I'm widrawing from life

[ahmed_indian]

may Allah help you brother. its a great thing that u no longer care for this world but Allah's pleasure and His paradise,

but is it possible to make some frnds in masjid? maybe it can help u.

 

[ducki]

If Allah helps you, none can overcome you; and if He forsakes you, who is there after Him that can help you? And in Allah (Alone) let believers put their trust.

 

[Sister_22013]

Brother, try your best to go out, is there anyone you can spend time with? Friends or maybe relative?

Trust me, staying locked up in your room is not healthy. You will lose interest in the outside world (which you stated you already have) not to mention social anxiety is no fun, it will take over your life. Try to get out and walk to a park or something, but don't do it alone, do it with someone else, it will make a big difference.

Other than that, praying, making dua alone is nice. Make dua that Allah make it easy for you and also that he increases the iman, health and well being of your family. Make this prayer especially during azan or when it is raining as this is the time when duas are not rejected. InshAllah, I will keep you in my duas.

 

[Son Of Wisdom]

Brother, try your best to go out, is there anyone you can spend time with? Friends or maybe relative?

Trust me, staying locked up in your room is not healthy. You will lose interest in the outside world (which you stated you already have) not to mention social anxiety is no fun, it will take over your life. Try to get out and walk to a park or something, but don't do it alone, do it with someone else, it will make a big difference.

Other than that, praying, making dua alone is nice. Make dua that Allah make it easy for you and also that he increases the iman, health and well being of your family. Make this prayer especially during azan or when it is raining as this is the time when duas are not rejected. InshAllah, I will keep you in my duas.

Yes brother it is now very hard for me to go out alone. i definitely need someone to encourage me going out ..but as i said i'm lonely. we live now in a new town (since 2000). my other brothers and sisters live in other cities/countries . our relatives are all in other cities. I'm now only with my dad and Mother. but as i said they are themselves ill and they can't support me to overcome this sharp social anxiety problem.
I'll need to try find new friends by myself which will be very painful in my case now.. i really don't know how i can solve this . I only pray Allah . i don't want to stay in this isolation but what can i do ? it's beyond my capabilities all this stuff. There was no one in this town who offered to help me and i refused ..they all don't care for us .we are strangers in this town and people in general don't care for strangers..that's what made the situation more complicated..

 

[Tony]

Brother if your near me I will come visit or meet you if you feel up to it. I live in west yorkshire. If theres anyway i can help let me know

 

[celina]

Yes brother it is now very hard for me to go out alone. i definitely need someone to encourage me going out ..but as i said i'm lonely. we live now in a new town (since 2000). my other brothers and sisters live in other cities/countries . our relatives are all in other cities. I'm now only with my dad and Mother. but as i said they are themselves ill and they can't support me to overcome this sharp social anxiety problem.
I'll need to try find new friends by myself which will be very painful in my case now.. i really don't know how i can solve this . I only pray Allah . i don't want to stay in this isolation but what can i do ? it's beyond my capabilities all this stuff. There was no one in this town who offered to help me and i refused ..they all don't care for us .we are strangers in this town and people in general don't care for strangers..that's what made the situation more complicated..

Brother I have experienced similar problems to you, infacts I have been suffering for a while now, the only difference is that I go out and have a job but as soon as I come home they start again etc. You must trust yourself and others who are willing to help you.

 

[Son Of Wisdom]

Brother if your near me I will come visit or meet you if you feel up to it. I live in west yorkshire. If theres anyway i can help let me know

Jazak Allah kheir brother. unfortunately I don't live in England!
However it's really Good to see how people very far away from you are willing to help whether your neighbor just beside you don't ever knock to your door to ask if you feel ok !
is it how the Islamic societies supposed to be?! i just really hate people of this town ! i can't help it sorry.

 

[Alphadude]

brother i know how you feel and i have the same problem being around people i dont like being around people i feel ok when im alone but i dont have a choice i have to get out and and go to work and for the friends i end up always the same way as u do with stupid people so right know i dont have any friends all my life all of my friends and every 1 else was making fun of me and lots of other things and i tought they were my friends, but know when i look at some 1 i can tell what they are thinking and what type of a person they are i cant explain how but i can tell, you may find friends here they maybe living next door lol, btw were do you live brother?

 

[AsMay]

dear Zak , your problem started the moment you started relating your life to your parents as you asked whether your problem might be genetic and this shows that your fear to have your parents illnesses made you think your ill yourself and started taking over you life !! It so nice that you are adapting to your problem but why not use this wisdom and courage to get out of it !! as a muslim you need to rrmber that god created us so we can reign earth .. Im sorry to tell you that you are wasting your life crippled by this fear ..you are fine !! the one thing you need to do is blv in yourself alot of losers are out there and they r doing nothing good to the world and even such ppl wont stay in a room you are a great person you said it yourself ...be there for your family they need you but b strong .. try at first to sit with your laptop or a book in the garden then walk the streets then one by one engage into THE REAL WORLD you need someone warm to comfort you you wont find this person when you are in your room ..you have a strength deep down of you this is only ****an trying to make you feel less about yourself and lose hope !! the one thing that makes us human invincible toward ****ans evil plans is HOPE ...live your life Zak and blv in who you are a lovely great sound person !!! may Allah b with you ..and we will always take good care of you ...

 

[syilla]

why zak? :hiding:

 

[Son Of Wisdom]

dear Zak , your problem started the moment you started relating your life to your parents as you asked whether your problem might be genetic and this shows that your fear to have your parents illnesses made you think your ill yourself and started taking over you life !! It so nice that you are adapting to your problem but why not use this wisdom and courage to get out of it !! as a muslim you need to rrmber that god created us so we can reign earth .. Im sorry to tell you that you are wasting your life crippled by this fear ..you are fine !! the one thing you need to do is blv in yourself alot of losers are out there and they r doing nothing good to the world and even such ppl wont stay in a room you are a great person you said it yourself ...be there for your family they need you but b strong .. try at first to sit with your laptop or a book in the garden then walk the streets then one by one engage into THE REAL WORLD you need someone warm to comfort you you wont find this person when you are in your room ..you have a strength deep down of you this is only ****an trying to make you feel less about yourself and lose hope !! the one thing that makes us human invincible toward ****ans evil plans is HOPE ...live your life Zak and blv in who you are a lovely great sound person !!! may Allah b with you ..and we will always take good care of you ...

Thank you sister for the good words and also for the wise advice.
Yes i do believe i could do more in this life b/c many people say to me you have some good potentials but you are suppressing them and not using them. they are absolutely right . I wish i could do more interesting and great things in my life. that's why i'm complaining here of this problem. but sister this social anxiety disorder is a horrible thing to live with. it just parallelize me and i can't escape it . i'm trying but it's beyond my will and capabilities. If i could get rid of this stupid and humiliating social anxiety illness i guess my life would be quit beautiful. but what can i do ? this is my fate . could anyone escape his fate?

BTW, who is Zak? my name is othman