Im a social netwrk addict? Scared im soon going to get hurt

[anonymous]

Hoii ppl.........
well im 16 years of age and well im a member of most social netwrks u can fink of (MYSPACE, BEBO, TAGGED, FACEBOOK, HI5.....) and on each of my pages i have my picture and details bout me up and mst of da pictures i look beautiful and glamourous,hot,sexy e.g. every wrd da a boii can fink off to describe my image....is dis haraam? and not only da im also an MSN addict and som1 new seems to add me everydaiii.......and they all tend to be GUYS/BOIIS i dnt knoee hw they get my addy/email address but dats not my problem my problem at da moment is da i flirt wid alot of guys on msn and wen they ask me to meet them up i tend to saii YES if i have nothing to do that daii.i alsoo have pictures up on MSN of me looking glamourous and i knoee dis makes guys want to talk to me more BUT IS IT HARAAM? i knoee wah im doing is rong but i jst love da attnetion and love dese guys have for me :laugh: i have been let dwn by alot of my grilfrnds so i turn to GUYS for confort and most of the tym it works however IM SURE WAH IM DOING IS RONG! but i tell myself it cnt be such a big deal im only getting to knoee them.........i sumtyms even lose track of who im going to meet that specific daii N soon im duue to meet this boii up all da waiii from London he said he will come over to meet me up however can i trust him? should i meet him up? i look at myself and symtyms believe da im LOOSE and EASYY although i have not done anyfing rong like having sex. im scared da 1 daii i will meet up som1 i shouldn't have and get into trouble......or even get Hurt.
please help me....... do ya'll think i should delete dese guys off my msn and myspace e.g. or im just over reacting.

 

[aamirsaab]

It would be in your interest to remove yourself from those sites. At the very least, take off any pictures of you and as a description, write something stupid, like: ''aloos make the world go round''.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

boredom does crazy things to people

its better to be alone then let others take advantage of ur body like that... how can u like being wiv boys who jus come to you for your looks?


ITS EXTREMELY EXTREMELY wrong what your doing.

how wrong it is cant even be emphasised.


so DELETE REMOVE N START OVER



^ sincere advice, dont get offended


Assalamu Alaikum

 

[sister_islam]

Please, please what ever you do, dont go and see that boy. You say that you have images of you on there looking nice, sexy and that, then the boys might be after one thing. You dont know him. Please dont go. You shouldnt be flirting around boys. I would say this is harram. Take all your pictures of your account. The best thing is to do is stop going on these network and find something to do that would fit for what you like. Stop your addiciton. you cna meet new friends by doing what you ike...which is?

 

[noorseeker]

sister these guys are after one thing , and it aint to take you to mcdonalds, if you show a guy that you are willing to meet him so easily, he will think you are easy, getting attention must be so addictive, but if you need people to praise you to feel good about your self then theres something wrong.

Allahamduilillah, at least you know you are doing wrong, or you wouldnt have posted.'
Sister do you wear hijab, if not you should seriously consider it,,
You are only 16 and the pressures are so huge at that age if you dont have a boyfriend or still a virgin , in a world wheres desires and lusts are pumped out by the madia

im so glad i aint 16 any more, no more peer pressure

 

[Sahabiyaat]

im gna be harsh ok,so hang in there girlfriend.

Hoii ppl.........
well im 16 years of age and well im a member of most social netwrks u can fink of (MYSPACE, BEBO, TAGGED, FACEBOOK, HI5.....) and on each of my pages i have my picture and details bout me up and mst of da pictures i look beautiful and glamourous,hot,sexy e.g. every wrd da a boii can fink off to describe my image....is dis haraam?

yes

and not only da im also an MSN addict and som1 new seems to add me everydaiii.......and they all tend to be GUYS/BOIIS i dnt knoee hw they get my addy/email address but dats not my problem my problem at da moment is da i flirt wid alot of guys on msn and wen they ask me to meet them up i tend to saii YES if i have nothing to do that daii

yup
thats your problem

i alsoo have pictures up on MSN of me looking glamourous and i knoee dis makes guys want to talk to me more BUT IS IT HARAAM?

hang on let me check
no, i stick with the original anwser, yes.

i knoee wah im doing is rong but i jst love da attnetion and love dese guys have for me :laugh:

please tell me your joking, and that your reallly not that much of a dumb blonde :muddlehea

i have been let dwn by alot of my grilfrnds so i turn to GUYS for confort

why do they let you down, does the fault lie in you
?

and most of the tym it works however IM SURE WAH IM DOING IS RONG!

....er....yes, your right! well done you!

but i tell myself it cnt be such a big deal im only getting to knoee them....

Wronggg
im sorry you r the weakest link, Goodbye.


.

