Salaat al-Istikhaarah
After asking for help, go and try talk to her. May Allah SWT guide you in your conduct with her. Ameen.

I got an advice for you, In shaa' Allah. When she asks you "do you feel how I feel because of what you did?" say "did what?"

"you keep talking back to me" say "about what?"

is your mom muslim btw?

I think you need to build a relationship with your mom. Try to buy her stuff, and when she starts asking about "remember what you did?" say "did what?" or if she says "why are you doing this?" say "because I love you, and I want you to love me" or something.. Try to make her open up to you.

 

[~ Sabr ~]

:salamext:

Hope you're well :ia: PM me anytime :ia: x

 

[ramen-thelegend]

Re: i finally got to talk to my mom! finally!

I don't want you hurt tbh........ Try to talk to her again, this time ask Allah SWT for help. It is called Salaat al-Istikhaarah
After asking for help, go and try talk to her. May Allah SWT guide you in your conduct with her. Ameen.

I got an advice for you, In shaa' Allah. When she asks you "do you feel how I feel because of what you did?" say "did what?"

"you keep talking back to me" say "about what?"

is your mom muslim btw?

I think you need to build a relationship with your mom. Try to buy her stuff, and when she starts asking about "remember what you did?" say "did what?" or if she says "why are you doing this?" say "because I love you, and I want you to love me" or something.. Try to make her open up to you.

ahhhhhhhhh...i did try again....i've never been in more awkward situations before...trust me i'm not that emotional kinda person...more of a stone in real life.

this time i guess it went good..i mean i'm not sure...tell me if it is ok?

so my mom and my brother were in the kitchen...doing stuff...i mean we had a lunch..people neighbours blah blah blah came over to see me..i dont know good bye or good luck or some thing..what do you call it?? anyways so yeah i went to them and asked them if they needed a hand in something...everythings stops...my mama turns around and be like are u ok? did the sun rise from the west? wait..its even friday! my brother starts laughing and i'm like i'm serious! my brother be like why? me says because......i love u guys......they both gimme that sarcastic smile and be like huh! me says what? mama says what did u just say??? me says i said i love u guys! they both look at each other and smile and get back to work..then my brother picks up a bowl of custard which went way too think so wasn't used...and be like what do i do with this? me says lets freexe it and it'll be ice cream!
....and then we make ice cream..we had a bit of a fight over the ice cream thing ..like what you put it in to shape it..i had only one left and one couldn't do me so i put it in a mini pringles box and a gum box! haha! i didn't get a slap this time...or anything else but yeah this was the first time we did something like that together. well it ain't really ice cream..more of frozen vanilla custard but...we did something...

anyways anybody knows how long will it take to freeze? i mean become ice cream?

 

[~ Sabr ~]

Sis ...what are you saying?

 

[ramen-thelegend]

Sis ...what are you saying?

sorry..that was ...well.. [MENTION=370]Eric H[/MENTION] and Serinity asked me to make up with my mom before i left because maybe i wont get another chance..

read some of the previous posts and you'll understand

 

[abumuslim82]

Re: i finally got to talk to my mom! finally!

edit: its in my last post..........

continued from :http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/134332799-suicide-please-please-help-3.html


i'm sorry......what i told you guys was only blood tests, they got my something called CFS some thingy related to some spinal fluid or ...i dont know some thingies... test done later the same night. i've got bone marrow biospy or aspiration or something like that test today. sorry i didn't know that before. actually i know nothing about biology. but thats not my fault...i mean it is but ...well i'm not studying bio in 9th grade and i skipped 8th grade so yeah i pretty much dont understand anything that is written in those tests.

i'm sorry, the bone marrow transplant i talked off was actually some kind of bone marrow test or aspiration or whatever you call.

anyways this stuff is really all over my head. i need to know some stuff from you guys

firstly, if this luekema thing is confirmed my grandmother already got tickets for wales, that means i have to go to wales for this transplant thing, actually the city that i'm living in currently does not have any cancer hospitals, and the nearest one is in i guess 1 hour 20-30 min drive. which is the doctors say not good for me.(actually i think they're exagerrating cz i dont really feel any kind of pain or something...) and our flight is on the 6th of may. obviously she couldn't get them booked so fast so there are going to be multiple stops. ....i guess we're going to reach in 2 days or something;D

i still cant believe this stuff....its the fourth day cancer cancer cancer everywhere! i feel like everything else...that i've ever done or dreamt off means nothing! this stupid thing ruined everything! i've not cried yet, but i feel like thats because i still cant really accept what is going on! i kinda laughing at myself!

i dont clearly understand what they're talking off( cz they be speaking so fast spanish!) but my grandmother wants me to go to wales with my grandfather( my mom cant come because my brother got exams on the 5th and they end on 17th so....).... ....but i dont really understand .....like ok maybe he can be my legal gaurdian but ....i've never met him before and i dont really know if that is acceptable in islam, i mean keeping in mind i was adopted....is it ok?
(i'm not really sure if thats the case, but that was my level of understanding and i cant dare to ask my grandmother because she is really rude and mean to me and my mom starts crying and cursing me whenever i'm around her or ask her something)

and i might need to talk to some of the sisters in the uk( i know there are no welsh here from :http://www.islamicboard.com/misc-la...ukhto-speaks-welsh-cymraeg-3.html#post2891195
, in case if i'm going there. i'll PM you my contact number once i'm there. i got crazy dumb questions to ask or maybe discuss....( i know @~sabr~ , i'm already counting on you, but trust me you'll get tired, lets divide some of the work load huh?)

