brothas n sistas thanks for taking ur time to read my ramblings..n jezekilah kyr 4 replying.
Dangg! Someone's a little jealous of you.
The fact you held it in for so long is surprising. You shouldn't feel bad, always stand up for yourself. Because people will want to take advantage of good people. Stand up for yourself, [with class], and learn that "I DON'T LIKE YOU" means "I wish I was you" I used to be soooooooooooooo nice. But then I knew how weird I looked, so I was like "Ay listen, don't let them take over you"
the end.
For the first time I realised that shes jealous:S
Sis she's been soo mean to me. Now I am getting ignored, every time I come across her she walks straight passed me. She's waiting for me to say something and break the ice. Well I am not going to this time. She has lots of arrogance n is expecting me to go to her n say sorry, I did nothing wrong I am not apologizing.:-[
u should respect urself as u respect others . this way u can go a long way.
Sadly that hasn't been the case this whole respecting those elder then u" I took it too literally n often forgot about myself, I will remember what u said next time inshaAllah. I dont get it why she keeps throwing the whole ur younger at me? Aren't the ones elder suppose to be kind to the young and show respect? I think respect is a 2 way street and shud be earned, I respect almost everyone n I think I wont anymore.
Asalam Alykum Sister,
Never drop your standard to match others weaknesses. This will only harm your character and hurt your sight infront of Allah SWT. Always try to replace a bad thought with a good comment. Just because your nice at heart doesn't mean you can't stand up for yourself. You can stand up for yourself without degrading your character.
Well alot of people in my life arent the greatest example for me. Everyone around me is big mouthed so I gave her the taste of her own medicine. I know that isnt benefiting my Islam in the long run, ive been pushed so much. I am only human, I lost my patience. I am not proud of it.
Dont go out to her with all guns blazing NO!! dont do that it will add fuel to her fire,so just call her over and sit somewhere quiet and tell her how you feel and that 'you dont like how she shouts' , that you came to her politely because you respect her''....i think ur capable to handle the rest... sister yannie
Why should I tell her I respect her when she never done anything to earn it?
Today she came to our home, our home can u believe it. I asked her where the remote is, in a nice way "I got ignored so I thought shes a guest in our home lemme jst try to see if she will apologize n start some light convo wit her""? I got eyes rolling n completely ignored. So I left her to it.
aww dont let her walk over you, at the same time dont be extra mean like she is...i think u did a fair job there, standing up to yourself, you shoulda done that earlier eh
I wont let her walk over me again InshaALlah.
After all she did to me, she still continues to act more mean.
asalam alaikum sis Yanoorah,
I can identify with a lot you said but the problem with exploding is that nice people like you end up regretting their outbursts soon after... so in the end it doesnt really help, does it...
Instead of taking it calmly next time and allowing it to build up until you burst, just walk away. Remove yourself from the situation and dont give them the satisfaction of putting you down.
You sound like a lovely person sis.. dont let ppl like that change you.. you've been patient so far mashaAllah, stay that way fi sabilillah and every time she does it, thank her for giving you some of her rewards and walk away with a smile : )
Ur right sis, I did feel sad afta I lost it the other day when I stood up for myself. I get mocked for smiling n being easy going. I dont usually lose it so easily, but she really worked soo hard on it..monthss. Why can't people just be happy n let everyone else be?
