I really need to return to Allah any advice?

[Muslimah1928]

Assalamu alaykum
I need to make tawba for a major sin but I cant feel guilt. I gave up for I thought that I would try again when I could feel guilt. I have been like this for a few weeks and I think my eeman has been lifted from me. I also have a really bad waswas problem and every time I try making istigfar shaytan tries making the sin seem not bad. I also have a problem with myself that I keep giving up because of the waswasa. I feel like I'm becoming more heedless by the day and I need to return to Allah but I worry my heart is sealed. Have u guys ever had a sealed heart? How did you cure it? I would love some advice because I wish i could make tawbah properly and return to Allah

 

[Saira Khan]

I also have a really bad waswas problem and every time I try making istigfar shaytan tries making the sin seem not bad

Dear Sister,
Aslamu Alaikam,

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said,
“By Allah, I seek forgiveness from Allah and I repent to him more than seventy times in a day.”
Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 5948

Don't pay attention to waswasa and recite the following in abundance in day times and night times, whenever you are free then reminds yourself the astagfar (Tawba).

أسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ رَبي مِنْ كُلِ ذَنبٍ وَأتُوبُ إلَيهِ
Astaghfirullah rabbi min kulli zambiyon wa atoobu ilaiyh
"I ask forgiveness of my sins from Allah who is my Lord and I turn towards Him".
Stay blessed.​

 

[Duas_Revival]

I would love some advice because I wish i could make tawbah properly and return to Allah

Wa Alaikumus Salam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

Firstly - you feel you've done wrong? No problem!

What has Allah azza wajal said about this in the Quran? Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." (Surah Az-Zumar Verse 53)

So what do we learn from this ayat? No matter what we've done.....Don't Despair. Seek forgiveness and start fresh. Try your best from Today to say sincerely 100 times Istighfar (Astagfirullah) - Why? Click here to learn some of the benefits


Secondly - Do you know the power of Dua? Dua is a weapon of a believer! The best thing to do is seek the Forgiveness of Allah azza wajal - how?

Arabic to English Pronunciation: Astagh-fi-rulla-hal Azeem, al-lazi la ilaha il-la Huwal-Hay-yul-Qayyum wa aa-tubu i-laih

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Jazakallahu Khair,
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[Islami.Mu'mina]

Wa alaykum assalam

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, when the servant commits a sin, a black mark appears upon his heart. If he abandons the sin, seeks forgiveness, and repents, then his heart will be polished. If he returns to the sin, the blackness will be increased until it overcomes his heart. It is the covering that Allah has mentioned: No, rather a covering is over their hearts from what they have earned.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3334

Unfortunately, many of us take the route where we return to the sin to the extent where it becomes very normal so that much of our iman is ruined. We only realize it after so long because it was a gradual trap. This is the trick of shaytan.

I once heard a good reference. Imagine entering a room that stinks of smoke because people have previously smoked there. At first, you can't handle the smell and you cough. But the longer you stay in that room, the more you start to not be affected by the smell. And eventually, you become completely fine in this environment, after so long. "It doesn't even smell bad!", is what you soon would say.

It works with the same way with sin. The first time you commit a certain sin, you feel guilty and you know it is wrong. So if you keep committing sin without repenting, you eventually become used to it and desensitized because it is now normal to you. "oh this sin is not even that bad!" is what you'd be saying. Sooner and sooner, you will get a hard heart if you do not realize what you are doing. It is definitely a gradual process for some, but you only realize the extent of the damage that has been done after so long.

Dealing with waswas is a struggle because the mind is a very complex thing. Since you keep believing that this major sin isn't "that bad". Think of it this was when you are repenting. It is not about how minor/major the sin is, but who you are transgressing against. Hopefully this will make you realize that any sin is wrong. You are a slave to Allah, listen to His rules, for your own good.

When you try to repent and you still get waswas, remember that it is this one simple thought that can end up leading you into a place where you would have never imagined yourself to be in! I'm speaking from personal experience. When you get waswas, do yourself a favor and try your utmost BEST to STOP DWELLING ON THOSE THOUGHTS!!! Eventually, you will be so far into a bad situation that it'll be much harder to return to your former self.


