I want to convert to islam but my parents hate the religion!

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When you talk about Islam with your family, you could show them similarities between Islam and Christianity. Here are many, like the basic teachings of the Ten Commandments. All of them you can find from Islam, from the Quran or the hadiths. How they are showed in Islam might be a little different but the spirit of those teachings is the same.

Also, tell to them examples how Muslims, Jews and Christians co-operate together in many parts of the world. With no hate or fear. Just few days ago I read thread in here how Muslims showed support to Catholics (after attack to the church) for example. If Muslims only would hate non-Muslims, why they did so? Simple, they don´t hate.
 
Thanks for the help everyone and so many good responses! I greatly appreciate it :) Today I spoke to my friend about it, but he said it's best if I don't convert yet, but I should convince my parents as soon as I can he said that it won't be good for me and also his mum said the same as well. Then I also asked my other friend what I should do, and he said it's upto me but then when I said to him should I convince my parents first, he said to do that. Ahh now I don't know what to do! But now I imagine it, being a muslim secret to my parents seems like it would be really hard to do.
 
I strongly recommend that you convert now, you don't know when death will come!
 
If you don't mind an an atheist's opinion, do it now. Your parents' faith, or lack of it, will not get you into either heaven or hell, you will do that all on your own. If you truly believe that Islam is the way, do it now and then persuade your parents by how you live your life.

If you're wondering why an atheist would say this, I don't like seeing a fellow creature suffer needlessly, and doubts are the greatest impediment to happiness.
 
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Dear Bro , You are the on the right path to your Creator who is the Creator all that exists. But this world is a test and there is no gain without pain. But the gain you are to take, Islam, is an a Gain for the Eternity Inshallah, Allah willingly,, the Biggest success any human can achieve . Preserve and be Patient and Remove badness with your goodness that islam teaches and be good to your parents even if they hate you and you will succeed in both the worlds dear. I shall leave with few links which may inspire you and help you Inshallah.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9xhZ00xnHIA

Post # 6 here http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?433274-i-want-to-convert-to-islam-i-need-informations
 
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Hi

Try to read how prophet Abraham a.s was going through his lifetime and try to read more prophet story to made your strong to go.

This message come directly to you form allah s.w.t to convert islam as he want you to guide your family and others

May Allah s.w.t blessed and guide you and your family , Ameen

Insyallah
 
Prophet Abraham (PBUH), had to separate from his father who did not believe in God (swt).

God created you more than your parents. He simply used them as a tool.

I am also going though a very similar situation as you.
 
This reminds me of when Ali :ra: wanted to pray with the Prophet :saw:, but Ali :Ra: said "Let me go consult my dad, and see his opinion on it"

The next day (I think he had a dream, but I can't remember which) he :ra: went to the Prophet :saw: saying "when Allah :swt: created me, He :swt: didn't ask my parents permission before creating me, He just did. So why would I need their permission when it comes to Allah's religion, when He created me without their permission, and my Lord's rights are higher than my parents?"

Point being, Allah :swt: created you, without asking anyone, He :swt: just created you. Similarily, you do not need to wait for your parents' approval or acceptance.

Just do it. Allah :swt: has a bigger right, and you do not need their permission.

Whether they hate you for it or not, just do it!
 
Alhamdulillah, the brother has so much support here and a lot of info to absorb.

May all go well and best wishes to you all the way.
 
[MENTION=39469]123akis[/MENTION]

If you can't tell them at all about your Islam
Tell them those verses from the Bible when they give you a pork meat
Tell them .. mom , we are chresrians just by tongue
What about this verse in the bible ? And start resting to them :
And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;** Ephesians 5:18


Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise.Proverbs 20:1


And the pig, though it has a divided hoof, does not chew the cud; it is unclean for you. You must not eat their meat or touch their carcasses; they are unclean for you.Leviticus 11:7/8


Isaiah 65:2-5

2 I have spread out my hands all the day unto a rebellious people, which walketh in a way that was not good, after their own thoughts;
3 A people that provoketh Me to anger continually to My face, that sacrificeth in gardens and burneth incense upon altars of brick;
4 who remain among the graves and lodge in the monuments, which eat swine’s flesh, and broth of abominable things is in their vessels;
5 who say, ‘Stand by thyself; come not near to me, for I am holier than thou!’ These are a smoke in My nose, a fire that burneth all the day.