....i sumtyms even lose track of who im going to meet that specific daii N soon im duue to meet this boii up all da waiii from London he said he will come over to meet me up however can i trust him? should i meet him up?

lord have mercy......what do u think woman :enough!:??

i look at myself and symtyms believe da im LOOSE and EASYY although i have not done anyfing rong like having sex....

dont be offended but there are plenty of other ways you can be considered loose and consoling yourself with your intact virginity is a poor consolation

im scared da 1 daii i will meet up som1 i shouldn't have and get into trouble......or even get Hurt.

so thats only concern:muddlehea, you might get hurt.....................................your not regretful youve disobeyed Allah?

please help me....... do ya'll think i should delete dese guys off my msn and myspace e.g. or im just over reacting

yes, you should, and well done for openly discussing this, its the first step to becoming a better person. as dumbledore sed, acceptance is the first step to understanding, and only with understanding can there be recovery


sorry if ive offended, but i told you i was going to be harsh and frank, no point of buttering you up and telling you its all ok, because by the look of things, things are really bad, but atleast youve acknowledged their bad , Ill pray for you InshAllah

 

[Mysterious Uk]

I've got facebook but wat i have done is set the entire thing to private so only people who have added me can see my profile and pictures. I wouldn't add random guys, instead add girls you know. You obviously know wat ur doing is wrong so don't do it. Delete it all and if you cant live without msn and that then get a new email and add decent ppl u know (hu rn't pervy guys lol). I would question myself i mean what is better... having perverts make you feel beautiful and you feeling like your doing the wrong thing or NOT talking to strange guys and feeling good. Dont mean to sound harsh, but it really is simple.

N e hu gud luck.

 

[Eeman]

oh man... i really dunno what to say right now without being harsh and frank so i will just bite my tongue and Insha'Allah reply tonight with a better reply.
But the 1st thing i would do sis is sign on to my msn and delete and block each and every guy that is on there, unless its your brother or cousin and family members.
then i would go to these sites that you are on and do the same delete all the guys from yiur friends list and change your privacy for now to max so tht no one can see you or your profile or you pictures.

before i go i'd just like to tell you one thing which you may not even be aware of Allah swt forbid that this is the case with you so far but have you ever been on youtube.com?
sure you have cos everyone has, now there have been so many and i mean so many times that i have been on youtube searching videos ad i'd come across a song vid that someone has made and they have used pictures of all random girls which they have copied from myspace,bebo,hi5,and facebook... and yes your kind of pictures and put them together edited the pictures by wrting stupid things like hotasaingirls.com or sexyasiangirls.com as though to make out that these girls are escorts or something. and its there for the whole world to see it.

anyhow as i said i'll post later in a better manner Insha'Allah cos i dont want to be harsh i know your here for help and when someone asks for help you give it to them in a loving manner so just ponder for now what everyone has said to you.

and before i go the problem is not thatyou are an addict to these social sites, it is a much deeper problem, and the problem is within you, you lack self esteem and confidence you may think you are confident and have high self esteem but your not happy and content with yourself cos your ways of seeking attention knowing that you are seeking the dirty attention still makes you feel good and boosts you up which in itself is quite disgusting you are portraying your ownself as a piece of meat and that is all these guys think of you!!! im sorr sis i will stop thre now i apologise.

ma salama.

 

[Eeman]

I've got facebook but wat i have done is set the entire thing to private so only people who have added me can see my profile and pictures. I wouldn't add random guys, instead add girls you know. You obviously know wat ur doing is wrong so don't do it. Delete it all and if you cant live without msn and that then get a new email and add decent ppl u know (hu rn't pervy guys lol). I would question myself i mean what is better... having perverts make you feel beautiful and you feeling like your doing the wrong thing or NOT talking to strange guys and feeling good. Dont mean to sound harsh, but it really is simple.

N e hu gud luck.

i have FB too, but my privacy is on HIGH!!!!
so high that no one can search me on there, therefore they cannot add me, nor see my pictures, who my freinds are or whats on my profile.
i have added only my family and my girlfriends on there no male friends sice i do not have any, only guys are my family members like my cousins and that is it.
i still go on FB everday and yes at times i get a bit addicted to it too... but its cos i am talking to my girlfriends or my family members and staying in touch.

i do not see anything wrong in that.

 

[Nájlá]

u need to stop going to sites like these MYSPACE, BEBO, TAGGED, FACEBOOK, HI5.
u need to remove all ur pictures.
u need to delete all the boys addies u have or better create another msn addy.
and add only girls to ur msn. girls that u can trust.

thats all i can tell u for now. i think other members have actually helped u alot.

 

[NYCmuslim]

Peace sister,

By doing what you are doing you are exploiting yourself. Your actions show that you have no self-confidence and rely on others for comfort. You need to be independent and love yourself. Have some respect for yourself and your body. Its good that you are talking about it and seeking some help, thats a start. Please learn to respect yourself and work on your deficiencies. Don't let yourself be judged by other people. You will only be judged by Allah so acknowledge Him and start doing right. May Allah guide you!