As for curing a dead heart. Try simple things and gradually increase the load. Just turn up some Quran while you are busy doing things. Even if it is a burden to listen, force yourself, because it'll become easy. Then you can slowly start reciting more Quran, pondering its meaning, listening to lectures, also do adhkhars which are important, FORCE yourself to pray with khushu. Even though it is hard, pushing yourself to pray with khushu is essential and critical to restoring a hard heart

Make an effort to soften your heart. Don't be too depressed if you may not be able to be moved by salah or the Quran. Eventually, with patience and hard work, it'll come with ease

 

[Muslimah1928]

Hello Islamic mumin.i am the same person that made this post and I'm still struggling with waswas. Can I just ask you what was your issue with it and how did you overcome it?

 

[Islami.Mu'mina]

Hello Islamic mumin.i am the same person that made this post and I'm still struggling with waswas. Can I just ask you what was your issue with it and how did you overcome it?

Well, lets start off with when I started taking Islam seriously. Before I became religious, I never prayed, nor did I like Islam or thought that I needed religion. But I became very devout randomly one day. I learned about what Islam really teaches and it was beautiful. I always stood towards my deen no matter how much people criticized me. I kept improving as a Muslim in everything and I gave up my sins with hesitation, but I never looked back and kept moving forward. It was a beauty. After I had experienced the sweet taste of Iman, I I realized that it is better than anything in this world. So I clung onto it. I had problems with family and I always took it as test and trials. How beautiful it was. Everything on my mind was always "for the sake of Allah" and every time I heard Islam I just would feel so much beautiful emotion which is unexplainable. I even woke up an hour before fajr everyday to read quran even during school when I was stressed out! Whenever I prayed, it was an amazing experience. When I recited Quran, I would be so moved. Of course there would be times where I could not feel much in prayer, but that is normal as a muslim.. My friends and family always annoyed me calling me too extreme (trust me im not. Even for putting on the hijab I was "extreme"). They'd always say "Islam is an easy religion, you are making things too hard on yourself" "your making yourself depressed". Ha, they had no idea what I felt. I was the complete opposite of depressed. I felt so euphoric. I didnt care what they said lol. But my sister always pushed me through when it got a bit tough because everyone would always try to push me down as a Muslim even though they were Muslims themselves!


Soon things started to change. I'm not going into detail because it is way too much to explain. However, I''ll give you a brief view. After a year of being a quality Muslim, I slowly started to get doubts about Islam and many panic attacks too. I let my thoughts devour me. And I have fallen. I don't think of Islam the same way anymore. I don't feel anything in prayer or quran. I have forgotten the Quran I memorized. I start missing my old jahilliya life. I feel stuck in a trap. I just dont understand Islam anymore. And it feels like I may not understand it the way i did anymore.

Now I have been sinning more. Not too crazy or anything. But I used to feel so guilty after minor sins. Now even when I repent, I dont even like to repent because I feel that I am not sincere enough. Its just so overwhelming to repent. I also basically stopped making dua.

Its so crazy to realize how sudden my life can gradually change over a few months. Also note you, it got bad to the point where I got suicidal thoughts and have uttered words against Islam. It has affected my life too not just my faith. I spent most of my days sulking around and forgetting my duties such as school and hobbies. I got angry much easier too. Many things have been happening. I get scared that I am doomed sometimes too. I have actually posted about it for help once I will show you the link, but I was in a crazy state at that time. It is a long post so you dont have to read it unless you want.

Horrible/feelings thoughts on religion. Help needed


How did I solve my problem? The reality is, I didn't. Period.

But I won't end there, because there still is hope, I hope. I'm working on it hard. I pushed myself to start doing activites around the house. Forced myself to stop laying in bed all day. Praying is an internal battle that I fight. It is overwhelming for me to pray because praying is now associated to my negative feelings. I have been trying to solve the problem. Thanks to my sister, the one who pushed me and kept me going, I have taken small steps. I would have stopped helping myself until she started using harsh words to smack sense into me about who the person I was and who I am now. She saw what happened, how it took me to the point where I said "I just can't live a double life anymore. I can't be muslim while suffering with this". She threatens me if I don't make progress. And I am thankful for that. I needed that tough push.

