I'm not going to change diapers he said!!

[optimist]

sister if i was at this man's place and you are talking to me in this way..i would have told you i dont want to marry you. you are blowing things out of proportions and i am afraid you could be a good wife!

 

[celina]

I would not say such a thing if i was in a similar position. I feel its immature to talk about such a thing in the first place!

Im just grateful to Allah SWT for letting me see the light of day the next morning. Whats the point of thinking 5/10 years ahead? How do you know what the future holds? Who's to say you are going to have a child in the first place?

I know i may sound harsh but i feel this thread is a total joke. Sorry

A sister has rejected a proposal due to some diaper/nappy thing, Im just trying to tell her that there are more important things to worry and to be grateful in to Allah. sometimes little things have meaning to. Yes we don't know what is going to happen in the future lets be positive, all women (well most I would assume would like to be mothers one day InshallAllah). This thread is not a joke it makes people learn and realise a lot of things.

 

[Ali_008]

^^ There's no need for any of us to get into an argument regarding this subject. As long as both the husband and wife are Momins then there can't be a problem. Like Rasoolullah (SallAllahu Alayhi Wasallam) said : "A momin husband should not hate his momin wife. If he hates something in her then there will be something in her that will be pleasing to him."

 

[celina]

^^ There's no need for any of us to get into an argument regarding this subject. As long as both the husband and wife are Momins then there can't be a problem.

Lets just pray that every one finds a good husband/wife. Ameen.

 

[Ali_008]

^^ Summa Ameen

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

I agree..people have different concerns...as it does help to vent it out and seek advice. Better than not discussing it and to sit in total ignorance about a subject. That's not what we should be doing. And yes you do learn a thing or two from different situations, hence that would be how even scholars could address people in general...Allahu Mustaan. Let's not be harsh ok InshaAllah. If people have concerns or issues, let them seek advice. Thats why they come here and why we even have this section.

 

[transition?]

Nobody is perfect. Instead of looking for a man with the ability to do certain specific chores. Is he truly proud? Look for the trait of compromise and mercy and thoughtfulness. Sometimes people's hearts might bigger than their mouths. ;D

I've never met a person who actually liked changing diapers. ;D But I've met tons of uncles and cousins, who are thoughtful of their wife's duties and stress, they help out, even when they change diapees lol.

I don't think you're entirely rejecting him because of the diaper thing. I think you see that he might be a proud individual and not as soft hearted.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

I don't think you're entirely rejecting him because of the diaper thing. I think you see that he might be a proud individual and not as soft hearted.

im with that...

 

[The_Prince]

Theres this guy i'm planning to marry InshaAllah (OR NOT) after what happened. I always had high standards of what i want ina potential hubby. He had them all, everything got the whole package goin on mashaAllah. Yesterday i gave him a question about babies his view 'man changing babies diapers'? he tells me ''thats your job''

The arrogance of it all makes me filled me with rage. Right at that I told him straight up ''i'm not going to marry you, u obviously wont make a good father''

He bagan apologizing, ''im not a father what u expect, am I suppose to bond with an imaginary baby that doesnt even exist'' when I have my own baby ofcourse i will change its diapers '' But ''you will be changing them ''most'' of the time, (he adds)''. I never said I wouldnt change them most of the time, why is he so worried already?

When we were talking about children he told me that he wants 8 children:muddlehea. I do love children but 8 c'mon. I want just 2/...max 4, but then he says ''they will need two other friends and so on:exhausted WTH.

My father is a man I truly respect he use to help my mom lots when she had us and still does. I truly have feelings for this guy, but I cant afford to make a big mistake with my life. Though he reasures me that hes no chauvinistic that the baby diaper thing was not intentional, itss till buggin me.

erm telling a man who has so many good qualities you wont marry him over diapers shows that your the one with issues here, not him.