Peace

 

[Sahabiyaat]

Peace sister,

By doing what you are doing you are exploiting yourself. Your actions show that you have no self-confidence and rely on others for comfort. You need to be independent and love yourself. Have some respect for yourself and your body. Its good that you are talking about it and seeking some help, thats a start. Please learn to respect yourself and work on your deficiencies. Don't let yourself be judged by other people. You will only be judged by Allah so acknowledge Him and start doing right. May Allah guide you!

Peace

good advice :thumbs_up

i would like to take this oppturnity to add to this phrase by alphadude ;

NO good muslim man would want a wife that has had a bad past. Keep yourself pure and chaste for your future husband.

NO good muslim woman would want a husband that has had a bad past. Keep yourself pure and chaste for your future wife.

ive NEVER heard anyone say that because its acceptable for men to be unchaste, not in the eyes of Allah ofcourse! but in society, i bet we wouldnt be reprimanding you so much, or even saying the above phrase to you if you were a man.what a shame huh

 

[baraah]

oh sis u r walking in vrey dangerous way
just return to allah
try to strive you self ,stop sharing in these websites
i ask for u alhedaya

 

[ayan333]

aww...your going through that stage

but Alhamduliah youve come to your sences soon enough

what ever youve done is the past and you must ask ALLAH (SWA) for forgiveness...i mean some sincer repentence

now that you no ur defenitly wrong put a stop to it,not in a week,day,later...i mean Now...like right after you read this line...thats if you havnt already done so,in that case im pround

but trust me,wut your doing isnt a little sin,i mean its a big thing,so dnt take it lightly

i had a myspace...u no its addictive,use to find myself on it al the time but Alhamdulilah its been a year or 2 since ive actually spent good time on there,

im so mad cuz i cant delete it,ive been trying to for wut it seam like forever but i forgot my email address password and you have to officially delte in wth a link you get via email...n yes ive tried everything...except talking to that "tom" guy

in other words delete Asap

and dnt take your sweet time cuz we all no the shaytaan will try his best to convinve you to keep it

so make it quick and itll be much easier,n at the end of the day youll feel better because youve pleased you LORD ALLAH (SWA) and theres no better feeling then that
hope u do the right thing Insh ALLAH

 

[chacha_jalebi]

as salaam ma alaykam

sister you have been given bare advicess so inshallah implement them

also think about this, and unfortunately many a times this does happen, imagine you finally do find a guy who actually likes you properly and stuff and you end up gettin married, and then one of these gays i mean guys who you ended up meetin, recognised you or even worse, was the guys friends? then? lol like i know the past dont matter and its not a good example, but still instead of havin embarassment in the future, save yourself now innit

 

[Ansariyah]

Sister, what you are doing is very wrong and very haraam.

Block and delete all these people, because in their eyes, you ARE easy. Don't meet up with these guys!

Delete all your social network profiles and pictures and preserve your modesty.

If you don't get it under control now, this problem is likely to spiral and get out of hand. If you find comfort from the attention guys give, you really are most likely to get caught deeper and deeper into it. Who knows, there might come a time when, say you're going through a rough time and a guy is there to 'comfort' you, you might even end up having sex with him. Sorry to be frank, but you really need to get yourself out of this mess, now!

And listen to me on this, NO good muslim man would want a wife that has had a bad past. Keep yourself pure and chaste for your future husband.

Also, instead of looking for comfort from humans, look toward Allah instead.

Beautifuly put~~

I will add..

Plss sis DONT meet up with him.
and delete urself from myspace and all those sites. People will steal ur pics n claim its theirs n that aint cool. Sis u are worth so much more then to be in the company of these guys. They will use u. They are FAKE.

Those of u who are being harsh..SHAME ON U!
You think the prophet (saw) humiliated the people when he gave them dawah even when some of them came to him DRUNK?

 

[Sahabiyaat]

Those of u who are being harsh..SHAME ON U!
You think the prophet (saw) humiliated the people when he gave them dawah even when some of them came to him DRUNK?

i dont think i was harsh
i could have been harsher, trust me.

but this girl differs from the scores of ...i wont say their title in that she has acknowledged her mistakes and some sense of guilt has arisen inside her.Allah has guided her Alhamdulillah, and i only wish that she continues to be remorseful unitl she is cured InshaAllah

 

[chacha_jalebi]

i agree that people shouldnt be harsh, i find it upsettin when people do that, lke somone has come to you for advice and your shoutin and all wrong, haraam, hell with them!

talk to people how you wana be talked to!

 

[Sahabiyaat]

theres no need to be covert
i no ur all hinting at me
im not harsh, im just in a mood :mmokay:

 

[chacha_jalebi]

theres no need to be covert
i no ur all hinting at me
im not harsh, im just in a mood :mmokay:

wallahi werent hintin at you, tbh your post was too long to read lol,

some posts were like erm woh blud, but theres too ways to the story innit, be harsh and get it through or be soft and take time to get it through