I often get lonely

[Xcoolamandax]

Assalamu 3laykum,

There is a very simple solution to your problem and that is for you to get married, HOWEVER....being a new Muslimah I highly recommend you take some time to learn your deen. Learn aqeedah as much as you can so when you do seek a spouse you don't end up being with a modernist, Quranist, shi3ee, or any other wierd belief that people have these days.

Also get a chance to learn more Qur'an. Remember becoming a wife brings the possibility of becoming a mother and who would be a better teacher to your children than yourself!

I'm reminded of Umm Abdallah, Aishah radiallaahu anha. She did not have any children but she was the aunt of Abdullah ibn a'Zubayr and Urwa ibn a'Zubayr. The mufasiroon mentioned Urwa's explanation of Qur'an is authentic because he learned Qur'an right from his aunty Aishah!!!

Whilst doing all of this, get familiar with more sisters. Keep in contact with them and this will help ease your feelings of loneliness and who knows, they probably have older brothers, or younger, that are looking to get married. This will also increase the Islamic community and boosts your emaan.

Once you do formulate a basis of understanding of your deen, then I recommend getting in contact with Imam Muhammad Syed Adly. He's in South Carolina I believe and I'm sure he can find you a potential.

So..

1- Traverse a path of knowledge
2- Make contact with sisters THEN...
3- Seek marriage with one who is suitable and worthy of you

Hope this helps, welcome to Islam ukhti

assalamu 3laykum!

Thank you. I'm already doing the first two steps and learning a lot. How could I get in touch with this Imam

 

[AhmadibnNasroon]

Thank you. I'm already doing the first two steps and learning a lot. How could I get in touch with this Imam

Try here

http://www.adlyonline.com/contact

 

[Xcoolamandax]

Try here

http://www.adlyonline.com/contact

Thank you brother. I wonder what he'll say

 

[AhmadibnNasroon]

Thank you brother. I wonder what he'll say

He's cool, dont' sweat it, if its possible, ask him to be your wali.

 

[Xcoolamandax]

He's cool, dont' sweat it, if its possible, ask him to be your wali.

thanks bro. A wali is like a guardian right?

 

[AhmadibnNasroon]

thanks bro. A wali is like a guardian right?

Ahhh, yes...I highly recommend you read Muhammad al Jibaly's books on marriage before you attempt getting into this.

The first one is very helpful and so is the third.

The first one is titled, "The Quest For Love & Mercy" and the third is "The Fragile Vessels"

The first book basically goes through the whole marriage process and what is needed. The third book speaks about the rights of spouses. They're both great reads and I highly recommend you read these books before attempting getting married.

 

[Xcoolamandax]

Thank you brother. I'll try and find them