I still struggle. I don't know when this'll end. You might say "It is a test and trial, stay strong" which is undoubtedly true, but it is hard for me to believe that when I have twisted thoughts about my religion. even right now. But there are times when I get panic attacks and the effects last for days, I am a completely different person at that time and I will not understand any logic.

I still pray though. I dont skip. Unfortunately it is not for the love of Allah anymore, but for the fear of burning in the hellfire forever. My prayers are rushed because I can't handle them sometimes. I don;t feel good praying.


This is called pure OCD. But I suddenly got it after a year of becoming true Muslim. We did ruqyah and there were signs that showed I have ayn and possibly something else. I still do ruqyah but sometimes i don't believe I have anything at all while doing it. This is not good because I must be sincere to Allah and believe in the signs He showed me so he will request my dua and cure me. But I still lose hope thinking that even after I am cured, I will believe the same thing. It just feels like my thoughts are completely logical.



Keep me in
your dua, I am quite emotional while writing this.



One day.. Maybe one day I will get that happiness back. I won't be confused by my own logic anymore... Maybe I have caused this upon myself..

Maybe it'll all come back. I will be the person I once was.

 

[Muslimah1928]

Salaam alaykum
I swear I could've written your post! It's almost scary how your situation is so similar to mine, except my time being a good muslim was I was not as good as you. For me it started when I was 13/14 and I did get a big interest in islam. Also the "for the sake of allah" was a big thing for me too. I'm 16 now and for me it started and a month and a 1/2 ago.
And you know what? You say "you might say it's a test and trial stay strong" but to be honest , how can I say that if I'm not good myself? To be honest skulking around, hiding in bed and using my phone is what I did too for a month. Unlike you, I also worried my parents to the point that they thought I was going crazy. And I also started talking to myself for a bit. I still feel like it's my fault though, because I commited major sins and I would read salawat and it would be like I felt bad again and then pray salatul tawba, but then my guilt would disappear just like that,and I thought I wasnt sincere and I'd make tawba again, and I'd fall back into this strange depression where I thought I'd never be able to make tawba.so I get what you mean about the insincere tawba problem.
The thing that helped me was a conversation with a chat person on the website about islam, where he basically said do good deeds and believe allah accepted your tawba. And the only reason I did that was because once or twice after making tawba my eeman increased and when I asked the chat person he said that was a sign of tauba being accepted, so if you had an increase in eeman assume your tawba was accepted too.
I'll tell you one thing this IS an absolute nightmare but you sound like your trying as best you can. That is one of the BEST achievements you could make and to be honest it's the only way forward. Take heart in the fact that no matter how slow your going in a direction. I'm not quite sure what I'm doing, but your a massive inspiration to keep going. Believe me, your stronger than you think!
My heart really goes out to you and I WILL keep you in my duas.I'll write rest another time...

 

[Islami.Mu'mina]

how can I say that if I'm not good myself? To be honest skulking around, hiding in bed and using my phone is what I did too for a month. Unlike you, I also worried my parents to the point that they thought I was going crazy

Yeah sis I get you. My sister was the one who always watched me and she'd say the same thing about me.

And I also started talking to myself for a bit

I get you there, sometimes it can help but usually it'll get you nowhere

The thing that helped me was a conversation with a chat person on the website about islam, where he basically said do good deeds and believe allah accepted your tawba

Well I'm glad you found that. Me being my old self would realize that. But now its just like I don't want to repent anymore but I am slowly working on this problem. Its like I know the good things about Islam but then I go through these crazy emotional panic attacks/phases that completely changes the way I think so I forget this stuff or push it away. It would get bad to the point where I'd try reading Quran but I would get too many negative thoughts and it would be overbearing

I'll tell you one thing this IS an absolute nightmare but you sound like your trying as best you can. That is one of the BEST achievements you could make and to be honest it's the only way forward. Take heart in the fact that no matter how slow your going in a direction. I'm not quite sure what I'm doing, but your a massive inspiration to keep going. Believe me, your stronger than you think!
My heart really goes out to you and I WILL keep you in my duas.I'll write rest another time

Hey thanks. Yeah some progress is at least progress, keep that in mind as you have told me. Your progress will keep shifting up and down. I'm glad I can be an inspiration to you and it makes me feel a bit better.

