If you are not OK with Polygamy (polygany) you are a bad Muslimah

sister herb said:
How we can be sure about it?
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How can the wife be sure about it and deny him a wife?

This is the husband's obligation, it is his concern. Not his wife's.

She shouldn't be a hurdle in his path and let him do what he wants a grown up man.
 
Saleem Khan said:
It is a right given by Allah. We cannot question it. It was practiced by the Sahabah and the Messenger peace be upon him. It is very dangerous to reject it.

Unfortunately many Muslims that are influenced by western ideology and feminist ideology get very confused in this topic.
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If a woman does not want her husband to take another wife, it's not because influence of the West, but purely from her instinct. Just like men, women can jealous too. Different than women who urge government to ban polygamy which maybe because influence of the West.

You should not generalize all women and make judgement.
 
Linkdeutscher said:
Yes but the majority says otherwise, I never denied that there are some wonderful Muslimahs who are fine with it! May Allah bless them.

But many nowadays are influenced by feminism etc and are against it.
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I don´t think we can blame all Muslim women about feminism if she doesn´t feel comfortable to the idea of other wife. I think it´s a thing what wife and husband should have a serious discussion together. If wife says that the decision of husband makes her feel sad and uncomfortable because of some personal reason, husband should respect her and not to make her sad. If he still will marry another wife, then he doesn´t treat those two wives equally. Other one he made sad and other one happy (as marrying her) by his acts.

So, he didn´t treat those two wives equally.
 
Saleem Khan said:
It is a right given by Allah. We cannot question it. It was practiced by the Sahabah and the Messenger peace be upon him. It is very dangerous to reject it.

Unfortunately many Muslims that are influenced by western ideology and feminist ideology get very confused in this topic.
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It's different if a woman is against her own husband taking a second wife as that is part of human nature and possessiveness of a wife. There's no problem with this. Fatima R.D.felt the same way when Ali R.D wanted to take a second wife.
However, It becomes a problem if someone is against the concept and assumes it to be unfair or oppressive to women. This is problematic. Remember it is mentioned in the Qura'an and to oppose a verse of the Qur'an could take a person out of the fold of Islam.

Just to clarify[emoji115]
 
As it´s mentioned in the Quran, in general we all have to accept it.

"And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]." (4:3)

I think that in many cases just this: "But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one" would to be the biggest problem. Most of the people can´t treat people absolutely equal. Not even if they'd have the good intention to do so.
 
oh this thread is about marriage? I don't belong here... sorry for uh crashing.

*heart break hotel plays on the radio lol
 
Probably not a bad Muslimah, more likely an apostate. If polygamy is halal, how can any Muslim be against it?
 
How is it written in the quran? Do you have to ask permission from the previous wife or just inform her of the next one?
 
Note that the Quran also says:

“You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them so as to leave the other hanging. And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allah, by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

(Aayah No. 129, Surah An-Nisa’, Chapter No. 4, Holy Qur’an).

This confirms that the permission for a man to marry more up to four women at a time is conditional. One should be very sure that he will be able to do justice with all wives, physically, financially, emotionally and whatever aspects one can think of, related to the relationship of a husband-wife. Do we think it is that easy?
 
Karl said:
Probably not a bad Muslimah, more likely an apostate. If polygamy is halal, how can any Muslim be against it?
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If an action is halal, it is morally neutral, and thus it cannot be a sin to hold it against someone, or choose not to associate with someone doing it. It is equally halal to make a nikah that dictates that the husband is not allowed to take a second wife without the approval of the first.
 
"If you are not OK with Polygamy (polygany) you are a bad Muslimah"

Few of my friends and acquaintances commit polygamy, and they don't have attitude which they accuse the women who are not OK with polygamy as bad Muslimah like described in sentence above. It's because they are success in convince their first wives and convince their other wives.

The sentence above actually is saying of frustrated man who want to commit polygamy but failed.

So, if you want to commit polygamy but failed, do not blame the women, but introspect yourself, what make you failed.

:)
 
ardianto said:
"If you are not OK with Polygamy (polygany) you are a bad Muslimah"

Few of my friends and acquaintances commit polygamy, and they don't have attitude which they accuse the women who are not OK with polygamy as bad Muslimah like described in sentence above. It's because they are success in convince their first wives and convince their other wives.

The sentence above actually is saying of frustrated man who want to commit polygamy but failed.

So, if you want to commit polygamy but failed, do not blame the women, but introspect yourself, what make you failed.

:)
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I am sorry but this logic is severely flawed and biased against men.

They don't accuse women who are not OK with polygamy as being bad because they haven't experienced it themselves!

Their opinion holds no value.

A person who is sincere, knows he can treat his wives well, yet his wife doesn't let him take another, that man has a right to express his opinion whether such a muslimah is good or bad.
 
If you are not OK with Polygamy (polygany) you are a bad Muslimah
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is false because as br Futuwwa wrote,
It is equally halal to make a nikah that dictates that the husband is not allowed to take a second wife without the approval of the first.
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If action is halal, person who makes it, isn´t bad. Another thing is, if a husband is bad if he claims that his wife is bad if she makes some halal act.

;D This discussion is going more and more interesting.
 
sister herb said:
is false because as br Futuwwa wrote,

If action is halal, person who makes it, isn´t bad. Another thing is, if a husband is bad if he claims that his wife is bad if she makes some halal act.

;D This discussion is going more and more interesting.
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No, I mean if the wife just stops her husband for no other reason than feeling jealous, then that is not acceptable! She should compromise!
 
Can only one person make a compromise? I think there should to be at least two whose make compromise together. So, they should compromise.
 
Linkdeutscher said:
No, I mean if the wife just stops her husband for no other reason than feeling jealous, then that is not acceptable! She should compromise!
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Yes the husband is the head of the household. The wife must be obedient to him in all things that are halal. In the West wives believe they have equal power and pit themselves against their husbands. In the West a lot of wives are beaten and killed by their husbands because of their insolent behaviour. Obedient and submissive wives generally prosper and are far more happy than the hatchet faced feminists. If some females here get angry and they feel themselves welling up with pride and indignation at what I say, remember Satan is trying to take you from the righteous path to the false path, the Western Zionist way.
 
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sister herb said:
Can only one person make a compromise? I think there should to be at least two whose make compromise together. So, they should compromise.
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No that doesn't work. You can only have one captain on a ship and in Islam the husband is the ruler of the family.
All the main religions have always worked like this. Secularism gives power to the females. The godless fascists and cultural Marxists.
 
Karl said:
Yes the husband is the head of the household. The wife must be obedient to him in all things that are halal.
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That is the case after a nikah has been conducted. His position as head of the household is derived from the nikah, and thus cannot override it. If the nikah has been entered into on specific terms, the terms are fully valid regardless of patriarchal authority, as long as the terms aren't haram outright.
 

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