7 Other animals have hooves that are split into two parts, but they don’t chew the cud. Don’t eat these animals. Pigs are like that, so they are unclean for you. 8 Don’t eat the meat from these animals. Don’t even touch their dead bodies! They are unclean for you.
Leviticus 11:7/8
and about salat you can pray on your room in secret
but you should say shahadah because you don't know when the death come
 
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I wonder if we're going to recieve an update..

Allahu alam
 
This is so weird because I’m also Christian orthodox and I just don’t understand it all to be fair , most of my friends are Muslims and it’s made me look into it ( they haven’t forced me also ) I just like the whole idea of Islam to be honest , I do see the peaceful side despite “Islamic groups “ such as Isis, I know my parents will probably never talk to me again if I even thought about converting as they see them as complete opposites to us. Maybe we could talk more if you drop a social media I could personally message you on ?
 
It is good that you are figuring these things out now when you are 17, and not 45 and married :)

Part of what you are experiencing is a consequence of the Greek attitude towards Islam (specifically the Turks)--there is a bad history there, 90% of it being political. It is tough to work through those prejudices and historical grudges, but it can be done.

I think there are two ways to approach this: one is to show your family what kind of man you could be after embracing the Muslim faith. The other is to show them what the faith really is.

Ask your parents if they want a son who is cynical, adrift in his spirituality, hedonistic, and jaded, or if they want a man of firm convictions, who lives his life according to difficult ideals, believes in self-sacrifice, modesty, honesty, etc.? That second man is the good Muslim. How can they argue against this?

I use the term "jaded" here for a reason. In the CS Lewis books, Jadis is the White Witch who is brought into the world after men have become tired of existence, lost, cynical, uncaring, and apathetic. She extends her hand to those who have given up, and to take that hand is a terrible sin. So is it better to be Muslim, or to be in the camp of Jadis? They cannot make you embrace Christianity--you must choose for yourself. But NOT to choose leads one down a dangerous path.

If my son came to me and said he was reverting, I would be proud of him and support him.

As for the second option, showing them the faith, this is a matter of education. Introduce them to other Muslims if you can (there are open Mosque days in my area where you can go meet the Imam, etc.), show them youtube videos and blogs, and give them books to read. And of course give them the Quran.

Tell them why you left Christianity.

I left because

1. I cannot reconcile the Trinity, either theologically or rationally
2. Much of the New Testament was written long after the death of Jesus and is colored by the agenda of the authors.
3. Christianity was never intended for everyone: the 12 disciples of Jesus were to rule over the 12 tribes of Israel at the end of this world. Paul later "universalized" the faith to include everyone, but that was never clear from the words of Jesus himself. In this way the Prophet of Islam delivers the final message/revelation that is applied to the entire world--the Word has evolved, or has been revealed in its entirety.
4. Christianity is in a state of decay: its doctrines are unsound, its followers lack conviction and determination, and social scandals abound.

If you feel the same way, simply tell your parents. They have to respect this.

And if they refuse to support you, revert and show them how you live your life. They will begin to see that you were right all along.
 
I know it can be difficult and i know cause i have been through a similar situation i think you should do what's right and even thought i am not very educated about islam i am nothing but a normal everyday Muslim here is a tip that i hope works try being the best try to keep calm try to be nice try to help them even without asking because 1. Allah tuld us to be good to our parents
2. Maybe when they see tou changing to be a better person better son better brother kinder without even saying anything about islam they will notice you being better and maybe accept it
But i don't kbow much that's my Hubble opinion so don't quote me on anything
And you should probably convert as soon as possible
I hope everything turns out okay
 
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You could buy your parents some translations of the meaning of the Quran in their own language as expensively wrapped gifts.

Have you heard of Salman the Persian?

 
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Hello 123akis,

I am very glad you found the truth...maasallah.
My advise is to take your shahadah now....if you are 100% convinced of Islam, then your conversion already took place and you only have to take your shahadah.
The things you eat or do now are haram anyway...so it does not matter whether to postpone your conversion or not...
Be gentile to your parents...do not flip out...be patient and try to answer their questions as accurate as possible...and never lie to them.
you do not have to change your lifestyle or eating habits right after your conversion...you also do not have to tell anyone that you converted...Allah will forgive you for that because He knows your struggle.
in time you will find room to slowly change you habits...ban haram food from your diet and pray when you have the chance.
hopefully they will start to develop more tolerance towards Islam in the meantime.

You will get ther inshallah...small steps...just take your shahadah without changing anything in your life for now...those changes will come eventually.

Good luck!
 

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