If you are not OK with Polygamy (polygany) you are a bad Muslimah

[*charisma*]

Assalamu Alaikum

I'm not against polygamy but there's a good saying and I can't remember who it was something along the lines of completing what is fardh before looking upon sunnah. Some guys aren't even praying 5x a day and they want a 2nd wife. Some have not even given the 1st wife her complete rights before wanting a 2nd wife. Some don't even have a 1st wife to begin with and they're already thinking about having multiple wives! So my point is..take care of yourself first and if ALLAH decrees for you to have multiple wives, then so it will be, but don't put yourself in a position where you are sinning because you are not able to take care of yourself (your deen, your health, your occupation, your parents) let alone more than one wife.

Are you a bad Muslimah if you reject polygamy? I'd say your iman is low if you reject the idea of polygamy (whether it's for yourself or others) because this is something that has been made halal by Allah and to reject any part of Islam clearly stated in the Quran is basically following your own desires. However, to not want to be in a polygamous marriage is not haram and is the wife's right if this is what she desires (and has made it clear from the beginning), so there is no sin on her part for that. If you're a just man with good iman and your wife loves you very much and is understanding, I don't think she'd have a problem with you getting married to another wife, but if for some reason she feels she's not enough for you and she strives to get your attention, affection, and even the lifestyle she expected, then this is where you will have problems because you're not even fulfilling the ideals of that marriage in the first place, so she will feel it would be unfair to be looking elsewhere.

 

[Karl]

That is the case after a nikah has been conducted. His position as head of the household is derived from the nikah, and thus cannot override it. If the nikah has been entered into on specific terms, the terms are fully valid regardless of patriarchal authority, as long as the terms aren't haram outright.

I suppose, but if a female has only so many eggs and a male has millions of sperm made every day it is only natural to have more than one wife, if you can afford it.

 

[azc]

First of all, this thread is about Muslimahs.So your example doesn't apply! Also he :saws: had very specific reasons for doing so, reasons which others don't have.

what were the reasons?

 

[azc]

Discuss.

strange condition for being a good Muslima!

 

[~ Sabr ~]

:salamext:

I think, at the end of the day, if a woman can't bear the thought of sharing their husband with someone else, then that is HER choice. If a woman is ok with sharing her husband with another woman, again that us HER choice. It is not for you and I to judge.

Ultimately, in Aakhirah in Jannah, a woman will be happy with her husband, even if he has multiple hoors there.

So we should strive to please Allaah, because there is nothing He tests us with that we cannot handle. He loves us x70 more than our mothers, so He would never put us in a situation we cannot handle.