Salaam sis, I know I can nag, but have honey with ur medication.

And never ever lose hope in ALLAH mercy.

oh ALLAH, please fill out sisters heart with joy and contentment and give her complete shifaa, and we ask the same for every Muslim, ameen ameen ameen.

Have u reached ur destination safely ? Wasn't that bad ne

 

[ramen-thelegend]

Re: i finally got to talk to my mom! finally!

Salaam sis, I know I can nag, but have honey with ur medication.

And never ever lose hope in ALLAH mercy.

oh ALLAH, please fill out sisters heart with joy and contentment and give her complete shifaa, and we ask the same for every Muslim, ameen ameen ameen.

Have u reached ur destination safely ? Wasn't that bad ne

ameen

no bro........ i'll leave in about 3 hours for the airport and 5 hours to my flight!

i just finished packing so got nothing else to do...i mean nothing better than IB.
my room is as empty as my head!

edit: if i had left, what would i be doing at my home making ice cream with my mom and my brother?

 

[Serinity]

MAKE THEM CRY WHEN THEY LEAVE. May Allah SWT guide them. Ameen.

Seriously. Assuming they are Muslims, I ask ALLAH to make them miss you.

Anyways, I hope you've arranged some plan where a sister or 2 can accompany you.

And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[Eric H]

Re: i finally got to talk to my mom! finally!

Dear ramen,

I am so really pleased for you, this will make such a difference when you leave, it will give you hope that you have something to live for.

so my mom and my brother were in the kitchen...doing stuff...i mean we had a lunch..people neighbours blah blah blah came over to see me..i dont know good bye or good luck or some thing..what do you call it?? anyways so yeah i went to them and asked them if they needed a hand in something...everythings stops...my mama turns around and be like are u ok? did the sun rise from the west? wait..its even friday! my brother starts laughing and i'm like i'm serious! my brother be like why? me says because......i love u guys......they both gimme that sarcastic smile and be like huh! me says what? mama says what did u just say??? me says i said i love u guys! they both look at each other and smile and get back to work..then my brother picks up a bowl of custard which went way too think so wasn't used...and be like what do i do with this? me says lets freexe it and it'll be ice cream!
....and then we make ice cream..we had a bit of a fight over the ice cream thing ..like what you put it in to shape it..i had only one left and one couldn't do me so i put it in a mini pringles box and a gum box! haha! i didn't get a slap this time...or anything else but yeah this was the first time we did something like that together. well it ain't really ice cream..more of frozen vanilla custard but...we did something...

I wish I had read this before I posted on your other thread.

May Allah continue to bless you with wisdom,

Eric

 

[Aisha]

Does anyone else have a strong suspicion that this person isn't quite who she says she is?

Vague details about a terminal illness then changing those details to suit.
Refusing an offer of help from a sister who lives close to her. The sister wanted to visit her in hospital however this girl claimed not to know which hospital she'll be at.
Clsimed above that a sister has been informed of her details so she can check on her and it's a secret. I asked her which sister, reply was 'neighbours'.
The story suddenly changed when I told her I've a mind to contact the police and social services. This is clearly a safeguarding issue as Ramen has spoken about many incidents of severe abuse.


See PM below:

Re: ...........

did u do all that stuff?

if u haven't until now, then please dont. i told my mom all this stuff and she got really mad and started crying and asked me why i trusted people that i just met on the internet more than her?

i seriously feel really bad. things were just getting better and now i ruined it all.

anyways looooooooollll u sound a lil way tooo concerned. I FEEL SPECAIL!

u all mean a lot to me. a lot more than u think. no one has ever been that concerned about me. thank u so much but i feel like now u huys should stay out of it.​

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[~ Sabr ~]

[MENTION=33982]Aisha[/MENTION] she is 14 and has just been diagnosed with cancer, what do you expect?! :facepalm:

 

[Aisha]

Bear in mind she posted about it a while before she was supposedly diagnosed. Even then, the medical details were all wrong.

If I'm wrong, I'll hold my hands up and apologise. However, I'm not the only one who suspects it was extreme attention seeking.

 

[abumuslim82]

Does anyone else have a strong suspicion that this person isn't quite who she says she is?

Vague details about a terminal illness then changing those details to suit.
Refusing an offer of help from a sister who lives close to her. The sister wanted to visit her in hospital however this girl claimed not to know which hospital she'll be at.
Clsimed above that a sister has been informed of her details so she can check on her and it's a secret. I asked her which sister, reply was 'neighbours'.
The story suddenly changed when I told her I've a mind to contact the police and social services. This is clearly a safeguarding issue as Ramen has spoken about many incidents of severe abuse.


See PM below:
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Lol, sister its the internet, alot of munafiqeen, kaafir spies and other fakers, lol.

It's ok though, I use the threads, it's a good reminder to make dua for ummah,

Hahaha beat them on their own system. And the Muslims will be victorious bi'ithnillah.