Also one important thing. Check your private messages for an additional thing I wanted to tell you.

 

['Abdullah]

 

[eesa the kiwi]

Asalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu


The answer lies in salah and the Quran.

Salah is like an anchor for a boat in a stormy night of life. The waves toss and turn you but Salah keeps you tethered. You may drift some days but Salah will bring you back bithnillah

I've converted in 2009. In my time in Islam I have met many other converts. Some seriously beautiful people Masha Allah.

Others come in to Islam but can't stick to it. I'm not necessarily talking about straight out apostacy but you see no evidence of practice in their lives. Drugs alcohol gangs, jahilyyah calls them back

Sadly I've seen this too many times. One thing I noticed they all had in common was abandoning salah. You leave salah you've lost your anchor

We all struggle and it's not easy. It's like dangling from a cliff and when the rope that will help you up is offered people refuse it.

We need salah.

The second thing that will help you is the Quran. The Quran is powerful, a literal miracle but when we ignore it in our lives we struggle. Some people don't read it at all. Others read a couple pages for the hasanah ( not belittling the reward of the Quran may Allah grant us jannah) but have no idea what's being said.


Let's say you didn't speak English but the queen of England wrote you a letter. You don't know what it means but you know it contains within it promise of immense reward

Would you be like "meh" put it on the shelf and turn the TV on
Of course you wouldn't. You'd put every effort into trying to understanding it's meaning

Let me ask you a question wouldn't we consider such a person who turned the TV on as having the intellectual capacity of a toothbrush.

Let me ask you another question. Are not so many of us doing the same thing with the message Allah sent to us


Allah is offering jannah, a life of happiness without sickness and death and we are like "meh I wonder what's on tv"


So find a translation of quran and build a relationship with it. Even if you read 1 page a day it doesn't matter just be consistent


Make effort with these two things and InshaAllah your life will change. It may not change tonight but be consistent with these two and things will work out ok InshaAllah

I hope this helps

 

[Labayk]

Taubah is an easy matter. The conditions are three. To regret what one has done, to seek forgiveness for one's crime, and to resolve to give it up if it is Haram or resolve to do it if is an obligation that one has neglected.

There is nothing wrong with making oneself feel what one does not initially feel. Umar (ra.) came across Rasoolulah (salalahu alaihi wa salaam) and Abu bakr (ra) while they were crying over something that Allah (azzawajal) revealed. He asked rasoolulah (saws) to tell him why they were crying and he would cry with them but if he didn't cry, he would make himself cry. Rasoolulah (saws) didn't blame him for that so this isn't some sort of hypocrisy or anything like that.

Granted these things should come naturally, but which one of us hasn't had his/her Fitrah corrupted due to the excess of sins, negligence towards ones duties, weakness in the face of societal/environmental pressures and scars on the heart due to the toxicity of others? In such cases it is necessary to force the heart to respond in the way that it needs to respond. If you could get yourself to cry over your sins that would be great but if not then making oneself feel a little regret will suffice. When you work on Taubah constantly, then your heart will become more sensitive to sins. We are all going to regret our sins sooner or later so we had better make sure that it is sooner.

There's no need to dwell upon our shortcomings. Once a mistake/sin (major or minor) /shortcoming has been realized by the Grace and Permission of Allah (azzawajal) one immediately repents from it by fulfilling the conditions mentioned above. This literally takes seconds. A lowering in one's status and feeling like crap due to sins doesn't mean that Allah didn't except our taubah. Allah said in the Quran:

"Then Adam received from his Lord Words. His Lord pardoned him (accepted his repentance). Verily He is the One Who forgives (accepts repentance), the most Merciful. We said: "Get down all of you from this place (the Paradise), then whenever there comes to you Guidance from Me, and whoever follows My Guidance there shall be no fear on them, nor shall they grieve. But those who disbelieve and belie Our Ayah (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, and signs and revelations, etc) such are the dwellers of the Fire, they shall abide therein forever." (2:37-38)

Allah has clearly stated that He forgave Adam (as) even though Adam (as) still had to descend down to Earth for a time. It is said that Adam and Hawwa cried profusely after their descent. That means that one could do a sin, seek Allah's Forgiveness, actually be forgiven (meaning, the slave will not be punished for it on the Day of Judgment), and still suffer evil consequences for it in this life. There is great wisdom and lessons to learn from this. Umar (ra) said, "Avoiding a sin is lighter than the pain of remorse." Knowing this reality makes us avoid sins more carefully as much as possible so we can avoid the pain and hardship all together.

