I'm dissapointed in myself

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AsalamuAlaikum Wr Wb,
I'm an O'2 student (o'levels 2nd year student). Like the title says, I'm dissapointed in myself. I've been a straight A* student for more than 4 years now and have always topped in my class. But recently, I feel like I can't do it any more. Not because I don't want to, but because I don't have it in me to do it, I keep on telling myself, that I'm probably just too dumb to do all of this and I feel like I've said it so many times that I've started believing it now. Everybody around me, including my friends, parents and teachers expect the best out of me but it hurts me to tell them that o failed their expectations. My grades are declining and I don't know what to do about it or who to talk to. There are other people in my class who keep on telling me that now I should completely get rid of the thought of getting 1st position in my class because I can't do it. This has really reduced my morale and a very big part of me wants to believe it. Recently, there were selections for a math competition in my school. I had been looking forward to it since the beginning of term. I was sick on the day the selections happened but I still went because I really wanted to be a part of it, but when the selections had been done, I wasn't selected. That, obviously broke my heart and now i really do not want to believe in my self. Before, I would have faith in my work, but now I don't. I'm really hurting, I need somebody's help please
 
muslimah945 said:
AsalamuAlaikum Wr Wb,
I'm an O'2 student (o'levels 2nd year student). Like the title says, I'm dissapointed in myself. I've been a straight A* student for more than 4 years now and have always topped in my class. But recently, I feel like I can't do it any more. Not because I don't want to, but because I don't have it in me to do it, I keep on telling myself, that I'm probably just too dumb to do all of this and I feel like I've said it so many times that I've started believing it now. Everybody around me, including my friends, parents and teachers expect the best out of me but it hurts me to tell them that o failed their expectations. My grades are declining and I don't know what to do about it or who to talk to. There are other people in my class who keep on telling me that now I should completely get rid of the thought of getting 1st position in my class because I can't do it. This has really reduced my morale and a very big part of me wants to believe it. Recently, there were selections for a math competition in my school. I had been looking forward to it since the beginning of term. I was sick on the day the selections happened but I still went because I really wanted to be a part of it, but when the selections had been done, I wasn't selected. That, obviously broke my heart and now i really do not want to believe in my self. Before, I would have faith in my work, but now I don't. I'm really hurting, I need somebody's help please
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Do you think you burnt yourself out ?
 
*charisma* said:
[MENTION=41735]muslimah945[/MENTION],

What's your goal?
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Well, short time goal would be to maintain my score and get really good grades because the schools and universities I have in mind for higher studies require very high grades
 
muslimah945 said:
Well, short time goal would be to maintain my score and get really good grades because the schools and universities I have in mind for higher studies require very high grades
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Well then do that. Whatever happened in the past is in the past. And don't let anyone get into your head because they're not the ones walking your journey. Anytime you mess up, make it up by volunteering or an experience that will bulk up your cv.

I know how you feel. You're a perfectionist, and sometimes we feel that if it's not perfect then there's no point in doing it at all. We may work that way but the rest of the world doesn't. Surround yourself with people who will motivate you and who encourage you, not those who will negate your accomplishments. We're already so toxic and negative to ourselves, don't give anyone else the room to do that to you as well.
 

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