if the biggest fitna for men is women...
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Personally I think it may be mutual, but it's easier for women to hide their feelings and pretend like men don't matter to them and that they're not a fitnah. Men are more open to it and are not afraid to say that they want to get married to reduce the fitnah. Women are more concerned with what other people will think of them (ie. she's desperate, immature, lonely etc.) rather than whether she actually wants to married to reduce it as well. If you look at certain cultures, women are always considered to be ''shaming'' their family or what not if they actually are open with their feelings and whether they want to choose their own husband. Unfortunately this cultural practice is often confused with the deen (honour killings).
So basically women are more concerned about their self-image, but the feeling is definitely mutual.
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As-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,
From the days of before Islam I always found that girls never understood the feeling boys have towards girls.
And similarly boys do not understand certain aspects of girls.
Some may get offended at the concept that women are fitnah for men. But it is pretty obvious, not that it escuses bad behaviour, of course it doesn't, it's not a ticket for a man to sleep around and say 'They are our biggest fitnah'.
But it amazes me how some men can be so inconsiderate to their brothers, encouraging their wives to wear make up outside and showing their bodies, as if they do not know, from experience, that the biggest fitnah for men is women. :exhausted
Sidenote: I do not say that this means that women are never attracted to men, I think they can be, but I don't think it is anywhere near the same as the opposite.
May Allah restore the sense of protectiveness in the hearts of men, and make them men again.
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As-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,
From the days of before Islam I always found that girls never understood the feeling boys have towards girls.
And similarly boys do not understand certain aspects of girls.
Some may get offended at the concept that women are fitnah for men. But it is pretty obvious, not that it escuses bad behaviour, of course it doesn't, it's not a ticket for a man to sleep around and say 'They are our biggest fitnah'.
But it amazes me how some men can be so inconsiderate to their brothers, encouraging their wives to wear make up outside and showing their bodies, as if they do not know, from experience, that the biggest fitnah for men is women. :exhausted
Sidenote: I do not say that this means that women are never attracted to men, I think they can be, but I don't think it is anywhere near the same as the opposite.
May Allah restore the sense of protectiveness in the hearts of men, and make them men again.
Br.al-Habeshi
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how true that is bro...
lol touche
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Nice thread
In MHO i dont believe men are the greatest fitnah for girls. For some maybe but in general the biggest fitnah for us is our tongue. Being females we like to gossip too much. We need to learn how to keep our mouths zipped at times LOL
In MHO i dont believe men are the greatest fitnah for girls. For some maybe but in general the biggest fitnah for us is our tongue. Being females we like to gossip too much. We need to learn how to keep our mouths zipped at times LOL
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I like women. But it's not like i'm dying after them or anything. To me, it doesn't really matter, i'm not into girls too much.
I've heard just as many men gossiping as women. I think gossiping and materialism is just as commonly found in men as it is in women. The chances are that men are women's biggest Fitnah, its just that alot of women wouldn't admit to that.
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