When it comes to waswas, wallahi from my experience is that the best way to deal with waswas is to ignore it completely while busying myself with something I can make be for the sake of Allah. Shayateen are like trolls on a forum. Don't feed the troll. The more you engage by giving these thoughts any weight, dwelling on those thoughts, or allowing the waswas to cause you to delay or lag in doing good deeds the more obnoxious it becomes.

These devils are just a bunch of lowlife losers who suffer from an inferiority complex and therefore thrive off of seeing people suffer and giving them some kind of special attention. Shunning them belittles them and is a good policy.

 

[Muslimhuman]

Taubah is an easy matter. The conditions are three. To regret what one has done, to seek forgiveness for one's crime, and to resolve to give it up if it is Haram or resolve to do it if is an obligation that one has neglected.

There is nothing wrong with making oneself feel what one does not initially feel. Umar (ra.) came across Rasoolulah (salalahu alaihi wa salaam) and Abu bakr (ra) while they were crying over something that Allah (azzawajal) revealed. He asked rasoolulah (saws) to tell him why they were crying and he would cry with them but if he didn't cry, he would make himself cry. Rasoolulah (saws) didn't blame him for that so this isn't some sort of hypocrisy or anything like that.

Granted these things should come naturally, but which one of us hasn't had his/her Fitrah corrupted due to the excess of sins, negligence towards ones duties, weakness in the face of societal/environmental pressures and scars on the heart due to the toxicity of others? In such cases it is necessary to force the heart to respond in the way that it needs to respond. If you could get yourself to cry over your sins that would be great but if not then making oneself feel a little regret will suffice. When you work on Taubah constantly, then your heart will become more sensitive to sins. We are all going to regret our sins sooner or later so we had better make sure that it is sooner.

There's no need to dwell upon our shortcomings. Once a mistake/sin (major or minor) /shortcoming has been realized by the Grace and Permission of Allah (azzawajal) one immediately repents from it by fulfilling the conditions mentioned above. This literally takes seconds. A lowering in one's status and feeling like crap due to sins doesn't mean that Allah didn't except our taubah. Allah said in the Quran:

"Then Adam received from his Lord Words. His Lord pardoned him (accepted his repentance). Verily He is the One Who forgives (accepts repentance), the most Merciful. We said: "Get down all of you from this place (the Paradise), then whenever there comes to you Guidance from Me, and whoever follows My Guidance there shall be no fear on them, nor shall they grieve. But those who disbelieve and belie Our Ayah (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, and signs and revelations, etc) such are the dwellers of the Fire, they shall abide therein forever." (2:37-38)

Allah has clearly stated that He forgave Adam (as) even though Adam (as) still had to descend down to Earth for a time. It is said that Adam and Hawwa cried profusely after their descent. That means that one could do a sin, seek Allah's Forgiveness, actually be forgiven (meaning, the slave will not be punished for it on the Day of Judgment), and still suffer evil consequences for it in this life. There is great wisdom and lessons to learn from this. Umar (ra) said, "Avoiding a sin is lighter than the pain of remorse." Knowing this reality makes us avoid sins more carefully as much as possible so we can avoid the pain and hardship all together.

When it comes to waswas, wallahi from my experience is that the best way to deal with waswas is to ignore it completely while busying myself with something I can make be for the sake of Allah. Shayateen are like trolls on a forum. Don't feed the troll. The more you engage by giving these thoughts any weight, dwelling on those thoughts, or allowing the waswas to cause you to delay or lag in doing good deeds the more obnoxious it becomes.

These devils are just a bunch of lowlife losers who suffer from an inferiority complex and therefore thrive off of seeing people suffer and giving them some kind of special attention. Shunning them belittles them and is a good policy.

Wallahi good roast:shade:

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These devils are just a bunch of lowlife losers who suffer from an inferiority complex and therefore thrive off of seeing people suffer and giving them some kind of special attention. Shunning them belittles them and is a good policy.